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CHILD ABUSE - DO I REPORT THIS

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stressHead1979 · 13/10/2023 12:22

Hi all

over the past 2 weeks a child in my daughters year has confided in her friends and told her that her mum leaves her and her siblings alone whilst she goes out, they have took cook themselves. Always shouting, throwing objects and screaming the place down.
The child has asked her friends on multiple occasions if she can stay over at the friends house and have tea there.

Do you think I need to report this? as I don't want to cause problems etc

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itsallshite · 17/10/2023 15:09

You were right to report. I did this once Ave services told me they often collect many jigsaw pieces from many people before they have enough to make a true picture. Yours may be the first piece. The only piece. Or one in the middle, even if it's not the last.

SummerCycling · 17/10/2023 15:10

That's what I was thinking too, @MidnightOnceMore about uniformed. Some of the story has maybe got omitted and changed.

strawberryandcreams · 17/10/2023 15:13

Safeguarding just doesn't happen this way.

SummerCycling · 17/10/2023 15:15

Thank goodness it doesn't, @strawberryandcreams

LolaSmiles · 17/10/2023 15:28

It seems a bit iffy that OP has been given information about what happened in the police meeting/that the police would tell the parents everything.

I charitably assumed there's certain information missing and the main take away was that OP reported but there's no further action at this time.

viviennebastard · 17/10/2023 15:48

How would OP know anything about what the police said and if any action is or isn't taken? 🤔

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stressHead1979 · 17/10/2023 15:49

The school teacher told the parent and the parent then told parents on a whatsapp about someone reporting her. This is how I know this information

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viviennebastard · 17/10/2023 15:51

The parent would say no further action though.

As for putting it on WhatsApp... 🤦‍♂️

HercuIesMorse · 17/10/2023 15:51

Police was the wrong move here. No child is going to feel comfortable getting their mum in trouble with the police. It's intimidating at the best of times.

viviennebastard · 17/10/2023 15:52

Child has previously disclosed this though so it wouldn't wash with police. NFA my arse.

strawberryandcreams · 17/10/2023 15:53

stressHead1979 · 17/10/2023 15:49

The school teacher told the parent and the parent then told parents on a whatsapp about someone reporting her. This is how I know this information

The school teacher wouldn't be allowed to tell the parent. That would be up to the DSL. The parent may be omitting the truth here too. It's not how it works and everything will be kept on file. Keep listening and reporting where needed.

LolaSmiles · 17/10/2023 15:56

I'd be taking anything a parent said on a group WhatsApp group on this topic with a pinch of salt OP. It's one step away from having a passive aggressive status update on Facebook.

Ohwhatfuckeryisthis · 17/10/2023 16:52

If the teacher has told parent, their safeguarding has been breached. I’m thinking mum is spinning a yarn on sm. And unless it was the more useless of our county police, then doubt uniforms would go in. All a bit fishy.

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stressHead1979 · 18/10/2023 12:24

apparently this is what happened. the girls teacher phoned the mum and said that the police were asking weird questions about are you left alone etc and do you look after your siblings.

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stressHead1979 · 18/10/2023 12:24

Im annoyed because the child didnt tell the truth what she told her friends

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KissyMissy · 18/10/2023 12:25

WeighDownOnMeStayTillMorning · 13/10/2023 12:59

I would. A boy in my childs class was routinely left alone by his mother - him and his brother were 2 and 4 I think - and he was later adopted by a lovely family.

So young 😢

LolaSmiles · 18/10/2023 13:47

apparently this is what happened. the girls teacher phoned the mum and said that the police were asking weird questions about are you left alone etc and do you look after your siblings.
According to who, the child's mum?

This sounds off on so many levels.

BodegaSushi · 18/10/2023 14:22

stressHead1979 · 18/10/2023 12:24

apparently this is what happened. the girls teacher phoned the mum and said that the police were asking weird questions about are you left alone etc and do you look after your siblings.

this absolutely did not happen

stayflufft · 18/10/2023 14:26

Highly unlikely that the Police would be in uniform. They would be from the local child abuse unit - all detectives.

If you reported this to children’s service OP then there’s no way you would be entitled to feedback on your referral. Only a professional making the referral would be entitled to find out what happened.

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stressHead1979 · 19/10/2023 09:37

I spoke to crimestoppers who said that if a home address is not provided, then the police do go to the school, so this part must be corrrect.

The parent is now putting up on a whatsapp group that the school have no concerns, her daughter is happy and there are no issues.

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stressHead1979 · 19/10/2023 10:16

Just to add, the mum has said that the day that the police came to the school, she had an argument with her daughter. In the morning , her daughter got out the car and walked off to the school (not far , 5 minutes walk).
the mum said that her daughter would never say anything bad about her.

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fuckityfuckityfuckfuck · 19/10/2023 10:54

The mum is lying out of her arse but hopefully this might be a wake up call to get her shit together and step up as a parent.

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stressHead1979 · 19/10/2023 14:03

I really do hope so. I have had sleepless nights as its disgusting behavior and no child should think its normal for a mother to do such things.

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Daffodilsandtuplips · 25/01/2024 12:31

You did the right thing op, I’ve done it and don’t regret it all.

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