I'm just about to embark on this. Just found out I'm pregnant following a missed miscarriage with my first earlier in the year.
I'm 39, and before we even started down this route I did acres of research on pregnancy and birth as I have a phobia of all things medical. It took me 10 years to step into a GP surgery but over the past five years with help I've been trying to learn to cope and manage the fear.
During my research it became clear to me that the information on birth and risks of both vaginal and c-section births is poor and often difficult to find. Vaginal birth info is often glossed over ("most women tear" but no easy to find/understand detail on how badly, how likely dependent on age, the long term consequences etc) for fear of scaring women it seems, and c-section data is often muddled, including emergency outcomes with electives which are clearly two very different situations. There's also a lack of information and understanding around instrumental births and long term risks of those (I for one would not consent to forceps or ventouse).
For someone like me who shakes and panics simply walking into a hospital building you'd think I'd want to avoid all medical intervention, but actually my in depth research has taught me that I want the exact opposite. I want a calm, planned, controlled (as much as is possible) birth that k can prepare for. My mental health would not cope with having to make informed decisions when I'm in extreme pain giving birth. I also want to minimise any long term issues because frankly after I've had this baby I do not want to have to go back repeatedly and be messed with because giving birth vaginally has damaged me.
I'm really hoping that they will say that if that's still what I want after I've spoken to all the people they want me to, and jumped through the hoops that my request will be granted.
Birthrights have been so helpful to me, and I'm hoping I won't need them from here on in, but if I do I know they'll be an amazing support.