Do I *have* to have a c section? :(

[fairysnuff]

I had a ventouse first time after 2hrs + pushing (I think I was too excited and pushed too early), but babies shoulders got stuck and the placenta had to be retrieved ( I swear he was up to his elbow) They tell me I may need a csection next time (DH makes too big babies, for my body!8llb 2oz)
The whole thing frightened the life out of DH and my mum says that there is no option, I must go for the c section.
But I really don't want one

Any advice/stories gratefully recieved

Hey, thanks for your vote of confidence Jamila!

Oh dear, so my summary was completely off
still, it opened up discussions with DH and he came on a read our comments and is now fuly behind me.
I will speak to my mum about it all and I am sure she will follow suit. Only she will tell me I am jumping the gun a little, ought I not to get pregnant first.
I think not, this has been praying on my mind since the doc told us the day after DD was born, that I would be unlikely to do it myself next time.
I tried to talk to one of the midwives about it when I had my D&C (he managed to leave some placenta behind even though he was elbow deep) But she was evasive on the whole issue only commenting that it had been traumatic. I said I felt it was more traumatic to them, than to me.
But at that point I was more worried about the D&C and my fears for being able to concieve again, so didn't discuss anything fully.

Fairy, I've planned my HWBAC and I'm not even TTC yet!

I think it is helpful to get your head in a good place before introducing the pg hormones into the mix!

You do what you need to do, grow and gain strength and self belief!

In fact, might I suggest that you don't speak to your mum about this at all...? As it is not conducive to labour and birth to have anyone around who is negative.

OK, speak to her before ttc, but if she cannot see your PoV, then leave it there and agree to disagree. And definitely do not speak to anyone negative during pg.

I hope for your sake that if she reads your research she will be supportive and know that you are making informed decisions, which may in the end involve elCS but it will be your choice for very good reasons rather than because someone thought it was a good idea according to some law of averages. You are not average, you are unique and special!

Klaw, can I email you through your website? want to ask you something(not appropriate for public discussion)
I'm going to ask lulu too
Lisa X

NO, you don't need one.

i had a forceps delivery first time round.

second time, no interventions at all and i sustained only a graze.

Jamila - yes thank you, I think its a useful link, its the first time I have seen it actually.

And no, I didnt think you were being vague at all, as HCPs its more appropriate to use terminology which is appropriate to the person we are addressing, than being all medical. Unfortunately it can make us sound a bit woolly at times (especially in the middle of the night!)

You on nights mint?
LisaX

Of course you can Lisa! Look forward to hearing from you. x

fairysnuff I am 29 weeks with ds2 atm. Ds1 was born by emergency cs after 48 hour labour, was 38 weeks and he was already 8lb 12oz (I am only 5'3). He also went back to back and I didnt get past 5cm. THere is talk of another section but I am hoping to go for VBAC and am really positive about it and having an active labour and protable monitoring. My worry of having another section is the recovery time, is a major op etc etc. Dont let your mum pressure you into how you have your baby.

email away, jamilla!

jamila - yes, night shift, but I dont mind it. Less interference from the docs and hospital politics on nights IYKWIM

Know exactly what you mean Mint, I'm a night bird myself,I used to love working them for the peace of not having to be diplomatic to (in my case) SW's and GP's
Lisa X

Hello again.
I am opening up this old the thread again cos I remembered that when the doc did my D&C he said that I had a oval(ish) shaped cervix and that this was why DD got stuck.

Will that stop me from having a natural birth??

I felt so much better after all your comments before but now I am not so sure.

Hi again twinklingfairy,

No, an oval cervix will make no difference to how you deliver whatsoever.

You got to fully dilated and therefore you know that your cervix has done it once and it will do it again!

Good luck with the trying!

oval cervix is nothing to do with shoulder dystocia, the shoulders don;t get stuck at the cervix. you dilated fully, so don;t worry about that being an issue.

good luck with TTC hope you get a BFP very soon x

Oh, I am so happy to hear that!

I have heard recently that my local hospital may be pushing for more c sections in order that they can justify another doctor I wonder if I have been caught up in that?

What would I do without MN to keep me right!?

Still haven't broached the subject, fully, with my mum (she is worried for me, either way) but DH is behind me for going for an natural birth again.
Just need to get pregnant now