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April 2014 Thread 4 - We're almost in Trimester 3!

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LeeHandy · 04/12/2013 20:26

Here's to fantastic 20 week scans, feeling baby move and other exciting milestones and best of all, the end of sickness!

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BlessedAssurance · 03/02/2014 20:24

Just to not confuse you ladies. I work in a nursery and nursing home. Both jobs are part-time because i was studying so needed to be flexible. Having both enabled me to have a fair income without being committed 100% to any of them...

Actually am now on mat-leave. The only thing i am not enjoying is the paperwork involved. Whe we bought our home we did not fill in so many papers,really boring...

MrsMyMarbles · 04/02/2014 12:12

Trinpy I love cloth nappies, and yes, I used them from newborn with DC2. The beauty of using them from newborn is that you don’t need waterproof overs right away, as they wee so little it doesn’t soak through the nappy! So you get to see that lovely fluff on a cute newborn. My biggest piece of advice to anyone buying cloth nappies is to NEVER EVER buy a birth to potty set before trying them on your baby first! All babies come in different shapes and sizes, and so do nappy brands! Different nappy brands sizing will suit different babies. Try to get hold of a couple of different types first, try a nappy hire kit from a nappy agent, and see which type work for you. I have had so many parents say ‘I tried cloth nappies, and they didn’t work’ and I ask what brands they tried, and they give only one brand name! I loved the fluffy Tots Bots, and was going to use them on my son (DC1)but when he was born, he was very long and, bless him, his little willy poked over the top as the rise was too short (btw Tots Bots suit the more cuddly baby best) so I ended up with Motherease as my workhorse nappy for him, as they have a longer rise. Also, you only need to wash at 60 degrees for the first 3 months. After that 40 degrees is enough to sterilise them. Don’t use fabric conditioner on them, as it reduces the absorbency.

Misty9 I love the colours of Bumgenius – they don’t seem to fade!

Churros Oooh yes – muslins are good newborn nappies! Did you use nippas, or just fold them into a wrap?

Vikki so sorry to hear about your dog.

To everyone considering homebirth, I am a real advocate of it, having had CD1 in hospital (via emergency caesarean) and DC2 at home, and it was such a better experience all round, and if your midwife is keen on homebirth AND YOU WANT IT, go for it! I am ‘high risk’ so am not ‘allowed’ to use the birthing unit and am advised ‘very strongly’ against homebirth. So we hired an IM for DC2 to avoid all that negativity at the birth. It looks very much like I am going to be able to have an IM this time too – so I am super, super chuffed! My IM has agreed a payment plan for after April!!! I am feeling very lucky, and it means I am now going to actually get some antenatal care! We would have gone for a doula had this not come about as I hate the way the vulnerability of any birthing woman, and the naivety and inexperience of a first time mother, is completely ignored in the hustle and bustle of an over-stretched NHS environment, and having someone who is not emotionally attached to you, but knows you birth wishes and can speak lucidly for you and your partner is something, I think, is absolutely essential, especially if you are going into hospital! Churros even a doula on her first attendance will be able to offer you that support!

LeeHandy I love this article – to me, it totally shows why birthing animals seem to suffer less than birthing humans: www.pregnancy.com.au/birth-choices/homebirth/out-of-the-laboratory-back-to-the-darkened-room.shtml. That’s why I am avoiding hospital. But for many people, the comfort of knowing medical intervention is local is enough (but do remember that if you go into an emergency situation, you may still be waiting some time, for example the official guidelines for going from the decision by the consultant to have a caesarean section to the operation being performed is 45 minutes). I just think it is a shame that women’s choices are not supported, whatever a woman chooses!

Ladies, please forgive me my strong opinion, I totally respect a woman’s ability to decide for herself, but I am not announcing this to the world at large, so this is really my only sounding board to focus myself on my upcoming birth!

I don’t get on here often, so you don’t have to suffer me much!

Keep well ladies. Look after those bumps and little ones around you!

patsy375 · 04/02/2014 16:26

Sorry marbles but I feel I have to let any of the mums on here planning to have a hospital birth know that your comment re a 45 min wait for a caesarean is not entirely true.
The decision to have an emergency section during labour does not have to be made by a consultant, senior doctors are able to make this decision alone.
The consultant on call is made aware of the situation but is not responsible for the on the spot decision.
If a baby or a mothers life is thought to be in danger an emergency caesarean is performed immediately.
This can be done within 10 mins if necessary.
A longer wait may occur in cases where there is no immediate threat to mum or baby, an unsuccessful induction or a failure to dilate for example.

Vikkijayne2507 · 04/02/2014 19:32

had horrendous heartburn last night ending with me being very sick and hardly sleeping. Baby wiggling about lots he's enjoying kicking my ribs not fun.
30 + 6 weeks

smilesallround247 · 04/02/2014 21:49

Anyone having trouble sleeping? I can't for the life of me get comfy! laying on my right side is nice on my back but my hips ache after a while :( but if I'm on my right side im soo comfy....until my back aches on my right side and I have to haul myself over! sleeping propped up on my back just makes my bum ache :(
I've got two memory foam mattresses toppers on and body pillows. nothing helps!
any suggestions? or tips?

Misty9 · 04/02/2014 21:56

I'm having the same problem smiles - lying on my right side gives me instant heartburn, but is the comfiest, lying on my left makes my pelvis hurt, and my favourite position of back sleeping is definitely out now as it makes baby very squirmy. Harrumph is all I can say.

That said, I'm shattered today so am hoping that'll help me drift off quickly tonight when I stop farting about on mn

30+6

prettyinpink90 · 04/02/2014 22:34

Just dropping in to see how you're all getting on ladies?

We had our first NCT antenatal class tonight and although I was worried after reading a few reviews I needn't have been. Our tutor is lovely as is the other 7 couples in our group, although at 23 and 27 we are the youngest couple by far. Hoping that friendships will be made over the coming weeks and they don't just see me as the baby of the group. My partner was really interested and asked lots of questions which put me at ease as I know he wasn't particularly looking forward to going.

The weeks seem to be going ever so quick and my emotions are a mix of excitement, nervousness and feeling like I'll never be prepared in time. I have a few exciting weeks ahead of me... I have my baby shower in two weeks and finish work in three weeks!

29+4

LightTripper · 05/02/2014 10:37

Hello all! My NCT starts on 24th Feb, so still got a bit of time to go. Don't really know what to expect!

I've also had some problems sleeping. I know left side is supposed to be good, but that's the side my sciatic nerve is dodgy, and I tend to wake up with horrible cramp in my left foot if I actually go to sleep on that side. Right side was better, but 2 nights ago woke up with cramps in the right foot too, so not sure that's going to be a goer.

For keeping the pain down when sleeping on my back, I've found putting a fat pillow/cushion under my knees seems to help (something I discovered when my back was bad pre-pregnancy, but seems to be helping now too) - might be worth a go?

LT 29+0

MrsMyMarbles · 05/02/2014 13:04

Patsy you are absolutely correct, and I am very sorry if I have caused anyone any concern. If the need arises then an emergency caesarean can and will be performed in the shortest time possible. Our medical care is exemplary in that regard. I was simply saying that I went into hospital with my first child under the assumption that if the decision was made for an emergency caesarean then it would be done in the shortest time possible, but that is not the case for most situations, and if, as you point out, it is not immediately life threatening, then many women do have to wait. My husband and I were unprepared for the wait and it caused us both no end of distress. Had I known that we were in no immediate danger at the time, I would have not been so stressed and upset. However we were told we needed an ‘emergency’ caesarean – which I took to mean ‘emergency’!

The NICE guidelines (www.nice.org.uk/nicemedia/live/13620/57162/57162.pdf) on caesarean section state on page 131 that category 1 caesarean section are advised to be performed within 30 minutes, while category 2 caesarean sections between 30 and 75 minutes.

I would have liked to have known that ‘emergency’ caesarean does not always mean ‘emergency’. Ii, and my DH, would have coped better knowing that.

MrsMyMarbles · 05/02/2014 13:07

Smiles and Misty, I find using a cushie roll pillow under my bump while lying on my side supports babies weight so I ache less. Still doesn't solve the having to heave over to change sides, but at least I can, mostly, get off to sleep. I keep waking every 2 or 3 hours. Really want an uninterrupted night’s sleep!

smilesallround247 · 05/02/2014 14:21

ugh I've had the worst day ever. last night of course I didn't sleep well so im tired more so than usual. I'm really suffering with my legs chafing. tmi sorry! ! its like every step is like razor blades on my inner thighs. I've been to the walk in centre twice got told it's a bacteria infection then got told it's a fungal infection! nothing is working to keep it at bay.

I've been at work today and it's all on my feet. I spent the last hour trying not to move and it's frustrating as I'm so used to being mobile and active. so I've just got home torn off my trousers and pants and just sat crying on the floor out of frustration. I want to put down the tears to being tired and not hormones! I've rang my gp for an appointment tomorrow so hopefully they'll help this time! sorry I really needed a rant!

smilesallround247 · 05/02/2014 14:26

to make things worse, I work with my partner so when I told him that I'd booked a gp appointment early the next day (which I'm working with him). He just said I should have ran the time past him. He knows I'm in pain but Tbh he's not being understanding. Heaven forbid if he were to go through this.....

ChurrosConChocolate · 05/02/2014 14:29

light no sciatica pain at the moment (fingers crossed). Back is feeling a bit better, been managing to stretch it a bit and the heat thing seems to be helping. Tempted to book myself for a massage though... Hope the decorating is going well.

marbles I used the muslins with a nippa, they work really well on little ones I think. I'll mostly do that this time too I think. Good news you are going to be able to have a IM! I'm still looking into a doula. More concerned with the other doula having me as her first birth as I have quite a few issues from first time and I can't be sure how they will manifest in labour! Although at the moment I'm feeling positive and undefeatable! I think it helps knowing my rights more this time, but I'm also super keen to avoid hospital. I'm happy with the birth centre but if they wouldn't of let me go there I was definitely going to go down the homebirth route so I respect what you are doing and I hope it goes well.

blessed is your DD any happier now you are around more on maternity leave?

I'm having trouble sleeping but not pregnancy related! Just DS deciding to get up super early, the people in the flat upstairs banging around, car alarms going off outside, the cats deciding to go crazy in the middle of the night, very itchy eczema on my hand - arrrgghh!

28+5

ChurrosConChocolate · 05/02/2014 14:32

smiles sending Brew and Cake, that doesn't sound like a fun day at all. Hope the gp can help.

smilesallround247 · 05/02/2014 15:34

Thanks churros. I've had a hot bath and calmed down since I feel better!
my maternity leave starts mid march I'm wondering if I should start it earlier if I'm this uncomfortable Confused

Cannotbelieveit · 05/02/2014 16:25

Checking in! Only 2 shifts left at work after today!

Had terrible dreams last night! Kept waking up and then going back to sleep and going back into the same dream :-(

I can't over how different the movement is with this baby as this time the placenta is posterior and it was anterior with DS1

28+4 Grin

mamapants · 05/02/2014 18:40

Wow sounds like lots of you are going off on mat leave soon. I haven't set a date yet not sure when to stop really. I worked till the very end with DS and maybe thinking of doing the same this time.
Last time I worked full time till 39+2 but am using holiday leave this time so will only be working 3 days a week.
Unless of course they don't renew my contract, should be finding out this week. If they don't I will be finishing end of march instead. So fingers crossed I have a job to take leave from! My boss just sprang this on me last week! So could be facing smp and no job to go back to.

LightTripper · 05/02/2014 19:01

Sorry you're having a tough time smiles - that doesn't sound like fun at all. Hope your OH has seen the light. It's a stressful time for everybody.

mamapants I'm not planning to stop until 3 weeks before (using 2 weeks holiday - 1 carried over from last year - and then starting actual mat leave 1 week before my due date). I'm hoping that's long enough to give me a bit of time to get sorted - although at least one of my projects will still be live, so suspect I will be part time the 2 weeks I am on holiday rather than fully off (unless LO chooses to make an early appearance of course!) But I think that will probably be better for me than a "hard stop" anyway - otherwise if she is on time or late I think it's going to be too much thinking time to get scared about the birth!!

Fingers crossed on your contract renewal... don't forget even as a contractor if you are effectively working as an employee you may have employee's rights - so it's not necessarily the case that they can just terminate your contract just like that (good summary on this here: www.workingmums.co.uk/advice-and-support/q-and-a/111245/maternity-rights-and-contracts-ask-the-expert.thtml)? I know not everybody has the energy to fight it (happened to a friend of mine and she couldn't face taking it to court) - but it really annoys me when employers try to wiggle out of their responsibilities by doing dodgy contractual games!

Weird question ... but is anybody else thinking of doing perineal massage or that balloon thing? One of my friends SWEARS by the balloon, but it seems like a weird thing to spend 100 on (on the other hand, if it works it is definitely worth 100!!!)

LightTripper · 06/02/2014 08:09

H who'll, that killed the thread Grin

LightTripper · 06/02/2014 08:10

Gaaargh! "Oh well" even!

Cannotbelieveit · 06/02/2014 08:58

Light! Did plan on the massage last time but ended up with EMCS, will try again this time as hoping for VBAC Shock

Trinpy · 06/02/2014 11:49

What is the massage/balloon thing? Never heard of it!

smilesallround247 · 06/02/2014 12:12

GP sorted me out but then said that I have a kidney infection! such a bad day :(

LightTripper · 06/02/2014 13:25

Oh no smiles - can't they give you something for that? At least your OH has to cut you some slack now...

And Trinpy - if you Google "perineal massage balloon" you'll see what I'm talking about (but probably not at work!!)

smilesallround247 · 06/02/2014 13:45

Yeah I've been prescribed amoxicillin. My OH is now wrapping me in cotton wool. .... about time too!

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