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Share experiences and get support around labour, birth and recovery.

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should I have a C Section? First birth was awful & I have pelvis Problems..

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jkb · 15/01/2009 20:00

I am 29 weeks & having discussions with the midwife & consultant as to what we are going to do about the birth of DD2.

My Ds birth was a nightmare... he never engaged..even when i was about 8 cm he still wasent even 1/5th engaged..no one twigged that this was due to the akward position he was in (back to back) & the fact that I have no found out that i have a misaligned pelvis,curvature of the spine & one leg longer than the other!... even at 10cm he still hadnt engaged..then when i started to push.. his heartbeat dropped to under 30 beats, i had the consultant rush in & cut me & got him out with forceps (c section wouldnt have been quick enough they said).. the cut was huge, almost into my bottom & even with that his shoulders got stuck & a second set of forceps & a hell of alot of pulling was required... I then went onto be incontinent for 3 days, couldnt even feel i needed a wee & then it just ran down my legs..got a kidney infection & had soooo much pain..to the point where I almost gave up breat feeding cos they would only let me have mild pain killers (went on to Breast feed for 2 years..& so very glad I dodnt give in)....

anyway...as you can imagine, im soooooo worried that this could happen again?? my pelivs is still misaligned,& this looks already like its bigger than my son was.... on top of all the fears of the pain etc... i am going to be so paronoid that my baby will die! I know this sounds dramitic..but if i had not been on the CTG machine, my son would have been a still born as his drop in heart rate happened so suddenly.. i will so scared & would want to have this CTG on throughout as so frightened this could happen again?

Should I have a c section?? I am now really thinking I should..I know this has risks too..but my friend has just had a very sucessful one & was in far less pain than I was after & has had no problems?

Any advice would be appreciated

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jkb · 16/01/2009 20:14

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clarabell16 · 16/01/2009 22:25

After reading your thread, i have to echo the opinion of the other posters on here. I had a similar birth experience to yours, long, hard with a lot of scariness at the end. DD got into a lot of distress after the 2 day induction, surprise!! Luckily i had an epidural in already and i had a emcs straight away. I found the recovery from the c section very hard, but i do think that was because of the very long labour beforehand, and a million interventions/drugs. I personally wouldnt have a c section again, as i feel the same about mine as you feel about your birth. But everyone i know whos had a planned section after a very traumatic birth alaways seem in favour of the section. I think only you really know what your going to feel comfortable with taking into account your back problems, and its awful for you if you go through your pregnancy nervous about whats going to happen during labour. Sounds like you have good grounds for planned section. Best of luck.

keels26 · 16/01/2009 22:45

Hi JKB, I hope you have been reassured by everyones comments, I agree, think you should have a cs. My first labour was similar to yours, babys heart rate dropped, had episiotomy and nearly had forceps but they just kind of pulled him out! Second pregnancy was induced and dd developed bradycardia because she just didnt seem to be able to get her head down. Ended up in emergency cs which was really scary and they got my baby out just in time thank god. The whole experience of nearly losing a baby again was extremerly traumatic and this time was even closer. Im not planning on having any more mostly to do with the way my labours end up, but if I did would definitely have cs. The recovery was ok and didnt have any pain at all, and the scar has healed really well. If your having a planned cs it will be much better then an emergency one and things will hopefully go ok for you. Think its safer for you and baby, especially after your last experience. Take care. xx

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jkb · 17/01/2009 18:39

Thank you all so much for your reassurance, you are all very kind to take the time to reply...
Do you have any tips/advice then for preparing for the C section & after ?
I breast fed my DS for 2 years.. do you think I will still be ok to do this with a c section as i am so keen to do this again? does your milk come in the same way after the c section?? do you know how long i would have to wait for baby to go to the breast?
Do you bleed as much?
xxx

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purplemyrtle · 17/01/2009 19:10

Hi JKB, I had an em cs with DS, and although starting breastfeeding was a little sticky, we were successful and fed for over a year. I may be having a planned one this time and am sure it will be easier, apart from anything else I doubt I'll be as exhausted! Consultant assures me it's possible to have skin to skin contact after the section all being well, and I reckon that should help with establishing feeding. I'm told you tend to bleed less in a planned section due to not being in labour. In terms of preparation the usual stuff for any birth, also making sure you can get as much help as poss afterwards so you won't have to do too much lifting etc. Best of luck!

tiggerlovestobounce · 17/01/2009 19:29

I breastfed after my sections, it was no problem at all. Almost as soon as I was out of theatre they had me feeding. I have heard people say that it can take longer for the milk to come through after a section, but I didnt notice any delay.
Worth getting a breastfeeding cushion so that you can use it to support the baby and protect the section scar.

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jkb · 17/01/2009 19:38

ive got a pregnancy sleep pillow,,would that surfice for feeding/protecting the scar

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tiggerlovestobounce · 17/01/2009 19:39

I think so. TBH I was cheap and just used a normal pillow , it worked fine.

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jkb · 17/01/2009 19:46

Thank you... well lets hope this is the way the consultant wants to go..cant help think that some people will judge me as a copp out? maybe I worry too much about others!!??

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tiggerlovestobounce · 17/01/2009 20:04

I've had C sections, and having one for the reasons that you are talking about isnt a cop out.
The main thing is getting a live baby, and if for you that means a c section then it isnt a cop out.
Wait and see what your consultant says. they might tell you that they think a C section is the only sensible way forward.

mumoverseas · 19/01/2009 07:06

jkb, having a CS isn't a cop op so tell anyone who says so to mind their own business. It is YOUR body and you must do what is best for you and baby.
I bf after both my last two (both CS) in fact it was only my first baby that I didn't bf and he was 'normal' delivery. sleep cushion sounds like it would be ok for feeding.
If you are planning on a CS, one word of warning. Prepare the scar area yourself (ie de-fuzz) Last time I de-fuzzed the area where the scar would be but didn't go low enough and some nasty witch/nurse attacked me with a bic razor (no soap or water) and as a result I was very sore for a while. I've known other people have the same experience so make sure you do it yourself either wax/immac/anything but nurse with bic razor! Good luck x

BoffinMum · 19/01/2009 07:24

Nobody has mentioned chiropractic/osteopathy, and optimal fetal positioning, all of which are well known for helping babies to engage properly. It's a shame you didn't get around to this last time.

That having been said, if you are genuinely frightened about what might happen, there's a lot to be said for regaining control via an elective cs IMO. But cs is major surgery and comes with its own risks.

However I think it might be possible for you to have a trial of labour first after some of the treatment and techniques mentioned above, to see if you could manage. If that didn't work, then the cs would be the way to go, but in an organised way perhaps.

wzmo · 19/01/2009 17:57

I had an emergency c section with my first and it is a scary thing to have happen the long labor and all so i can see why you are nervous, i am planning a second c section in june, and it has been a big choice to make. seeing as i did go through labor and never thought i would have a c section, it is not an easy way out. If you are very nevous then i would talk to different doctors and midwifes about it, cause going in for a major surgery may be the answer for you... but it is major the recovery and the amount of time in the hospital and on and on... just in the end having a healthy mama and baby is what it is about. That is what i am telling myself seeing as an elective c section scares me a bit! so good luck, and enjoy your pregnancy!

clarabell16 · 19/01/2009 21:52

I managed to bf after section, had difficulty in postioning, latching etc, due to a very swollen sore stomach, but i did have a complicated labour, which obviously would be different with an elective, i found the 'rugby ball' hold best if scar is in pain. I also used homeopathic remedies - arnica 200 and bellis to help recovery. And a V shaped pillow was worth the world for comfy sitting, feeding baby etc. My milk was fine after section, loads!! I bled for about two weeks after and very light sorry tmi. I waited round for 40 mins for docs to stitch me back up before i could bf, i think it does take them that long whether elective or emergency. But once in recovery had lots of skin to skin and bf fine. Dont feel a copp out, anyway a woman choses to give birth is not easy, there is still recovery involved, and a c sections is longer, so its definatley not a copp out!! Best of luck x

Peta100 · 20/01/2009 18:09

I begged the consultants for a c-section when ds hadn't engaged by 40 weeks (he was like yours not even 1/5) cos i knew there would be problems.... anyway to make a long story short he was finally born via emergency section healthy and well. I know the recovery time is much longer than the natural births but i forced myself to try get up the following day and things just got better from there. It took 5 days for my milk to come in tho! Good luck, ask for the c-section and im sure u'll be absolutely fine this time round.

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