Would they induce me for this?

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Hi I'm 29 weeks and 5 days pregnant with my first and I've honestly just had an awful pregnancy. I've had really bad spd since about 15 weeks meaning I've struggled to walk but no one will sign me off work so it's just being made worse. I've had horrendous pains constantly, multiple fears of early labour and possible preeclampsia. And I'm just so done now.
I cry most days because of how much pain I'm in, and there are 70 year olds overtaking me now - a 15 minute walk home took me over 40 minutes yesterday because of how slow I am.
Is there any chance i could be induced early does anyone think? I'm not asking to be induced now because baby still needs to grow but I'm thinking around week 36 maybe to be induced? Don't want to ask the midwife and look stupid because it isn't possible but if there is hope I'll ask her at my next appointment.

Don't use heat you need ice packs aka frozen peas!!!

I try to relax as much physically at home but unfortunately things are very stressful right now due to job losses and lots of arguments so that probably doesn't help.
You are being very helpful though and I do appreciate you taking the time to comment.
Sometimes it helps just to have a little vent and talk things through with people (even if strangers) so I really appreciate all the posters commenting on the thread. I'm still in pain but definitely not looking to go into labour earlier than I naturally do

Out of curiosity why not heat? I thought that's meant to soothe?

Because it's inflamed and cold reduces inflammation, heat can aggravate it.

I feel really thick now but thank you! I'll skip the hot water bottle tonight then and get some cold packs tomorrow to chuck in the fridge (no freezer)

Yes, 37 weeks is technically full term but between 37 and 39 weeks the lungs continue to mature and babies born in that window may need extra support to breathe until their lungs are matured. In the US apparently they refer to 37-39 weeks as ‘early term’ to make that distinction, with 39-41 weeks being full term (41+ is late term).

That makes a lot of sense thank you. I didn't want to give birth early unless necessary but I also just had such a horrible day yesterday I couldn't see how I could go any further too. I don't want to put her at risk though and so I'll stop wishing for it to be over ASAP and just be grateful she'll be healthy when she does come.
I've realised as well this thread might have been insulting to anyone who has given birth early and seen their baby struggling so if I have offended or upset anyone I'm really sorry and that wasn't my intention!

Hopefully anyone with a premature baby will have realised it was just your pain and overall fed up-ness of the whole situation.

Hopefully you feel slightly more positive today - and maybe get a freezer? If you can? I really appreciated ice towards the end of my pregnancy when dealing with heartburn.

I hope they do.
The pain is a lot worse today, I'm going to be self certifying for the next week until I can get a sick note from the doctor as I cried walking what should have been a three minute walk (it took over 3x that).
I'm looking out for a freezer just can't afford new and every one I see on Facebook is claimed before I get there. Hopefully I'll get one before the summer really hits as I've been buying slush puppies every day to try and keep me cool and hydrated.

I honestly don't understand why you haven't been signed off work. I went to docs to complain about sleeping at night due to sore hips and she signed me off for 2 weeks without me asking.
Make clear to doctor you have a physical job which you can't do and tell them you need signed off.

I don't understand it either. I hadn't even spoken about work when I went for my physio appointment and she said she didn't want to sign me off. I have to go to all appointments in my work clothes because of how much I work, if anyone ever asks about my job I say how much I love it so I can't see they'd even be getting a feeling I was trying it on for benefits (which I'm clearly not when I'm crying from walking).
Maybe where I live they just like to push people to work until breaking point

GP is ridiculous. Find a GP lady explain your pain and ask for a sick note. I had SPD in my pregnancy and my daughter was getting ready since 35 weeks (I had a scan and was told she is so low that might come anytime soon). I didn't want her to be born early and miraculously she waited to 37. It was very painful.

I had severe SPD with my third pregnancy I was on crutches at the end and in the end even the physio gave up saying the only thing that is going to help you now is giving birth
I went in for induction on my due date. The hospital was busy and because neither me or in the baby were in any danger I was bumped down the list over and over and actually ended up waiting for four days in hospital.
I had to really really fight for induction I had two younger children to look after and was in absolutely agony.
You can take codeine if things get unbearable but have to be very careful not to take it regularly as the baby can become dependant.
I think I took it three time just to get a few hours pain free and it worked brilliantly.

My spd went within a few hours of giving birth, I didn't get it with my fourth pregnancy at all but my third baby was very large which they thought probably caused it.

My gp is female, as is my physiotherapist.
Baby is quite small so I don't think it's her weight causing issues, I think it's just my body being useless

It's not baby weight it's hormones, they loosen your ligaments so you can give birth more easily but if they loosen too much then it becomes unstable which causes inflammation and the pain.

Can you change rooms at work? One of our nursery staff moved from the toddler room to the preschool room so she didn’t have to lift any of the children (the ones still in nappies have a climb up changing table) and they were old enough to understand that they have to be a but careful. She did still start her maternity leave quite early though, it’s such a physical job. I had mild PGP second time round that my midwife said was likely being caused or at least made worse by lifting my toddler.

Due to how many qualified staff members we have in the whole building it isn't really possible for me to move rooms as it would mean the qualified staff to unqualified in the baby room wouldn't be right. The older children are actually worse in a way anyway, as although they know there's a baby in there and they've been told not to jump on me they throw themselves down on my lap and try to drag me around and don't see the issue with that.
Today I tried to avoid lifting children at all costs by asking staff to help me but unfortunately it seemed like there was something in the water today and they all were throwing tantrums left right and centre, and were also lashing out at each other - especially when I was the only staff member close by so had to quickly grab them to stop them hitting/throwing toys at/pushing over another child.

No agree completely weight doesn't cause it it's hormonal and an over stretching of ligaments but carrying an almost eleven pound baby doesn't help.

And considering I've had seven pregnancies and only got it with my huge baby (others were normal weight) the weight for me was definitely a factor in causing it.

I suppose the weight of the baby could have worsened your pain because that's a lot of baby to be pressing on you 24/7 😣

Well for me I didn't get it with the nearly 11lber... 🤷🏽‍♀️ just the ones afterwards!

My last, the smallest, it started far far earlier but I knew what it was rested properly avoided things that would aggravate it and it never got as bad as with the others.

Rest, rest, go up the stairs on your bum.

I'm sorry to say I don't think you will be induced. I suffered horrendous SPD from about 22 weeks it got progressively worse, I couldn't walk without severe pain by 30 weeks and by the end.... I wasn't sleeping, I was housebound as I live in a flat (couldn't get back up stairs) it was just grim. They offered to induce me at 39 weeks as I also had a huge baby. In the end I had a planned C section.

In my experience no medical professionals took it seriously... I felt incredibly unsupported.

Really feel for you it's awful. The only thing you can do is rest. Agree with PP ice on the pelvic region. I had a lot of pain in my butt checks and lower back from the instability of my pelvis and I did find a hot water bottle on that area soothing.

I have found a newborn a breeze compared to being pregnant! Hope that's a consolation!!

OP I'm furious you've been told to keep moving and exercising. That's absolutely the wrong advice and could make you considerably worse. PP are right - your supportive tissues are overstretched from the hormones and so your body is having to support itself in all kinds of unorthodox ways with muscle and bone. It's profoundly painful and exhausting, and no amount of exercise or walking will help. It will only stretch the supportive tissues more and potentially further damage the muscles and bones.

PGP is unimaginably awful. I cried every day of my last pregnancy from 5 months, and I was only walking with a stick - other people are on crutches or in a wheelchair.

I'm 4 months post partum now and only just starting to feel 'normal' - the worst of the PGP went instantly after delivery (by section - I nearly fell asleep when the anaesthetic kicked in because it was my first pain free moment in 6 months and I was so exhausted) but I'd spent so long wearing my muscles out that my whole body was buggered. Spent a few sessions with a physio to get some exercises to rebuild strength and that's helped a lot. And I was working from home and refusing to walk further than the end of my street for three months.

Please please get signed off. If your GP or midwife thinks this is something you can walk through they're dangerously misinformed and you need new care. Seriously - it's like telling someone to walk off a fever: pointless and probably going to make things worse.

I will be pushing much harder to get signed off! I hadn't realised just how bad it could make me and now I'm furious too!
I was told by my midwife and physiotherapist that it would go once the baby is out as well. I can't believe how badly this has all gone!

Defo agree with PPs. At the end of the day you are not fit for work. End of. There is no debate to be had. Stand your ground and put yourself and the baby first!