The 33kg combined weight only applies to seats which have an integrated harness, ie where the child is attached to the seat and the isofix attaches the seat including strapped-in-child to the car. You will never need to work this out as it's always counted into the weight limit on the harness for the seat, that's why it's not widely known.
There is no maximum for the isofix on a high back booster, all it does is stabilise the seat. The child is restrained by the adult seatbelt, which has no upper weight limit, so an isofix weight limit wouldn't make sense in that context.
In theory, you don't need to use the isofix fittings for a pure high back booster seat, as the seatbelt restrains both seat and child. But for some combination seats the manual specifies that it does need to be used. The manual for this seat which I've just got from the Graco website is a bit confusing with lots of back and forth from text to images and text in unclear order, but it says:
"The installation with ISOFIX connectors in booster mode is optional. If ISOFIX connectors are used, make sure the indicator colors on both connectors are completely green when attached to the anchor points"
The top tether is the part which is not really clear - usually in these combination type seats, you would only use the top tether when the harness is being used, and must always use it when the harness is being used. In booster mode, the tether should be detached. But the manual just opts to not mention the tether at all in the section for installation for 100-150cm. IMO this is unclear because it doesn't explicitly tell you to remove the tether, and in the general instructions for "child restraint installation" it does show how to fix the tether and states only that when the tether is not in use, it should be stowed away. It doesn't give any guidance about when it should be used or not.
Based on more explicit guidance in other seats, you don't need the tether for booster mode, and it's possible that it can impact on the performance of the seat. If you want it clearer though I would suggest writing to Graco to ask. I know some of the Joie seats do allow the top tether to be used in booster mode, which is unusual.
By the way, there is a button on the underneath of the seat near the front, which can be squeezed a bit like a recline lever and this should allow the isofix connectors to slide in and out. If it doesn't completely go in, try extending it to its maximum and then see if the isofix will rotate and slot back in the other way around, that's how our Joie booster seat works. The button should also be used to reduce any gap behind the back of the seat caused by the length of the isofix connectors.
I don't think it's true that the isofix prevents the seat moving with the child. You don't really want their pelvis moving around very much at all. Top tether might prevent the seat from moving which is my understanding of why it's usually not recommended, and why you should be careful not to "wedge" a booster seat under the car headrest. IIRC there is a very slight theoretical benefit from isofix in terms of side impact protection, but it doesn't make a huge amount of difference, and if she will be in the middle then she is not at high risk from side impacts anyway.