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April 2013 part six...what does the third trimester have in store?

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edinfirst · 12/01/2013 22:43

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JaquelineHyde · 22/01/2013 09:22

So many appointments this week, I have the midwife tomorrow morning and then on Thursday my 28 week growth scan followed by consultant appointment, and then my GTT on Monday. I also need to ring up and book my whooping cough jab and my physio appointment for the SPD.

On the upside I have just ordered a fantastic new bed and can't wait for it to be delivered on Sunday. At least that will make all the poking and jabbing feel worth while.

Teapig · 22/01/2013 13:17

Does anyone have any receipe inspiration? DH is out until about 9pm tonight so I need to make something quick and healthy when I get home that's easy to re-heat for DH. I'm in what DH and I call a food funk, I can't think of anything to make at all and I really want to give the LO some goodness and not resort to a bung in the oven thing. Any ideas are very welcome.

jaqueline, that does sound like a lot of appointments and prodding and poking in a short space of time. At least it gets it over with and you'll get to see you LO again on Thursday plus you have the new bed to look forward to.

WeeHans · 22/01/2013 14:34

teapig how about chorizo and chickpea stew? 1 can cooked chickpeas (drain them), as much/little chunks of chorizo as you want. Fry it off with red peppers and onions and chilli flakes and garlic. Add a splash of red if you are ok with that, reduce it down, get a can of tomatoes, slosh them in, add some ground black pepper, reduce down the heat and simmer for as long as it takes a loaf of garlic bread to warm up in the oven. Even better next day.

I checked chorizo on the NHS banned food website, it's fine www.nhs.uk/conditions/pregnancy-and-baby/pages/foods-to-avoid-pregnant.aspx#cured

aufaniae diabetes test is fine. I had it a few weeks ago, try not to worry. The hard bit is the not eating in the morning and the lucozade.

growyourown77 · 22/01/2013 14:45

Afternoon all.....quick question: are any of you getting bump tightenings, especially around the sides and top of the bump, 2-3 times a day? They seem to be about half an hour after I've eaten. I can't work out if it's just that or braxton hicks starting. Second timers, any ideas?

edinfirst · 22/01/2013 14:52

Ooh weehans that sounds delicious. I am doing chilli with turkey mince tonight.

From the sublime to the ridiculous, do any of you experienced mummies have recommendations for maternity pads? The choice is baffling and I don't want to end up with something uncomfy or ill-fitting. Starting to think about hospital bag, so any other tips on things to take (outside of things on the list that every shop I go into seems to give me) or indeed things not to bother taking also v welcome.

And lastly, how are the knitters getting on? I'm beginning to wish I hadn't chosen a blanket-it is looking good but I'm so bored of repeating the same pattern that it's turning into a real chore :(

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edinfirst · 22/01/2013 14:56

growyourown I get tightenings at the top of my bump if I've eaten a lot, or, weirdly, if I'm in a hot shower too long. I've had tightening in that bit of bump since very early days so have been assuming not BH but I will look out for replies to your post with interest.

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birdbrain17 · 22/01/2013 15:56

edin I know what you mean about knitting. I decided to do a patchwork (purple and yellow we're having a suprise) and after about 20 squares out of 50 I got really bored but then I sewed what I had done together and it looked really cute so now I'm excited to finish it, just wish I'd started earlier I'm scared I won't get it done in time!

went to asda last night and bought some cheap baby toiletries and nappies, I'm on a mission now to tick everything that needs doing off my list by the end of half term (that's about 4 and a half weeks time) as we're going away during half term Grin and when we get back I want to be able to focus on staying awake during work and cooking for the freezer, I'm starting to get really excited for the baby. DH was so sweet last night, he's only ever felt one or two kicks at a time and last night when we went to bed he felt loads and was getting all concerned that the baby was okay, and did it get scared when it felt him 'pushing' the feet back in when it kicked!!!

29+2

growyourown77 · 22/01/2013 15:57

ooh, I was thinking the same thing re: maternity pads edin...lets hope we get some good answers on both! Smile

birdbrain17 · 22/01/2013 15:57

p.s It's our first wedding anniversary today Shock Grin

Giddypants · 22/01/2013 16:18

maternity pads you go through a lot of them! I didn't realise just how much, only bought2 packs of mothercare own brand, I was still in hospital and running out fast so sent DH to go get some more from the sainsbos around the corner, he came back with Kotex sanitary towels, cheapest ones he could find! Anyway they did the job and were much softer than the official maternity pads, so I've gone for them again this time, just bought many more packs lol.

tightening after eating yes usually more likely in the evening, not BH but not sure what causes them

Congratulations birdbrain

Mama1980 · 22/01/2013 17:22

Hi everyone,
Congratulations birdbrain happy anniversary Smile
Amazing news here-alex has been doing so well and he has been fighting the vent so today he was taken off the ventilator breathed fine on his own and put on Cpap!!!!!!!!! Just a nasal cannula now not the god awful tubes everywhere. My beautiful strong boy. And-yep theirs more Grin- they are going to give him his first breast milk feed tomorrow all being well, they are so optimistic he will tolerate it that they have taken me off harmful meds, I am so excited, he looks less sick already and there's power in his little fingers, real strength you wouldn't think it when you see pics of tiny babies but they grip hard!
In the next space there are 24 week twins called will and Seth,born A week after Alex, will is active like Alex and has to be sedated, Seth just sleeps - even now they have different personalities their mum and I were talking all day she is hoping to breast feed too so its great to have someone to hand hold with.
Physio yesterday was crap but right now I don't care! Smile

Fluffeh · 22/01/2013 17:24

Ooh that stew sounds nice. I'll have to order some veggie chorizo online, I've been meaning to order from them for a while but usually just for sausages so chorizo too makes it more worthwhile :).

Does anyone know whether tampons will be ok after a cs? I have never used pads in my life and I'm worried that if I have to post baby I'll feel even yuckier.

Saw a good deal on a cold water steriliser at Asda hopefully my local will have one in when we're there on Thursday.

jaq I feel for you, I have the same appointments starting next Friday with mw, then gtt on Monday followed by growth scan and obstetrician on Thursday. Apparently my local hospital don't use lucozade, they have a sugar infused potion instead that tastes like liquid sugar :-/.

Anyone else noticed kicks in the same place as their waistband? If I wear anything that sits on the bump instead of under or over the baby kicks seem loads more frequent and powerful.

Fluffeh · 22/01/2013 17:26

X-posted with you mama.
That is really fantastic news about Alex! You must be so proud of him :).

Mama1980 · 22/01/2013 17:48

Thanks fluffeh I am so so proud, I wanna jump up and down except i Can't stand so instead am lying down and waving my arms round manically and grinning!

EmpressMatilda · 22/01/2013 17:50

mama That's great news!

Whooping cough jab - I had it on Friday and it was so quick and painless... then I spent a couple of nights wondering what the hell was wrong with ny arm! No lumps or bumps or anything but just really stiff. I thought it might be the jab but it seemed weird. So I guess that it was the jab after all! Well, at least the baby will be better protected. Hopefully!

I''ve been getting those tightenings around my sides and top of bump too. They seem too mild to be BH but perhaps they vary? I just assumed it was 'general tweaking and movement'. I am a novice too though so no idea!

And my piles are back too so whoever posted about that you have my sympathy!

Feeling hungry now after all this food talk. Hope my train gets in soon so I can go home and cook!

29+4 So close to the 30 week mark.

Mama1980 · 22/01/2013 17:52

Thanks empress Smile hope your arm feels better.

Teapig · 22/01/2013 19:01

That's fantastic news mama! So pleased that Alex is getting stronger and stronger.

Thank you weehans for much needed food inspiration. I've just gobbled down a big helping of the chorizo stew and now considering whether to eat DH's portion as well.

grow, I've had tightenings at the top of my bump. They usually happen in the evening, either after I've eaten or not long before bed and are pretty uncomfortable but don't seem to last too long.

Happy anniversary bird! The first one is paper I think, it's a long road to diamond. We're on leather at the moment and graduate to fruit and flowers this year apparently although we're pretty crap at marking it and usually it's a hastily written card, oh the romance.

KelleStar · 22/01/2013 19:35

mama such good news! so great to hear little Alex's progress.

chickpea and chorizo stew is a favourite of mine weehans DH isn't impressed with it, but it's delicious with a hunk of crusty bread.

happy anniversary bird we are really crap at celebrating ours as well and a card is about as far as either of us get. We've been married 6 years but together for 15 years, we count the years together more significantly.

fluffeh definately don't use tampons even with a CS, you still pass the same 'stuff' as a VB, so there will be clots and they need to be able to flow out, you need to be able to check for significant clots. Plus it can cause infection, ack, the one they tell you about when you first start using them, is it toxic shock.

TBH for the first week or two I used the boots own brand maternity pads, the thick wodge ones, I'd had an episiotomy and the thick padding was a relief to sit on and didn't pull my stitches. I moved onto their own brand thin maternity pads too for a little while. They are breathable and a little rough because they use more natural fibres and have less of the chemicals to help the more liquid part of the period set. As you should be changing them quite regularly, rather than being worn for long periods. I kept them in the fridge, doused in distilled witch hazel [stocked in our Sainsbo's!] and applied them quite often. I did also rinse after each change as it's quite messy down there, I also had stitches to keep clean and found sluicing the area with the shower head and not using any products to clean, dabbing with a towel afterwards, letting air dry or your kind and loving DH using the warm setting on the hair dryer :) also helps. I also had arnica cream to help with the bruising.

Don't be a hard as nails type and take your painkillers on time, it really does ache for a while. Not that I was, but friends would moan about the pain afterwards and then not take painkillers. If you ask your pharmacist they can give you the stronger paracetamol so you don't have to take as many little pills. Also worth keeping some in your labour/ward bag as I found the reliability of being given painkillers when you need them was a little lacking.

My other tip would be to have a trim before labour 'down there', I bought a cheap beard trimmer and it's easier to keep clean afterwards, especially with the lochia. I still use it now as I think it looks neater and it's easier to keep under control. Grin

edin I have quite a few knitting/crochet projects on the go so I can swap and change. I do set myself aside 30 minutes for working on them though, so that I keep on top of it, otherwise it gets really depressing if you are using the same yarn, same stitch for metres. Sometimes I keep going and get a few hours in before bed. I was checking for cute hat patterns today as I want to make one for baby to wear [and I usually take a few extras in for the ward].

Ollibobs · 22/01/2013 19:59

Great post KelleStar. As a first timer, I have been wondering about the nitty gritty of the after effects down there. Have no idea of what to expect. Really appreciate your honesty.

EmpressMatilda · 22/01/2013 20:18

kellestar Definitely a very helpful post. I already have some of the boots maternity pads at the ready but will prob stock up a bit more! It's so good to get an insight into what it's actually like and what we will actually need.

I for one have no intention of being hard as nails. I'll take all the painkillers they let me have!!!

Novia · 22/01/2013 21:36

Mama - great news! Really pleased for you and your family.

Oh good - glad it's not just me feeling the whooping cough pain! Grin I have a massive red bump on my arm today and so sore. No wonder babies cry when they have their jabs!

On a different subject - is anyone else trying/has tried hypno-birthing/natal hypnotherapy? I've always been really scared of the idea of labour and the pain, but I read the Maggie Howell book and it made a lot of sense to me. It's all about reconnecting with the natural process of birth, trusting your body and taking away the fear.

It's a bit 'woo' in places, but overall something I feel I want to try. I know that it might not work for me, or things may still go wrong but I figure its worth a try! I also bought the CD which I tried for the first time when I got home home tonight - I promptly fell asleep to it so hoping it does work subconsciously!

I'd be very interested in anyone else thoughts/experiences of this?

steph2412 · 22/01/2013 21:36

I had my 28 wk consultant app today scan estimated baby weighed 2lbs 13oz which is just right on my graph but he is lying transverse and breech plenty of time for him to turn yet though! been getting bits for my hospital bag today it seems to be getting close!28weeks

Dysgu · 22/01/2013 22:32

Fabulous to read about Alex Mama he seems to be a real little fighter and that is great that he is off the ventilator so 'young'. It is a big milestone for him to be having breastmilk too - I remember when DD1 had her first feed and it seemed a huge amount as they syringed it into her NG tube (it was 2ml and I remember my BIL pointing out that a teaspoon holds 5ml).

I am 'only' 26+6 so a bit behind lots of you but in the last few days it has started to dawn on me that I will be giving birth 'soon' and then it dawns on me that we will have a baby around! I am sure my previous PGs felt so long but this one seems to be taking ages. I think I was rather detached in the early days in case anything happened so it took me quite a long time to get real about this one.

The aftermath of the birth is something I had not really thought about either kellestar so it is good to read your post. I have a stack of maternity pads upstairs ready although I think I moved onto own brand pads pretty quickly. At least when you are home you can change them a lot more often, I am sure I went through dozens and I remember sending DP out to get more. I know what you mean Fluffeh about feeling even more yuck but tbh everything feels a bit yuck afterwards anyway!

I need to have a look for the witch hazel too...

I also have a load of appointments - I am even double-booked for this Friday as they have rescheduled my GTT from last Friday to this one when I already have an appointment for my second lot of steroids. They are in the same place so I guess the jab in in the bum will take my mind of the long wait I have during the GTT!

I am hoping to schedule my whooping cough for the same time as DD2's pre-school booster but it looks like I really will have to be brave if it really does hurt. I have told her she can watch me and so can see how easy it is to have a jab and then she can have hers (but with chocolate buttons).

And we organised our will today - mostly because we needed to set things down in case we should both die... was simple and don't really know why we kept putting it off.

enjay0811 · 22/01/2013 22:59

Hi all! More snow here, school closed 2day and comin down heavy again atm. Being confined to the hse is drivin me nuts!

steph u shld have been sent vouchers in an email for the huggies newborn pack, if not, jst email customer services and they'll put them in the post.

Can't remember names sorry but maternity pads - jst go for the supermarket own maternity ones, bigger the better! U will b sore, bruised and swollen down there for a while so the more padding, the better! Def agree bout havin a trim too, esp if ur not used to wearing pads, gets a bit messy and easier to keep clean. I went for night time sanitary pads after a day or so then, didn't feel so much like wearing a nappy! Blush

hypno birthing I can't recommend it enough! Listened to the Maggie Howell cd before having dd2 and had such a better experience. Felt calmer, more in control, knew what to expect and jst trusted my body to give birth. Bought the book a few wks ago to refresh my memory this time around. Also resulted in a much quicker labour, bout 3 hrs est labour instead of bout 8 with dd1! May have been cos it was 2nd baby but I thought it helped!

Got lots of appts comin up too - GTT Thurs then whooping cough jab Fri. Dd2 also has pre-school jabs Thurs but Dh is takin her cos I know she'll scream the place down!

braxton hicks been having them on and off for bout 10wks, feels very tight at bottom of bump or all over tho, not jst top like others described. Quite uncomfortable but not painful. Usually happens wen I've been walking a bit or generally over doing it a bit.

Sorry for the epic post, so much to catch up on in a few days! Oh, and fab news mama Alex sounds like he is doin so well!

27+4

milktraylady · 22/01/2013 23:06

Hi Mama what great news about your wee Alex, and I hope your rehab goes a bit better next go.

Thanks for the aftercare advice fluffeth, I have been wondering about that too. I price checked the maternity pads & was wondering to buy either mothercare boots or tescos.

Novia I had started hypnobirthing classes. Had 2 now. In connjunction with reading the book & doing relax practices each day.
Make sure you have the uk book, a friend lent me the USA one & it's a bit different.
I don't mind the woo, it counteracts all the science in the other books like what to expect book (tho this has been good info too)
I truly feel without hypnobirthing I would (still) be in a state of complete panic about the whole event. I feel I now have a glimmer of hope that I can do this.
Would prefer a general but that's not an option! Scared of cs surgery too. Argh!

And I have some good news, after waiting since September I finally have a nhs counselling perinatal mental health appt next week. Really hope that they can help me work tru the panic I am in. I am just as worried as I was in sept, but got used to feeling it now. Grim.
Anyone else had this/ any tips?
Everyone keeps telling me it will be fine when (the b word) arrives. I bloody hope they are right Sad