There is a bit of confusion coming through here that needs cleared up.
Anti-D is given to PREVENT antibodies forming. What it does is prevent your body from recognising baby blood cells that might have passed into your bloodstream due to a bleed. This is only a problem if the baby is rhesus positive. It should be given in the first pregnancy too.
The reason anti-D has been introduced routinely during pregnancy is because there are a very few women who become 'silently sensitised'. That means that they have had a bleed but no outward signs.
Some women have become sensitised because they were never given anti-D when they should have been ie after a 12 week miscarriage, after delivery if the baby was rhesus positive, after amniocentesis, after a bleeding epsiode.
Anti-D should also be given in the ARM to be more effective. It is thought that some women have become sensitised because the injection was given in the buttock or thigh and therefore did not get absorbed properly. It may be more painful but that is the place it should be given.
If you are rhesus negative and your partner is too, there is no need to have anti-D. Obviously your partner should be the father of the baby. I get annoyed that it is assumed lots of women have babies fathered by men other than their partners.
Anti-D is a blood product and it really isn't known what the long term affect could be giving it to pregnant women. It is exposing a baby to a risk in this pregnancy which is to prevent problems in the next pregnancy. It might be that you won't have another pregnancy therefore the risk is unnecessary.
I personally have antibodies that were picked up during my second pregnancy. All rhesus negative women have their antibodies checked at booking, 28 weeks and 34 weeks. That baby wasa fine. Me third baby was delievered prematurely because of antibodies and he needed a blood transfusion when he was 6 weeks old. My fourth (and last) baby needed to have her blood changed (exchange transfusion) 3 times after birth and was subsequently fine. She was born at 37 weeks.
After my second pregnancy I did not get anti-D again as there was no point - I had already produced antibodies.
I personally am not sure that we should be exposing unborn babies to blood products to prevent rhesus disease. We are exposing all rhesus negative mums to this to prevent a rare occurence.
You really need to look into it to make up your own mind. A great book is Sara Wickam - Anti-D Panacea or Paradox (title is something like that)