Small frame and narrow pelvis

[charleypops]

Hi,

I am 5ft, one and a half inches tall, with size 1.5 feet (I know, I'm a freak!). And I have a very narrow pelvis which, incidently, I have been told is slightly twisted - one hip bone is about an inch higher than the other. I am 10 weeks pg with 1st. I would like to know if anyone who is a similar size has had any problems with normal delivery? I asked my doctor about the size of my pelvis and he told me not to worry, as relaxin will allow bones to separate for the birth. However, I forgot to mention to him about the twist. I will probably go back to the doc with this, although he's so busy and I don't like to bother him, (and I'm sure he'll say the same thing anyway), because I've been worrying about it. I am particularly worried because the hospital it looks like I have to go to has a really bad reputation with chronic staff shortages.

Also (sorry!), I'm on BUPA - does anyone know if BUPA would cover me if I have to have a cs? Does it cover for elective cs? I worried (again) if I ask them at this stage they will exempt me.

I'm not normally a worrier at all, honest, but I think at the moment my name should be Worrypops!

By the way, if anyone from the June thread is reading this - Hi! I'm keeping up with you all, just can't post, threads gotten too long for my darned computer again!

Charleypops, you are way ahead of me for first baby. I never thought about any of this the first time around. I just did what everyone told me to do (i.e. midwives). HEnce my new found attitude about what I will and won't put up with. Bashful I am not!

But, I want to stress that if you don't want to go to St. Peters, you have to tell your GP under NO UNCERTAIN TERMS that you absolutely are not going to St, Peters. You have to be very firm and stand your ground. If you tell him you simply don't "want" to go there, he may not take it too seriously. In this country, maternity medical care is your right, not some priviledge that the gracious NHS has gifted you with. It is your GP's job (after all your taxes are paying his salary!) to get you medical care that is acceptable to you. It is SOOOOOO not your job as a patient to accept whatever he finds easiest. If he makes you feel that you are demanding too much, then he is failing you, not the other way around.

Re the PC. Sounds like you need more RAM (i.e. memory). Perhaps a quick trip to PC world could advise you. If your PC is only 18 months old, it really should be able to handle these chat pages.

Intersting - I just posted a thread asking if anyone has a good thing to say about St Peter's. I am also supposed to be going there and I'm scared witless!

Just reiterating that 'elective' does not mean 'not medically necessary' - it merely means 'decided beforehand'. I had a great elective first time round because I had complete placenta praevia - a condition where the placenta is right over where the baby is supposed to come out. Vaginal birth could easily have killed us both! It was certainly medically necessary and it WAS covered by my private health insurance through work. I had such a great experience (no pain! no shouty midwives!) that I am having another elective this time round - this one because I want one. I no longer have health insurance, but even if I did, this cs wouldn't be covered. Read your small print, it usually states what conditions are covered by the insurance, and placenta praevia was definitely named in mine.

Just reiterating that 'elective' does not mean 'not medically necessary' - it merely means 'decided beforehand'. I had a great elective first time round because I had complete placenta praevia - a condition where the placenta is right over where the baby is supposed to come out. Vaginal birth could easily have killed us both! It was certainly medically necessary and it WAS covered by my private health insurance through work. I had such a great experience (no pain! no shouty midwives!) that I am having another elective this time round - this one because I want one. I no longer have health insurance, but even if I did, this cs wouldn't be covered. Read your small print, it usually states what conditions are covered by the insurance, and placenta praevia was definitely named in mine.

well my old boss was 5 foot 2 and a size 6 (really built like a young girl - wierd...), severe SPD (her pelvis seperated) and she had FOUR children naturally and one of them weighed 10 pounds ! So it can be done!

Why she had them naturally I couldn't tell you...

Enid, I am writhing at the very thought.

I know, its top leg-crossing territory

Congratulations Charleypops. I think when you're pregnant you worry about all sorts of things, so if it wasn't this you were worrying about, rest assured it would be something else!! I'm 5'1" with size 4.5 feet, and I've had to have 2 ceasareans because of a small pelvis. First time, they didn't tell me, and I had a lengthy old labour before they told me I wasn't progressing. I think a lot depends on the size of baby and the position. If you do end up having a ceasarean, it isn't that bad, so try to relax about this, and don't let it spoil your pregnancy.

Hello!

I have just found out this afternoon I've been accepted at Royal Surrey, and suddenly all my fears seem to have evaporated! isn't that weird!? . I feel as if I can relax now and don't have to try and do my own ante-natal care!

However I'm going to keep my appt with my gp on Friday and I'll let you know if he refers me to an obstetric physio. Although I'm not now bothered about going private, if I do have a dodgy pelvis, it can't hurt to give the medics this information when the time comes.

Thanks again for all your advice and reassurances!

(I'll copy this post to the "St Peter's" thread)

ditto - I have just heard that I have been accepted at Royal Surrey as well! Also feeling much happier.

DP very releived that I have given up on the idea of a home birth!

Interesting that there were three of us with the same concerns and trying for the same thing at the same time!

My GP this morning had said that she wan't aware of St Pter's reputation and that this was the first time she'd heard anyone raise a concern about it - rubbish!

I had a baby girl 6 months ago, and I asked for a caersarian at 6 months pregnant. I am also only small, 44 kilos, 5.2 and a half.My mom had small pelvis. The doctors were telling me that small people only produce small babies...I was 9lbs at birth!!!!Luckily my little one was only 6lbs2, but rather be safe! I got to watch them pull baby out my tummy!THE BEST!