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Share experiences and get support around labour, birth and recovery.

Birth photography?

45 replies

PumpkinsMum18 · 12/11/2022 13:42

I was speaking with a friend recently who wants to get into birth photography. She was saying how she is finding it difficult to find clients or ‘team up’ with doulas or midwives. We discussed about how birth photography is popular in other countries, so maybe it’s a cultural thing that it’s not a priority with mums here.

I had a home birth recently and it didn’t occur to me to hire a doula or a photographer. If I did, I wouldn’t know when I would look back at the photos, or who I would show them to.

Just curious what others think? Would you hire a birth photographer if you had the opportunity?

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Kerzehmet · 12/11/2022 19:16

I'm not sure. On the one hand, Jesus, absolutely not.

On the other, I don't know. The birth of my first was fantastic, a textbook water birth, and I was so hopelessly in love with him I'd love to look back and enjoy the photos.

My second. He was born asleep at 22 weeks. All I have are a few photos and his hand and footprints. I would have signed up to one born every minute to have his birth recorded and out there in the world.

My third. EMCS following a ruptured placenta praevia. The terror of it all has made me forget a lot of it. So id quite like to have something to look back on too.

So over all maybe I wouldn't mind it, but it's the kind of thing you think about in retrospect rather than at the time.
And I certainly wouldn't share any of them on social media.

ofwarren · 12/11/2022 19:19

Not a chance in hell

dollyblack · 12/11/2022 19:34

No way! It was bad enough when the bloody Bounty Photographer used to cone round the wards and guilt trip you in to photos then try to flog them to you.

DancingRabbit · 12/11/2022 20:00

Would I hire one, absolutely not. But it's just not something I want.

I'd actually be okay with the pictures being taken though, so long as they were anonomous. E.g. for educational purposes of whatever. So long as I don't have to look at them. Also okay with a bunch of students in the room though.

LivingOnAPrayerYes · 20/11/2022 22:05

I'm a photographer (not birth! ) and I'm in a few groups with birth photographers and they are absolutely amazing. They charge a lot because they have to be on call and can be there not just for hours, but days. They can't have other work booked in around their clients' due dates.

I only know of a few in the UK, but it takes a very specific person to make it successful- the ability to be on call, the skill of low-light photography and the creative side.

I got my husband to take a photo of me during labour in the pool with my first and I took a selfie in the back of the car an hour before my 2nd was born. I absolutely treasure those photos as a record of my exoerience but I have never shared them with anyone, so it's often really not about it being the 'insta culture' of sharing every aspect of your life (of course it will be to a few people). It's about documenting one of the most amazing, transformational, emotional, tough, monumental moments of your entire life. Often at a time when your memories will be sketchy through pain and drugs. The beautiful photos that I've seen shared in groups usually show the raw emotions and strength of the woman, the love and support of those around her and the very first seconds of life- its just amazing. A good birth photographer captures all of that with dignity and with barely being noticed.

About your friend- I think it will definitely be hard to get into in the UK, but not impossible. If she's a skilled photographer in the first place and has the flexibility to be on call for clients, then there's no reason she can't give it a go. Like most areas of photography, she'll need to build a portfolio first, which often means working for little money. She'd probably then need to share the hell out of her photos on Instagram and work on her SEO so that the small pool of potential clients could find her. Joining Facebook groups for home births would be my first idea.

I think the main hurdle she'd some across would be the cost. It's not going to viable for her to charge less than £1000 as an absolute minimum. But for most people this is just not something they're willing to pay. Yes, they'd pay it for a wedding photographer where they can share the photos and hang them on the wall. But it's too much for most new parents. Unlike most of the people above, I absolutely would have had a birth photographer, except for the cost- I just wouldn't be able to justify it.

Of the photographers I know about, they often do newborn photos as well, but have to have very understanding clients and clauses in their contracts because they may just have to clear their bookings at a few hours notice.

I'll see if I can find any examples of the photos I love.

SunshineAndFizz · 20/11/2022 22:19

Good lord no.

LivingOnAPrayerYes · 20/11/2022 22:24

Photos 😍

LivingOnAPrayerYes · 20/11/2022 22:26

❤️

FightingFatAt49 · 20/11/2022 22:29

Wow @LivingOnAPrayerYes they're quite stunning in a "isn't nature amazing" / David Attenborough kind of way.
Still wouldn't be for me though.

Catsonskis · 20/11/2022 22:31

I had a ridiculously quick labour and delivery, I’d be right pissed off if I’d paid for a “photographer” (though why I would have done so in the first place is beyond me) and then them not make it to the north to even do what they were hired for!

cherrysthename · 20/11/2022 22:41

Not for me. I've got so many photos taken on my iPhone from just after/a few during and several before I'd given birth to mine. Free and no additional strangers needed in the room.

LivingOnAPrayerYes · 20/11/2022 22:46

@FightingFatAt49 absolutely. These were just a few I found in the photography groups with just a quick search with a glass of wine in hand. They're not even the ones that have made me stop scrolling over the last few year when I've been absolutely blown away. For me, as a photographer and a mother, it's both the skill of the photographers- low light, plus the split second capturing really is an amazing skill, and the moments captured- new life and women at their most vulnerable yet most powerful.

But it absolutely isn't for everyone, and as much as I would have loved it, its 100% understandable that it would be lots of women's worst nightmare. And therein lies the OP's friend's problem. Most people hire a photographer for their wedding; lots of people hire photographers for newborn, birthday and other family photo shoots; very few people would even think to hire a birth photographer.

Ironically- I HATE having my photo taken. I will never get in front of the camera without make up on (and even then it very rarely) But both times giving birth, I was asking my husband to take photos and videos, knowing I looked hideous, because I just really really wanted to be able to look back at those moments I knew I'd never get again.

Cas112 · 20/11/2022 23:17

😂my worst nightmare

thewolfandthesheep · 20/11/2022 23:29

This is art. You brings a visceral response immediately. Not for everyone.

thewolfandthesheep · 20/11/2022 23:29

*It brings

alotoftutus · 24/11/2022 22:25

My best friend is a photographer and she was going to come and photograph my birth at home. I wouldn't hire one, but would have been comfortable with her being around and not intrusive. I however forgot to call her when Labour started lol. Ive seen beautiful images - mainly of home water births to be honest, but done properly I think it could be a nice thing to have. My husband is useless at photography and has never taken a photo of me when I've just given birth which always upsets me. I would have liked to have a photographer for that reason - to capture those first few minutes. Last time my mum caught a few of my final contractions on her phone (video) watching those seconds back always amazes me, & even after doing it four times I have no idea how our bodies are actually strong enough to give birth.

Aimee0234 · 13/12/2022 07:47

I'm actually looking for a birth photographer/videographer as we speak, and I'm finding it so difficult! It would seem not many exist in Scotland, and after reading the responses to this post I can understand why 😂Apparently documenting your labour and delivery is not as popular as I assumed! To each their own I guess, I personally think its a beautiful idea!

tb4122 · 13/12/2022 10:24

I wouldn't have hired a stranger to take photos but my partner took some and I absolutely treasure them. I'm not going to display them or show them to anyone but I'm so glad I have them for myself.

If you'd asked me before the event I'd have said I absolutely don't want photos and I don't want DP to look at the business end. In the event I was too in the zone to care who was where, didn't know he was taking photos and really appreciated the encouragement of him seeing our son being born and telling me I could do it because I was doing it.

The photos are also "lives" on an iPhone so there is sound, one of them caught my first words to our son and they are just so special. But I don't think I'd hire someone to do it. A family member filmed the birth of one of theirs and had a showing of it afterwards.... now that it definitely not for me!

Aimee0234 · 13/12/2022 13:29

I definitely wouldn’t be showing it to everyone, just for myself and my wife I think. That’s a really precious moment you captured, that’s really sweet 🥺

mummyh2016 · 14/12/2022 20:43

My first birth definitely not but my second I would have loved some pictures to look back on.

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