Totally epic post but I really need help...

[ruthmollymummy]

First let me say I love you all! and I'll try make this as short as poss!

Have had major challenges setting up homebirth. Community midwife v anti-HB and made me feel really crap after every appointment and conversation.

So finally got it arranged - triumph. 39 weeks today. Got a phone call friday from said evil midwife to moan again and she mentioned that I had a pph after dd's birth. (which I wasn't even aware of!)

So. Go to ante-natal clinic today for check, consultant doctor is called for who tells me he wants me to be give birth in hospital in case it happens again.

I'm not anti hospital, don't really have a problem with them other than being against intervention wherever possible and would just prefer to be at home.

chances that I'll bleed to death on the way to the hospital are so small I'm ignoring them but having to transfer straight after birth would be crap. I would rather be at the hospital the whole time than have to transfer as soon as baby born.

But I'd rather do it all at home! What do I do? Dig heels in, stay at home and risk having to transfer and guffing up the whole experience or just suck it up and go have a waterbirth at hospital?

(p.s. this might be my only chance to do a homebirth cos I'm not having millions of kids and every time I get preggers there's a 50% chance that I will HAVE to give birth in hospital because of underlying antibody probs...)

THANK YOU!

"I know most women want that "perfect birth experience" I do but I'm not going to risk putting my dh and ds and myself through that possible trauma of a blue light transfer"

Most women don't choose homebirth because they want a 'perfect' birth 'experience'. They choose it because they know they're about half as likely to end up on an operating table than if they go into hospital. Every single health outcome you can think of for you you and your baby is better after homebirth: postnatal depression, breastfeeding, postnatal infection, postnatal healing....... And your baby is less likely to be born with low apgars.

Sorry to sound sniffy, but I do think it's right to be clear about the health advantages of staying at home when you're weighing up what to do - it really isn't just about having a 'nice' experience.