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Due Dec 08 -- Getting Ready for final push (in every sense!)

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Beans33 · 05/11/2008 16:28

Here's a new thread for us all lovely Dec Mums!

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Nolda · 07/11/2008 10:35

Congratulations on your last day Beans !!! Glad to hear you got on better with your midwife yesterday.

I have my 36 week midwife appointment today and have just noticed its says "record weight" on things to be done at the appointment . This is particularly worrying as my midwife made a mistake when recording my booking in weight as it was 1kg less than booking in weight when I had DD and that couldn't possibly be. Might have to refuse to get on scales .

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SummerLightning · 07/11/2008 10:42

Morning everyone.

Beans I hope you will still come on here and see us when you are on maternity leave! Hurray for last day of work! Don't see why you shouldn't ask your boss about the payrise. Did you have a performance review to go with it?

Great about scan going well Effie but sorry you are feeling rubbish. I am definitely feeling it the last few days, went out last night and my feet got swollen and itchy, and DH is still walking too fast and looking confused when I can't keep up!! Bless him.

katie fingers crossed for no early arrivals

Oli I am in same position re homebirth, have basically decided to go for it. Have same worries as you though, doesn't help that my best friend who is 3 weeks more pregnant than me is a bit negative about it and thinks it is dangerous. So I am not bothering to tell too many people in RL. Beans I too am not ruling out epidural (though I don't really like the idea of them messing around with my spine!), but am only 5 mins from hospital and can go in if necessary!

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Beans33 · 07/11/2008 10:51

Of course I will!

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emmanbump · 07/11/2008 10:59

Oh Beans lucky you and your last day. Feeling really unmotivated today but restless at the same time. Not sure if it is just tiredness at the end of the week of what.

Going to do the "tour" of the maternity unit tomorrow morning which I am looking forward.

Definitely feeing a lot heavier now and still have around 7 weeks to go before D day.

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Veggiemummy · 07/11/2008 11:02

Oli-hooray on the home birth decision, i have a friend who has twice attempted a homebirth and unfortunately twice had to be transferred but in both cases baby delivered safely. She has not been put off and is hoping for 3rd time lucky. If you compare outcomes from the days before birthing was moved to the hospitals they are actually much better than now, i think that is why the govt is trying to encourage and increase home birth rates.

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jumpjockey · 07/11/2008 11:48

darn, had written a really long reply to lots of people and the plasterer called me up "for a moment" then 20 minutes of chat about his 2 sons later (he's being paid by the hour mind you! ) I come back and the laptop has "had to close down unexpectedly" will try again!

Beans congrats on last day of work, hope your plans for first few days of ML are just lazing around and taking it easy

Oli have you seen the first time home birth thread on childbirth, it's full of really helpful advice and positive stories. Summer don't worry about friends being negative, there are so many stats that say homebirth is as safe as hospital for a normal pregnancy - plus as you say the Rosie's only round the corner if you do decide/need to go in.

nolda about being weighed - at my booking in the MW just put my weight and blood pressure as they were when I joined the practice about 3 years ago she just said "are they about the same?" because of course yes I check my bp all the time...

Effie great news about the scan, sounds like you're growing a really healthy nipper in there! Don't they go through a growth spurt in terms of length and diameter etc from about 30-35 weeks, then the rest of the weight gain is just padding really so it shouldn't mean the baby's going to be immense.

pix sounds like you had a great MW for the tour, really encouraging

oh rings - mine came off earlier this week, and now people are looking at me worriedly at work! I've had a bit of swelling of hands and feet. The thing is, for feet you're meant to simultaneously keep your knees below your hips so the baby's in the right position, but your feet above your heart to stop the swelling. Any ideas how a normal person who's not a contortionist is meant to do this?!

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EffiePerine · 07/11/2008 12:23

jj: thanks for your kind thoughts on baby weight. I thought DS was going to be a big baby and he weighed in at about 7 1/2 lbs, though he shot up the charts in teh first week or so. Anyway, I think they are less worried about big babies for us multiparas (see I know the word now!).

No idea about the feet, I have been lolling about on the sofa and putting my feet up, not to mention sleeping on my right side, and baby is still resolutely head down. I found cool foot baths with sea salt really help - you could add a few drops of lavender oil as well.

I wish I could be unmotiovated at work, but I have loads to do! Not at the moment though (am eating a well-earned sandwich).

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Beans33 · 07/11/2008 12:26

I'm just about to go off for my send-off lunch - pizza - mmmmmmmm. I fancy a la Reine with extra pepperoni and chilli oil. Delicious!

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Veggiemummy · 07/11/2008 12:34

Oli- also the MW's that attend you have to have at least 10 years experience and only have you to attend to so you are actually more closely monitored than in hospital.

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zoejeanne · 07/11/2008 13:03

beans enjoy your last afternoon, I'm really quite of you - but only 7 1/2 days left for me now, yippee!

LOL at jj's contorting, I'd love to see a heavily pregnant lady doing that!!

oli/summer I have a lot of admiration for people opting for a home birth, and if I wasn't such a wuss I'd consider it myself, so you go for it on my behalf!

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lal07 · 07/11/2008 13:13

Olipo we've decided to go for home birth too. Fingers crossed it's possible for us all. To be honest i hadn't really thought of it but midwives so enthusiastic that it makes sense. MW comes out to me once I'm in labour anyway (and then would travel to the hospital with us) so it's easy to change our minds on the day if we want. Hurrah for South London - such a different experience from last time.

Hope you're enjoying your lunch beans and that your colleagues spoil you on your last day. Have to say first Monday morning when you don't have to go to work is blissful (sorry to those of you with weeks to go).

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traceface · 07/11/2008 14:34

congratulations Beans - enjoy your maternity leave!
I've just been round to a friend's to pick up 5 bags of baby clothes that she no longer needs! It's really gorgeous stuff and made me want my baby to come now!
I too am feeling less well than I was - just really tired and a bit nauseous and I look pale (poor me!) but I guess our bellies are getting heavy and our babies are stealing our nutrients etc so I imagine it's normal!
Have started to freak out about waters breaking in public - but my friend this morning said that for most people it isn't the dramatic public event that you see on tv! Hope she's right!

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Veggiemummy · 07/11/2008 14:38

Traceface-nothing about birth resembles anything you see on telly so don't worry. I think most womens waters break when they are at the hospital in labour. Feeling really shattered still too, DS thinks all his christmas' have come at once as he has been allowed to watch DVD's most of the day, his mummy is good for nothing again today.

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traceface · 07/11/2008 15:07

Has anyone used real nappies before? I used disposables last time but am considering re-usables but am so confused! Have just been looking at a really good website called Lollipop who have advisors who can come and demonstrate the different types - don't know if that's a free service or not though. My husband is not keen - sounds like too much hard work I think! Also my friends who use re-usables have had problems with their babies having sore - even bleeding- bottoms - but maybe that's unrelated to the use of resuables! Any thoughts?

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daisydora · 07/11/2008 15:40

beans enjoy your last day! You'll love being on leave, I know I am. DH has been off this week so has really helped with DD. I've really put my feet up!

Quick question if anyone knows...my Grandad has shingles at the moment (he's had it a while and doen't appear to be clearing). Am I right in thinking it isn't contagiuos unless you touch the blisters? DD has seen him several times and has never caught chicken pox. But now with baby's arrival getting nearer I'm worried about the baby catching it? It would break his heart if he wasn't able to see/hold the baby Will it be okay for him to hold baby?

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Veggiemummy · 07/11/2008 15:56

Traceface- i used re-usables for DS and found them great, used all different sorts. DS never got any soreness or redness, but i never use any creams as i think creams can make their little bottoms more susceptible as it makes them a bit too soft, exc for barrier creams. Not sure what happened with your friends their babies may have had rashes due to teething which just happens regardless of what nappy you use for some unfortunately. not sure about the lollypop thing, there is another group called nappuccino i haven't been to one but basically it is a representative who will meet a group of would be real nappy uses in a cafe or soft play or other location and talk about nappy options. you can probably look up Nappucino on google.

It would help if your DH was into it, mine was very into it. But it really isn't hard, you do loads of washing anyway with babies as they go through clothes like nothing else. for DS' first 7.5 months we were in a tiny 1 bed flat with no dryer and it really wasn't an issue there. If you have any other questions do ask. If you just wanted to try it out but didnt want to commit to buying anything you could try a nappy service they give you a weeks worth of nappies and take them away and wash them. It is a good introduction.

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Veggiemummy · 07/11/2008 16:01

oh daisy i'm not def but i am almost certain that you can't catch anything from people with shingles, but have a look online or call your GP or NHS direct. Have you had chicken pox because your immunity will pass to the baby temporarily anyway. And sorry for your grandad shingles are horrible, worse than chicken pox. It's the reason the chicken pox vaccination is not widely available to kids because if they did and we who have had chicken pox would all get shingles because when we are exposed to our kids chicken pox it boosts our immunity to the herpes virus which causes shingles.

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rosmerta · 07/11/2008 16:16

Hi all, went out to try & do a bit of shopping today but ds isn't the most patient of children! So ended up leaving half of it & I'll do it tomorrow when I can go on my own. Plus my mum rang to tell me my uncle (who's also my favourite) is quite ill in hospital . Am praying he will be ok.

daisy sorry I have no experience of shingles so don't know about contagious issue. Hope your grandad's ok though.

trace I wanted to use reusables this time around as well but am confused about all the different options! I think there's another company called The Nappy Lady who also have consultants that will come round. Dh is happy for me to use them but has said he will probably use disposables. As that would only be really on the weekends I think its a good compromise!

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daisydora · 07/11/2008 16:27

Thanks veggie - I've had Chicken Pox, I know my GP said I was okay to visit him when pregnant. Will look on line, I'm pretty sure it will be okay. He's in so much pain as its around his arm & sholder and he already suffers from arthritis in this area.

rosemerta hope your unlce will be okay too.

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Indith · 07/11/2008 17:32

Did someone say reusable nappies?

Basic rundown:

flat nappies

All used with a liner and a wrap (more later)

Terry Square- come in all sorts of colours and even come in bamboo terry (so soft and slim). The cheapest, most flexible option and dead easy to master. Different sizes available, best to just buy the 50 or 60cm ones as they last to toddlerhood. For a tiny newborn just use a muslin for a few weeks, does the same job. Fasten with a pin or a nipper (funky hooked device)

Prefolds- love them or hate them. They are a pad basically of several layers of terry sewn together but still have to be folded to use. Personally I'm not sure what the point of them is but some people adore them.

Both very quick drying

shaped 2 parters

All used with a liner and wrap

These consist of a shaped nappy that either comes with velcro or popper fastening or is fasten free to use with a nappy nipper or pin. There are a million makes out there in a gazillion fabrics (bamboo, cotton, organic cotton, microfibre...) and the best thing to do is get one of each of a few and see waht you like best. You can really go to town on colours and patterns Some are better shaped for long, skinny babies, some for fat thighs, some for heavy wetters/overnight etc.

Dryig time depends on nappy. Eg a microfibre nappy takes no time at all, bamboo longer, something like a minki huggle which is designed for overnight blooming ages.

pockets

These are an empty of padding nappy "shell" that go on like a disposible. You can stuff the pocket inside with either specially bought inners or tesco cheapo microfibre cloths. The advantage is that you can pre-stuff them for grandparents/babysitters/dads.

Fairly quick drying as you can separate it.

all in ones

Bulky and horrible, does waht it says on the tin, the waterproof outer and the padding are all in one nappy so you have to wash it all together.

Takes ages to dry.

liners

Liners catch the poo. You can get flushable liners so you just bung them down the loo with the poo and sling the rest of the nappy in the bucket or fleece liners which are ace as they also keep wee away from the bum (liquid goes through fleece yet it remains dry to the touch). With fleece you plop the poo away then put them in the bucket with the nappy. FLushable you have to buy, fleece you can buy or you can get a metre of fleece down the market and cut your own. Silk liners also exist which tend to be used by those whose children have very sensitive skin as it has natural properties which help rash.

wraps

The waterproof bit that goes over the nappy where needed. Several different makes availiable.

PUL wraps- these are waterproof, the best known and loved and IMO reliable is the motherease wrap which comes in velcro or popper. Velcro best for newborn as gives a good seal around the legs. Older babies are best with poppers as they are loose at the leg and allow breathability (but somehow don't leak)

Fleece wraps- these are fat and bulky but are a good overnight option. The theory is that the wee can evaporate off slowly, thus preventing nappy leaks. Not to be used with sleeping bags or tight bed clothes though otherwise guess where the wee evaporates too!

Wool wraps- very funky for use night and day, same idea as the fleece. Don't need to be washed very often at all.

You need about 6 wraps for a newborn and after that 4 should do you. Unless you have a poo explosion you only need a wrap a day.

washing

Don't soak, no need (modern machines are better plus most soaks ruin the fabric) Just sling them in a lidded bucket with a couple of drops of tea tree in the bottom. Wash on 40 or 60, no more with 1/3 of your normal washing powder. If you want to soften them use a slug of white vinegar. Don't use fabric softener as it coats the fibres and means your nappies won't absorb as well.

I'll shut up now

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Indith · 07/11/2008 17:34

Sorry for all the poorly relatives, best wishes to all.

Yay for all the homebirths!

Work induction ok, just need to wait to get a uni log in again so I can access the bits I need and I can get going

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waitinggirl · 07/11/2008 18:08

indith - wow, what a summary. have copied and pasted so i can read at leisure.

re: bloggate... well, after having spent midday in a minor injuries unit to get my burn looked at (skin peeled off today), i met the mad blogger for a drink. she began by profusely apologising for not having warned me she was going to write about me (not that she wrote it in the first place), by claiming what she wrote was a composite of many different people (oh, that's ok then), and how she was feeling that her dh's friends (she has come to the uk to live with him) haven't been the most welcoming (wonder why). we discussed it (i have to say i was probably too kind) and she thanked me for giving her the opportunity to open up. the problem is: SHE NOW THINKS SHE'S MY BEST FRIEND!!! honestly! at the end she said, well, let's all meet for dinner sometime. i had to point out that i was still licking my wounds when she said "i didn't realise i'd wounded you" and my bus came and off i went. PEOPLE ARE CRAAAAAAAAAAAAAAZY.

thank you all for your anonymous support. it was raised, it is over, and she is a crazed fantasist mentalist. done.

ros and daisy - hope your relatives get better

beans - enjoy ML. i am still working my few hours a week and will be until 39 weeks. although my dad's ladyfriend (who is a nurse) has told me she thinks it will come early on 10/11 dec. oh please, dear lord, no, i'm not ready in the slightest.

have lovely weekends

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Veggiemummy · 07/11/2008 18:33

Indith....wow did you actually write all that or did you copy and paste it. And are you a nappucino lady or are you a re-usable nappy addict. My name is veggiemummy and i am a nappy addict, it's been 1yr & 3 months since i used my last re-usable nappy (not counting re-usable training pants)

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Veggiemummy · 07/11/2008 18:35

WG- i think maybe the problem isn't you (and your circle of friends) i think maybe she is a bit resentful for moving away from her home for him. Also if she is Australia i apologise on behalf of my country for her behaviour.

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Veggiemummy · 07/11/2008 18:38

also do people just generally write on blogs about their everyday life, like a diary, am i missing something. I thought blogs were for people training for a sporting event like a marathon or something like that.

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