Please could you advise on dd’s Afro hair during lockdown

[Alakazam8]

I usually have dd’s (11) hair braided as she likes it long. Obviously at the moment hairdressers are no go but had to remove the braids she had yesterday.
I have tried looking at videos and tips elsewhere online and not managed to find a style that stays in place and looks neat and tidy for school. I haven’t managed to learn how to cornrow/canerow braid myself yet.
Im looking for a quick style, or a few that I can do in the morning before school- dd has learning difficulties so anything quick is better for her.
Can anyone give me some ideas or point me towards some really simple styles I could try for her hair, it’s just above her shoulders if that’s any help!

Alakazam8 You're welcome & glad you've found a style you both like🙂

@Alakazam8

Hi op
Their is a black mumsnet aswell,
for you to hear from people from Afro Caribbean culture on styling your daughter hair.

[quote thosetalesofunexpected]@Alakazam8

Hi op
Their is a black mumsnet aswell,
for you to hear from people from Afro Caribbean culture on styling your daughter hair.[/quote]

The OP has asked in Black Mumsnetters, if you care to look at the section this has been posted in.

From my perspective as a Black woman, Black Mumsnetters isn't a space for white (or non-Black) people to come and extract resources from Black women, however good their intentions may be, and I don't personally want to participate in that. Google and YouTube are your friend for anything non-Black or white people want to be educated on.

Non-Black and white people would do better for your Black DC by consciously going out of your way to seek information that may help them, rather than lazily asking information to come to you.

@thosetalesofunexpected There is a section for black mumsnetters which was requested by mumsnetters themselves, this one! Don’t know of anywhere else and as recommended to try this section by other posters.
I’m not getting on very well with the Shea butter. I don’t know if it sounds silly but her hair doesn’t seem to absorb it very well unfortunately, doesn’t seem to make a difference. Will try mango next...it’s a journey but I’m determined we’ll find something that works for her/us

@starseeking. I understand your point of view totally re this board.
However I have looked on you tube and google at length over a few weeks and been overwhelmed by information which is hard to pick through. I tried other boards as I was concerned about this occurring but was directed towards this one in the end.
Ordinarily I have all the advice I need from her usual hairdresser who I’ve tried to contact but can’t get hold of. I don’t feel I’ve been lazy at all by trying all sources of info currently available to me-the lazy thing to do I feel would be to give up and leave dd without the correct products and risk damaging her hair (at worst) .
I understand that you and others might not want to reply based on my ethnicity but others have been kind enough to do so and really helped her/us, which I’ve found generally to be the case when seeking information on other issues with dd.

@Alakazam8 You should be able to see that I made what I hope were some helpful suggestions earlier on this thread.

Although you started this thread, my comment about this space (Black Mumsnetters) isn't personal to you specifically, it's a general one about how Black women are continually used for the benefit of others in society.

I didn’t think it was at all and acknowledged your point. Thanks too for the earlier advice.

However as I’m raising a proud black child- at some points throughout her childhood I will need to and do seek the help of black women so dd can learn more about what it means to be a black woman. I wouldn’t presume that I would be able to give her this perspective however much I learn and I have read, watched and searched a lot. Hair care is one example of this for us. If that means I’m using black women as they have been then I am truly sorry for that.

Starseeking makes a good point. Black Women are too often seen as 'The Help' it's tiring & tiresome.

Alakazam8 I guessed you weren't Black. I don't normally reply on posts from non-Black women as there tends to be a bs agenda. You were focused on solely on wanting to manage your daughter's hair well and didn't go on about anything else alongside (as too often happens) so it felt ok to reply.

Shea Butter can be heavy on the hair

Mango Butter
www.freshskin.co.uk

Try it, you'll notice the difference.

Or just use a light coconut oil or castor oil pomade. Something like this
www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B0030F4TZO/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_awdb_imm_t1_WkGeGbWF4DPRD?psc=1&_encoding=UTF8&tag=mumsnetforu03-21

With YouTube tutorials, don't look at long ones where they do a whole bunch of talking. Pick 3 short clips (including a simple Cane Row one) that get straight to the point.

So you mean to say you asked in other sections and received no help?

There must be literally thousands of posters on mumsnet (there's plenty on here) with mixed race kids, and none of them helped you?

What's up with that?

Now I'm feeling even more that the general feeling is 'oh, that's black women's work, let them take time out of their day for this '. As though being black doesn't bring its extra work already.

Wth?

That’s true- posted on 2 boards prior to this one, no response at all!
Will write more later, home schooling today!!
Thanks again @DeeCeeCherry have ordered some mango butter, the Shea is too heavy!

As I said above I was really surprised/disappointed that no one answered my post on other threads. I just wanted a bit of advice which I got almost as soon as I posted on here. Thanks again for the advice given- I’m having a go with a new style using a video and new products this weekend so hoping I’ve found something that will work.