24 hour discharge post c section

[stairway]

I know hospitals are encouraging this particularly at the moment . I’m due my third c section and would struggle being discharged so soon. Do you know if a rapid discharge is optional or if I say I need more rest they will let me stay another night?

The first two csections I was in longer and my mum was there to help me with the second one and I had no other children after the first one. I’m just worried because I really felt awful the day after my csection last time but I wasn’t forced home straight away.

I did this. Just stick to taking your pain medication and ask to be discharged with stronger painkillers just in case. I had a 2 year old at home that i was desperate to get back to and had been admitted a few nights before so just wanted my own bed at this point. I guess you can delay it?

I was discharged the following day, however the staff didn't seem to be in any rush to get rid of me and I think it was only because I kept badgering them for the discharge paperwork that I eventually went home at almost midnight. In hindsight, I wish I'd stayed another night as the car journey home was horrific, along with that night at home itself. If I'd have wanted to stay, I didn't get the impression there would have been a problem.

Op you really need to explain this to the hospital staff. One extra night won't do much good. Maybe your mum might help if you talk to her. Dh doesn't sound very caring.

I insisted on 24 hours after my 2nd emcs but they offered me the chance to stay longer at least twice. I have very easy recoveries though, plus I was mobile and not in pain. According to the consultant I saw most women either don't meet the criteria or ask for a longer stay due to lack of support/pain. Can you talk to your consultant or midwife about your concerns? How long a car journey? If the lack of support/pain doesn't sway them, you being immobilised in a car should for a period might.

I pushed for discharge 24 hours after my second c section (the midwives felt I should stay another night but I insisted I was going!) got out at 9pm that night and was re admitted 14 hours later with complications! So take it easy and stay as long as necessary

I think it’s pretty bad to hope the hospital keep you in longer, and all the costs to the nhs that entails, because you are married to someone who won’t pull his weight. Why have an another child when he won’t help care for the ones you have?

Unpopularinit thank you for you’re judgy comment. I hope you are discharged 24 hours after a major operation at some point. It’s not so much my husband but the fact that like a lot of people 24 hours is not long enough. It’s only because the postnatal ward is so grim that women agree to it.

@stairway send him a picture of your gaping wound 6hours after you peel the bandage away then he might get what you are recovering from.
I had a c section in June and was begging to be discharged but it was my first baby and husband not allowed to visit - covid I had to stay one night I am sure they will let you stay 2 nights if you feel you need to. Any other abdominal surgery I am sure people would stay in hospital longer never mind the part of looking after the baby too.
Agree your husband needs to step up in a big way
How old is your mother can she not have the vaccine ?

My mum has just had one dose so far, she might have another before my due date. Unfortunately a close family member died from covid and my parents are very paranoid now and I don’t want to stress them by asking. I’m sure it will work out and my dh will do more , I was just so ill 24 hours post c section last time.

You will definitely be allowed to stay in longer break down and cry if you need to. Even if you had the best husband in the world at home going home to 2 other kids isn't that thrilling when you are in pain and exhausted ans possibly trying to establish feeding there's no shame at all in staying 2 nights @stairway

Thanks mrssunshinexxx

I think a big part of this is your husband. If you were being discharged home to someone who was hands on, capable of looking after his children alone and understood you were recovering from surgery then you'd probably recover a lot better than if you're being left to it by yourself to look after several children and a newborn.

Certainly ask the hospital to keep you in longer if you're not ready to go home but fgs what is your DP playing at

Good luck op! I had a c section before covid (2019) and was basically booted out- thought I'd made it clear I'd stay the second night but then the night shift midwife arrived and told me I was off! I did ask if I could stay and she she basically said no. I'd settled in for the evening with pjs on and had to get up, dressed and packed, then ring DH who loaded up our sleeping toddler and came to collect me at 9pm. I was exhausted and in a lot of pain when I got home afterwards. The whole thing was ridiculous- I can only assume they'd run out of beds and needed mine.

@stairway

My mum has just had one dose so far, she might have another before my due date. Unfortunately a close family member died from covid and my parents are very paranoid now and I don’t want to stress them by asking. I’m sure it will work out and my dh will do more , I was just so ill 24 hours post c section last time.

I am so sorry, stairway, and can understand how anxious this is making you.

Your husband simply must step up, he has no choice. Talk to him about it now. I don't understand the 'cultural' business. Having a Caesarian is fairly major surgery, you cannot come home and carry on as normal. Most people can't do that straight away after a vaginal birth, never mind when they've had their abdomen cut open and stitched.

As for your mother, if you don't have Covid, she isn't going to catch it from you. If not too far away she can get cabs, sitting in the back seat; cab drivers will wear a mask, so can she. I do hope she receives her second vaccination before your baby comes and will lend a hand.

Lastly you are unbelievably brave (or foolhardy), to be having another baby after two previous C sections. I doubt many people would be prepared to go through that again, especially as you felt so ill following the last one. Please, please ensure as far as possible that you have no more pregnancies.

Good luck!

@jessstan2 I think it's upto the op how may children or caesareans she has.. you know you can have 4 on the nhs

I've had 4 c sections as can't give birth naturally. The NHS telling you can only have 4 c sections is a myth. They can tell you based on your individual circumstances what they think you should do but can't force you to give birth naturally or be sterilised. Natural birth is not advised after 2 c sections anyway. I chose to be sterilised after my last but that was my decision and was told it wasn't a necessity. OP if you need longer in hospital you can ask for longer. I always stayed 2 to 4 nights with my births as I need morphine.

mrssunshinexxx Mon 05-Apr-21 16:00:54
@jessstan2 I think it's upto the op how may children or caesareans she has.. you know you can have 4 on the nhs

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Oh yes of course it is up to the op. I am just amazed is all.