Partner unwell day before c section

[Danii2024]

I have a planned c section booked for tomorrow. My partner started vomiting in the night last night (about 4 times) he hasn't vomited since the early hours and is keeping down food/drink, just has some body aches and very tired. Does this sound like a virus or food poisoning? as I'm assuming if its a virus he won't be able to be there when baby is born as it won't quite have been 48 hours since he was last sick. But if its food poisoning and he feels ok he will be able to come. What are peoples thoughts I'm so stressed 😭😭😭 what would people do in this situation? My section isn't until the afternoon so does give it a bit more time.

I would also let hospital know that your DH had been vomiting so you might be harbouring a bug

Is this your first birth? First c-section?

if answer is yes to both- I would say try to take someone with you instead of OP , someone you trust to look after YOUR interests. Frankly some partners are pretty lousy during births 😱🤣🤦‍♀️, so don’t aim for the perfect person, just someone who will be able to talk with you before and then follow your wishes when it happens as best they can. Appreciate it is short notice.

id be concerned about what happens before actual surgery, and what happens after, more than surgery itself. The before bit is the getting you there, sorting your room and stuff put, trying to put you at ease while waiting for hours, and then reassuring you during spinal injection and then block. Once that’s done and you into theatre they’ll be spare part anyway. and frankly you’ll be listening more to nurse and anesthetist at your “head” anyway - they’re usually lovely and calming and you won’t miss op . After then it’s where you’d want someone if it’s first time for any of it- someone to help hold baby while you’re positioning yourself, someone to ask for blankets if you get cold and shakes, someone to make sure you get food and drinks and painkillers regularly, someone to support you in ensuring you get help to breastfeed if needed etc etc. I know CS mums are thrown out of hospital quickly, but it can be lonely and exhausting while you’re there as first night (especially if later on list) you’ll struggling to get out of bed and lift up baby if it needs something.

So, if a newbie, I would absolutely try to find a substitute perosnal to do that if at all possible. If not, get op to call in a lot so he can check up and fight your corner remotely if needed.

if you’ve done it before, then you do know score. You have that wisdom. You can do it alone if needed. Knowledge removes fear, and you do know what to expect form the process, your body’s response to it, and what to do with that little thing when it turns up!

what a bloody nuisance and dissapointment for you. It’s bound to make you feel anxious … best of luck

Food poisoning can still be passed from person to person.

Yep, with luck they might put you in a single room if available…and that certainly will take edge off him not being there in terms of being able to sleep better, and not be subject to the hell maternity wards appear to be now that visitors seem to be completely unrestricted.

It's my second, thank you so much for your advice and reassurance though. I suppose by the following day it would have been long enough for him to come and stay if they keep me in too. Thank you for your reply, means a lot x

No, not necessarily. It can be short lived. And food poisoning can be contagious to other people anyway. I don't think he can be with you unless he's 48 hours free of D&V.

DGS had a vomiting bug last week. He was sick all morning Monday then perked up, then he had the runs all day Tuesday. He subsequently vomited once or twice during the night, every night, until Friday night, so I wouldn’t count your chickens just yet.

Good luck with your C-section. I hope it goes well for you.

You seem worryingly like you want to chance it. I have just gotten over something similar and I give myself extra days to get over it before going near anyone vulnerable. The idea that 36 hours rather than 48 'will do', is crazy to me as I'd need 72 at least for my own peace of mind I think.

Can you push it back a day or two at all? I would really want to make sure I am not sick as well.

Thanks all, I've just contacted the hospital directly for advice and they have said providing he isn't sick again before tomorrow he is fine to be there 😊

ETA - should have read your latest update, glad to hear that! Wishing you a lovely section!

Ah OP that’s so shit. My c section was like 49 hours after DH puked so I know how you’re feeling. Ugh! Have you told MW or anyone? DH ate loads of bananas to block him up and it worked! Just saying…… As I say though we were just in the right time frame though. Had Covid 3 weeks before (2 weeks would have meant he wasn’t allowed to be there too in those days!). STRESS!

Oh that's awful - does he have dreadful pain - if so likely to be food poisoning - otherwise a virus