Elective caesarean

[1sttimemum21]

I'm having my first baby & considering elective caesarean, does anyone have any thoughts/advice please?

@rookgizzardpie

Let's not try scare and scare mums to be about things that simply aren't true

I’m speaking from experience

Also my experience! I found the post-natal ward experience like a conveyer belt and they weren't that fussed. Every single shift change I encountered the same problems when I buzzed for support and hours later, each time, a midwife would sheepishly tell me that they didn't realise it was me specifically that had been discussed in their briefing, due to my high level of care needed.

On one occasion I asked for my morphine several times, it never came and at shift change when I asked again, I was told it wasn't their problem because I'd asked staff on the former shift. The same midwife then told me, when I asked for help to be pulled up and my blood drain to be unhooked from the bed so I could pop to the toilet that she wouldn't be helping me as she had a bad back and then walked off. I almost wet myself because of this.

In reality, there are usually 3/4 midwives for 30 odd women.

@Chanel05
Same experience here.
In fact I could have been discharged over 24 hours earlier if it wasn't for their crap communication.
There is a complete lack of care after on the ward.

Hi OP. I am a longterm sufferer of vaginismus, a condition which makes procedures such as internal exams, smears etc extremely traumatic, very painful and often physically impossible even for seasoned medical staff to complete. When i had my first I considered an elective section but a consultant told me the best thing would be to have a low-intervention birth in the midwife led unit and just stay at home until I was far enough along not to need any cervix exams.i believed her because wanted to but in reality my baby ended up 2 weeks late, my waters broke without labour and I endured 4 days of failed induction with cervical exams every 3 hours before I had an emergency section.

I was fine (physically) and so was my baby but the experience was deeply traumatic for me. I am due my next baby and am having an electice c section. I truly would not have got pregnant again if this hadn't been an option. I wish I had been more vocal about my specific mental condition and insisted on a c section first time around.

I tell my story because I see you have a phobia of vaginal birth. Not the same phobia/condition as mine but I felt my story may still have relevance. Good luck!

I'm considering requesting an ELCS for ongoing medical problems regarding my back. If there was a guarantee that a VB would be straightforward I'd 100% just go with that. However as in real life that can't be guaranteed I am worried for my own health. CS recovery sounds painful but the alternative if the VB has complications would be far worse for me!
I'm quite worried I'll be cornered into having a VB and then having to deal with chronic back pain and potential nerve damage- bad enough with no children, but with a newborn that would be hell on earth- and I wouldn't have the funds for physio either this time!