If you're not allowed partners to stay overnight on the ward after a c sec....

[Bubblesbubblesmybubbles]

How do you get out of bed? DC1 he stayed and pulled me out of bed whenever i needed the loo or fancied a wander. He needed to do that the first few nights at home too.

Giving birth somewhere else this time and partners can't stay (I'm pretty upset about this - all the men on the post natal ward last time behaved faultlessly). How on earth do i get up?

Bubbles definitely take all the drugs you can you will feel better then and hopefully be able yo move around more, my hospital won't give side rooms for sections mums and even if you did husband still isn't allowed to stay the night!

Was no one else given a rope ladder type thingy tied to the end of the bed to help pull yourself up?

Admittedly, I didn't have DC with me so it was easier in that I wasn't up and down seeing to a baby, but after the first night and day I was fine with no help. Getting up off the loo was probably the hardest part 😂 Just kept topped up on painkillers and tried to stay as mobile as possible as I felt in more pain just lying/sitting still for too long.

I've had 3 sections and never needed someone e to "pull" me out of bed. Tbh that probably the worst thing someone can do for you.

You ring the buzzer and the nurses/HCAs help. They help get you out of bed and make sure you do it safely without someone pulling you and possibly causing damage because you are not in control to prevent pain.

I'll go for all the drugs this time then as long as it wont delay check out

No one showed me how to get out so he would pull me up gently.....never realised it was a bad plan and the midwives saw him do it

I had an EMCS but had no real issues getting out of bed. In fact the only times I struggled was when I had been lying immobile for long periods of time, so my tip would be to get up ASAP and keep moving around whenever you can. I was on my feet within six hours of the op. DH went home to sleep for a while and I didn't have any problems getting to DD and getting up to the loo (although producing the required amount of pee after the catheter came out was another story!!) I had to go back and forth to sterile pump parts so that was actually good for forcing me into activity.

First time I didn’t have any help. I gritted my teeth and just got on with it. Did ring buzzer a couple of times when pain relief was wearing off and I was really sore. The HCAs were pretty stroppy about helping me though.

Second time I was so out of it on the first night that they had to take the baby away and feed and settle her. It was an EMCS after a lot of other drugs and a big bleed so I was pretty out of it. I was faintly aware of a baby crying a long way away (which turned out to be right beside me!). I was ok the next couple of nights though, and was actively encouraged to buzz for midwives as they were really keen to help establish bf. The ward was much quieter with my second baby which helped loads as they were quick to respond (and actually nice to me!)

3 sections and I found that I did get help if I needed it. Before your partner goes make sure baby's cot is right next to you so that you can reach in. Also have your table set up so that you have food / drink / tissues etc right by you. That way you minimise how many times you call them.

I had my section at lunch time and wasn't allowed to get up till the next morning. So I was bed bound and catheterised the first night. Once DH was gone I had to buzz for a nurse when I needed a hand with DD.

The next morning I had the catheter removed and started moving about as much and as often as I could, potter to the loo, potter up and down the ward, every opportunity I had to get up and move I did. I took every painkiller offered to me and carried on with a pretty strict regime of them once I went home. I had no issues getting myself up after the first couple of times.

I had to lie in the bed holding my daughter from 8pm to 8am. It was so great...yeah. There were pauses when they were doing checks but apart from that zero help

I was catheterised overnight each time and not allowed out of bed the first night. Neither of mine were willing to stay in their crib so that was no problem! If I needed help, eg to change nappy, I just buzzed. I must have been lucky - I needed more help second time round but staff were brilliant, even hooked my phone charger up for me so I could reach it. Was offered tea first thing, breakfast brought to the bed, etc. It probably helped that the ward was quiet second time round.

Helped to toilet first time and then up and about same day doing things myself at a slower rate. Walked down to breakfast room but all other meals brought to room. Nurse checks ever hour. Ready to go but kept in for 8 days first one and 10 days second. Well looked after both times.

After I had my emcs they had me up and walking for a shower a couple of hours after the spinal had worn off.

We were allowed partners so thankfully he could pass me the baby if needed. But we had to go to fetch our own breakfast and drinks.

I did find getting up from lying down to be difficult, even by using the bed controls. So I tended to spend most of the day sat in my chair as it made it easier to get up and pick up the baby/go to the toilet etc.

Its amazing how different the situation is in different hospitals regarding getting you up and about. I was up literally as soon as i could last time. Staying in a chair is a great idea as that will be much easier, thank you!!

8 days post c sec still being in!?! Blimey unless they have a damn good reason I'll be out the next day

One man I had to ask three times to take him 3am video chat conversation off of the ward! The third time I was not polite 😂

It's shocking that partners/husbands are allowed to video chat from a maternity ward at any time tbh. It's a vulnerable time for mums.

Hmm hopefully your recovery will be better this time. After my c section I was getting myself out of bed the next day didn't even think to call for help! My hospital encouraged standing up right as much as possible to aid the healing. I'm sure I must have used the baby bed to pull myself up or something and lowered bed all the way down?

(I also only took ibo and para)

Great news. No men wandering around talking, snoring, farting by exhausted vulnerable women is great in my book

Try rolling onto your side and then use your arms to push yourself up as your legs swing off the bed. You're not using your stomach muscles so much then.

Our previous hospital gave men a contract to sign to basically say they will behave or get kicked out. They were all great and just tended to their partners!

I hate the idea of being without him but it is what it is.

Thank you for all the tips on rope ladders etc

I found that although I couldn't get up off the bed the first night that I could turn and dangle my legs over the side in order to lift DD out of the crib without me twisting awkwardly.

I don't remember having a problem getting to her but she was quite small at 3 kilos. Had she been a lot heavier I'm sure it would have been more of a struggle!

Ring the buzzer and wait 4 weeks for someone to come