Why did you have an elective c/s???

[trixiethepixie]

Can we please dispell the myth that's it's 'too posh to push'??

Mine was counted as an elective c/s as I wasn't in labour, but ds had to get out at that stage because he wasn't growing and I had high blood pressure. Still I get the raised eyebrows when people find out and didn't go through labour as if "you're one of those ones"

Victoria Beckham, Jordan et al have given elective c-s a bad name (cos they can get their sneaky tummy tucks while they're at it)

In my experience most women wouldn't choose to have a c/s beause of the procedure and recovery so why did you have yours?

Def made up for it. Ws so small he made me cry

He's on the 50th centile now (not that I belive in that sorta shit)

Glad he's doing well! Mine got on the bathroom scales today and is still only 26lbs - strong as an ox though!

I had an 'elective' nearly 2 years ago. I have a third degree prolpase due to the vaginal delivery of DD 6.5 years ago. I chose to have an 'elective' CS, so that my internal fanny organs didn't end up around my knees.

i had two elective c-sections cause that is what fitted in best for our family situation. I really did not have a true medical reason for it although I did for dd1's emergency c-section. For dd2 and 3 it was just easier for our family.

Oh yes - I was more than happy to have another elective c-section when it came to dd3.

Dd1 - iugr and other issues - had to be born. Went from having an ultrasound to having a c-section.

dd2 - just easier for childcare to be able to schedule the c-section.

dd3 - same thing - much easier for our family to have the c-section and know the dds were sorted. Although they did tell me that after 2 - it was strongly suggested that I have a c-section.

No2 and 3 were electives in that I chose to have them.

I don't understand that madamdeathstare. How can you be more scared of labour pains than infection, MRSA etc etc.

That's the way my dp looks at it. 1oo years both me and my ds would have been dead - sobering thought.

I DID the labour pain and it is nothing to be afraid of. But if I was to have a second child I would never consent to go though a VBAC under the same circumstance.

I was pissed off that at one point I HAD to have a CS and no one talks about the risks. Then all of a sudden I have to have a normal birth because CSs are more risky, then i end up having to have a GA and miss the birth of my only child. I know what I would want to do givem hindsight.

That's the thing thst annoyed me port was that I wasn't "there" for the birth. I Just remember this tiny blue thing being passed over me and then they filled me full of sedatives

I spent two months in the antenatal ward before ds was born. Labour pain sounds like hell but I think I'd prefer that.

didn't really have any choice first time, I was told a VBAC was out of the question and even though I was crying in surgery they still did it.
Second time around DS2 was ok but there were problems with my placental blood flow, I was 41 weeks and worried.

I just DON't believe the tummy tuck thing. I was told at a scan tat I had a cyst and when I asked if maybe they could remove it at same time as my elective c-sect (due to both twins being breech) I was told in no uncertain terms that no it was waaaay too risky, no way would they ever do a separate op at same time due to riskof blood loss etc ect. Admittedly I was an NHS patient rather than private but even so I just don't think if I'd offred a million pounds they'd have done it.

Went for Elective CS for 2 reasons:

1. It allowed us to plan the event with regard to looking after our animals. An unplanned delivery would have a been a hassle with all the horses to look after.

1. A lot of our friends had just previously ended up having emergency C-Sections which sounded awful and scary.

For us everything went great. Went into (local state) hospital at 7am on a Friday. Went into theatre at 9am and had DD at 9.20am. Went home on Monday lunch and no problems afterwards.

I've been a bit upset that I will probably have to have another CS, emcs with DD and probably elective for this one as the same factors appear to be reoccuring.

But then I realised it has very little difference to the baby the way it is born. If you breast or bottle feed can have a long term impact on health but not how its born.

I will never experience a VB, but there are lots of other things I will never experience either. One SIL goes on about how empowering it is to give birth naturally to me all the time . Well me and my DD would have died without a CS and probably the same would happen again this time.

Yes Trixie I would do it again! As I said I have had hospital, home and c/s and I loved my c/s birth. If I ever get around to number 4 I wont hesitate and I will have to bite my tongue very hard not to recommend it to my daughters if/when their time comes.

Before anyone flames me obviously I wont try to influence their birth choices, I've made my own decisions throughout and they will do likewise.

I think the whole Jordan/Posh "too posh to push"/tummy tuck claptrap is just a Daily Mail rumour. After all, it's a National Pasttime to knock women in the public eye, especially if they've given birth and a) dared to have a caesarean, b) fit into their jeans six weeks later. It's such a double-standard as if they're photographed a few months later carrying a few extra lbs of baby weight (a la Charlotte Church) they're accused of being "chunky". And we wonder that Kate Winslett was so scared of the backlash that she lied about her first caesarean. Poor girl.

As far as I know, VB had a c-section for her first child as he was breech and Jordan had a c-section for her second child (after vaginally delivering her first) also because of breech presentation. Not that it's any of my bl*ody business, but I thought I'd clear up the myth. Equally, they haven't had a tummy tuck as a tummy tuck leaves you with hip to hip scarring which neither of
them have.

No one has to justify their choice of birth to me. I personally think c sections are a grim necessity. They bloody hurt but are often life-saving (in my case - I had placenta praevia) and there are a variety of reasons why women have them. Almost always as a necessity but usually on the firm advice of a consultant. Sure, a vaginal breech delivery is possible but it carries an increase risk (my SIL was told a 1 in 100 chance of infant mortality, which was too high a risk for her) so I understand the logic in accepting the lesser risk of a caesarean.

I'm personally of the view that it's a myth that anyone choses it as an "easier option" or because they want to remain "honeymoon fresh" (delightful phrase!). That's usually bandied about as a subtle stick to beat us with. For those of us that are presented with a choice about whether to elect for a caesarean or not I would imagine it's a question of carefully weighing up the pros and cons and making a balanced decision based upon what is best. Nothing is perfect, but anything that offers a good starting point to motherhood seems to be the a winning idea.

Totally agree with kitstwins

Can we also just clear up this thing about the term 'elective' it just neans the date is booked. It doesn't mean 'because the mummy wanted it'. I've had an emcs, and elcs and an unplanned cs. Didn't particularly want any of them, cried heartily all three times. But there you go.

Elective no.1 (for my son, 3 yrs ago). Had a failed induction - prostin pessaries administered over a 5 day period, I didn't even dilate a centimetre I don't think, and eventually they booked me in for a section.

This time round - had planned a VBAC all along, but have multiple health problems (very bad SPD, huge Bartholin's cyst, obstetric cholestasis...oh joy of joys!) and have lost my bottle, so have elected for a section at 39 weeks.

In a perfect world, I would have loved to deliver my children vaginally, but such is life.

I have never had raised eyebrows. If I did - well it would say more about the person raising their eyebrows.

Anyway, to answer your question - I have a spinal condition.

Oh, it is not noticeable by the way.

I've just been granted a planned CS on psychological grounds
(DH and I both grew up in severe SN families due to botched VBs - sadly no sunshine stories).

MW was brilliant at booking appt. and said I'm def. not a good candidate for VB.
But it took a lot of arguing with the consultant - had to demonstrate we are aware of the CS risks, that there are no guarantees against disability at any stage in life (we know!) and that our fear is 'irrational' (sure it is - but that doesn't make our anxiety levels any less extreme).
In the end I think consultant only agreed because it's already been a pretty stressful PG due to other complications and he didn't want to 'fight' me.

The relief we feel now is unspeakable.

I chose a C/S for my DD after an emergency c/s with DS. Absolutley no rerets at all.
I was lucky the emergency one, was really just a huge relief after the hours and hours of no progress labour. The second one was easier than root canal. Very quick recovery from both - i am grateful i was so lucky both times

I am having an elective c-section and it is the only way I would have my baby. my thread caused lots of controversy - couldn't believe how strongly people felt against my decision which I have not taken lightly but is something I feel very strong about and have done for decades.
I am just replied to a old question on my thread so it is higher up in the question order although old. Is begins with "c-section a must" I believe if you wanted to look fully at my reasons.