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Pooing in labour

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shalaa · 08/12/2004 16:14

Please tell me i'm not the only one with a fear of pushing really hard and delivering something other than a baby

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mears · 09/12/2004 17:22

I never told you that I was a bit concerned about pooing in labour so I gave myself a small enema each time. Is not actually needed but I felt happier.

I absolutely loved my labours and didn't feel at all embarrassed. I would love to do it again. A wonderful experience .

Not everyone shares my view and I certainly agree that those women who do not have confidence in themselves should choose how to deliver. C/S is definately the right decision for you Aloha

noddyholder · 09/12/2004 17:40

I can understand the embaressment factor to a point but a caeserian to avoid it?Surely not!

DoesntChristmasDragOn · 09/12/2004 17:43

I'm sure it happened to me with DS2 and I do care but because I didn't see it, didn't feel it and no one mentioned it, it didn't happen.

DelGirlsRingAreYouListening · 09/12/2004 17:52

This is one of my concerns. Don't they offer enema's any more? I was asked by my m/w who is going to be my birth partner and i'm hoping it will be my sis but she lives 2 hours away. Close friends (no kids) aren't that keen. Can't say I am really that keen either tbh, especially if it hums ! Told the m/w that I think i'd be better on my own but she doesn't think so as it's such an emotional time. Just have to hope my sis makes it in time.

DelGirlsRingAreYouListening · 09/12/2004 17:55

totally embarrassing question Mears but in keeping with the thread, can one use a glycerin supp or similar before hand when contractions start or is there a risk that you might have to strong an urge to push too soon if that makes sense

aloha · 09/12/2004 17:56

Noddyholder, I suppose it depends if you think a cs is frightening...I've had one and didn't think so before and certainly didn't think so afterwards. Giving birth however, seems utterly terrifying!

moondog · 09/12/2004 17:59

Delgirls, I had my 2nd baby alone as my husband couldn't make it home in time. My sister and my mother offered to come but I declined. In fact I was quite happy to be reading the 'Saturday Telegraph' in the birthing pool in peace! (Have absolutely no idea if I had a crap or not-too busy thinking of getting the baby out!!)

aloha · 09/12/2004 18:00

When I read someone saying they enjoyed giving birth it just seems so incredibly alien to me - it's like reading someone saying, I really enjoyed my car accident, or I really enjoyed my third degree burns. I just clearly don't 'get it'! My loss, I'm sure.

DelGirlsRingAreYouListening · 09/12/2004 18:04

I think I would be ok, but actually the thought of having dh's baby and him not being here anymore will be more than overwhelming so hopefully I won't be on my own , I just think the actual getting down to labour and dealing with the pain etc, i'd be less of a wimp on my own dykwim?

DoesntChristmasDragOn · 09/12/2004 18:09

Ah, but Aloha, I can't imagine anyone finding a c-setion at all enjoyable. Kind of like "Oh,I really enjoyed my major surgery"

Mind you, I wouldn't say I enjoyed either of my labours either :o

moondog · 09/12/2004 18:09

Sorry, not sure of your circumstances, but yes if your dh not going to be around (for whatever reason)then that could be very different. I knew that mine was on his way, so wasn't too bothered!
I did find myself dealing with it better on my own tbh (but maybe that was because it was No. 2?)
I think a supportive woman would be an excellent idea. You don't have to focus in on the action if you don't want to, whatever is happening down there. My dh didn't apart from a brief glance.

I have read that recent research suggests that contrary to current opinion, women may be better off labouring without their dh/dd. Mears will probably know about this. Sorry-veering off topic I know, just wanted to acknowledge what you said.

DelGirlsRingAreYouListening · 09/12/2004 18:13

thanks moondog and not wishing to hijack this thread but i'm widowed. If dh was still alive but just not able to make it then it would be different I think. Thanks for your thoughts

Mears/anyone, would still like to know about the supps

aloha · 09/12/2004 18:14

I did enjoy it actually! A nice lie down, friendly medics, no pain or discomfort at all, and within ten minutes I had my lovely baby boy. Very jolly really. Of course there was all sorts of medical mayhem going on, but was unable to see it or feel it so to me it was just a chance to lie down with my new son. It really felt nothing like major surgery. All over SO quickly!
I know, not everyone's choice, but it is possible to enjoy a section.

morningpaper · 09/12/2004 18:14

Shaala: I think most DH's stay WELL away from the business end tbh.

Delgirls: My hospital didn't do enemas - I asked beforehand. Serves them right that I pushed out a 9lb turd IMO.

DelGirlsRingAreYouListening · 09/12/2004 18:16

rofl morningpaper

aloha · 09/12/2004 18:16

Sorry about your situation Delgirl.
Kateandthegirls is someone who had her second child after being widowed. I'm not sure what she did. Would a doula be a good choice for you? I'm sure your sister will make it on time. Just let her know good and early.

DelGirlsRingAreYouListening · 09/12/2004 18:17

thanks aloha, do you know I never thought to ask her, KATG that is, thanks.

moondog · 09/12/2004 18:17

Oh Delgirls I didn't know!!
I'm so terribly sorry if my tone sounded arch.
I know that your new baby keeps the memories of your dh alive for ever. How tragic but how exciting for you as well! I think you really need your sister with you in that case.

The very very very best to you.

XXXXXXXX

DelGirlsRingAreYouListening · 09/12/2004 18:20

moondog, no apologies please, how could you know, just grateful for your thoughts, thanks. sorry sorry sorry to Shalaa for hijacking but I would still like to know about enema's if that let's me off the hook

heymissytoe · 09/12/2004 18:46

Didn't get to worry about pooing in labour had an emergency c-sect at 33 weeks. It was over very quickly and went well but during the night I haemorraged a lot of blood - knew something was not write and n top of that I wanted to go to the loo for a poo- but midwives would not let me leave the bed and offered a bed pan - 0h the horror - imagine. I declined and with that offer the urge to poo promptly disappeared then I got worse - went into shock blah blah and the consultants said the best way to stop the bleeding was to administer and a certain drug as a suppository - all my nightmares rolled into one - but they did it and I didn't feel anything and it worked - bit off the subject but still involves poo and labour. Though the thing I hated most about the c-sect despite the discomfort of the cut was the constipation - days of it - rotten absolutely rotten!!! Far too much info but I feel better for it

gish · 09/12/2004 18:49

Hi Delgirls, most of the time the body will naturally empty itself in pre-labour. I had thought enemas bit old fashioned but by the look of this thread some places will still practice.

If you look \link{www.doula.org.uk\here} you will find out more about doulas and who/how many threre are in your area.

SantaFio2 · 09/12/2004 18:50

you empty your bowels naturally when you go into labour (well when you start iykwim) so there isnt much left by the time you get to pushing, IME

i enjoyed my c-section too, whilst my spinal was still working - then i felt like I had been run over by a bus

heymissytoe · 09/12/2004 18:57

knew something was not right!! (write )

LIZS · 10/12/2004 08:51

I can understand the preference for csection in many respects, not least of the worry about pooing, losing control etc However don't you also as a result of the spinal or epidural have drips and a catheter which personally I'd find rather more awkward and embarrassing to deal with on top of things like the post partum bleeding.

bloss · 10/12/2004 09:47

Personally I didn't have a catheter after my c/sections and the drip came out very soon after. I remember walking gingerly to the loo about 8 hours after the op with no tubes or anything. A catheter takes about 10 seconds to put in with a skilled mw and it goes in when they're checking you down there anyway. There are definite modesty advantages to a c/s!!

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