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Whomovedmychocolate had a baby boy

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whomovedmychocolate · 21/07/2008 21:07

Last Wednesday - 7lbs 8 and a half ounces. He's gorgeous. I'm still sick but have finally got out of hospital after a total of 28 days on and off.

Will post pics soon. Must go feed my brood.

Warning tandem breastfeeding pics coming soon!

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whomovedmychocolate · 23/07/2008 20:56

Well I suppose I'd better post the birth story (he's eight days old already).

I had pre eclampsia with dd and afterwards had some problems with liver function and platelet levels for six months or so. So when my blood pressure started to shoot up to scary levels at 32 weeks I was admitted for a few days each week. It was fairly obvious things were progressing though I felt okay - very tired but okay, aside from a few headaches.

DS was very active - and I wasn't unduly concerned until we got to 35 weeks and my blood pressure failed to drop below 110 diastolic for a week . That's the lowest it got from thereon in.

The docs put me on BP meds but because I had severe sickness I wasn't keeping them down or at least not enough of them. But since I was coping fairly well with things and had the ability to monitor at home I stayed out of hospital for another week (except for two days) with check ups every other day at the midwife assessment unit.

Come 36 weeks I was home for a few days and went into early labour. Desperately hid upstairs till mother in law went home and DH insisted I go into hospital as my BP at the time was through the roof (I seem to remember it being 131).

I should mention at this point that I am petrified of hospitals. Hence when I got there and a stroppy registrar turned up everything stopped instantly - they'd got a CTG showing I was contracting every six minutes but then within ten seconds of the doc arriving everything stopped - not a twinge, nothing.

But they wouldn't let me go so kept me in for observation and I escaped two days later with the agreement again for monitoring.

So that was the Monday. Friday I went in for my regular blood pressure check and having taken it and my urine sample the midwives all vanished into a corner to talk this is never an encouraging sign .

Phone calls were made, the supervisor of midwives turned up, DH was called and I was told the jig was up and I was in hospital 'for the time being' and that I was not to get up or move while they waited for blood test results. I agreed that if he hadn't arrived by my due date, we'd have a scheduled caesarian (at this point I actually said I'd have one today if they stopped taking blood every few hours).

I was then warded back into the high risk unit and monitored every two hours and a 24 hour urine collection started the next day.

Meanwhile every night between 2am and 4am I started having strong regular contractions and each and every time they took me down to the labour ward they stopped . Was getting quite cross at this point and refused point blank to be taken down there anymore.

The results of the 24 hour urine test were bad. I knew they were bad because two consultants turned up and sat on the bed. There must be a class in medical school on 'communicating bad news' which includes the advice to sit on the patient's bed and hold their hand.

The upshot was they were only willing to wait another 48 hours - and either I could have an induction - which we'd already discounted as we tried last time and my cervix did not respond at all to the syntocins, or have a scheduled caesarian on the Wednesday and an emergency one if he made another bid for freedom before then.

Oh and did I mention he kept turning to breech?

Many scans later we confirmed yes, c section on the following morning and DH rang round to arrange my mum to look after my little monkey DD.

So that night the midwives left me alone a bit, I was sort of relieved that it was going to be over soon and also really sad because I had lost my homebirth and indeed my vbac but I was swelling up like a balloon and felt so crap too. Mostly I wanted to get home to DD and cried buckets every day when she went home.

Come midnight I was fairly chilled out though except for these funny pains, they weren't like any of the previous ones and I mentioned it to the midwife and she put me on the monitor and immediately asked if they were painful. Not at all I told her, actually they are quite nice.

Apparently they were 100% on the TOC (I have no idea what that means but very strong in the contraction stakes) and there was also a massive amount of fetal movement. His heartrate was okay. Then they started to hurt, but not in a bad way - I know that doesn't make a lot of sense but I sort of went into myself and took myself off to the day room to stand in the dark and look out the window. The midwife found me after an hour and said she didn't want to take me to the labour ward because it would stress me out but did I want some pain relief.

I said no, hoping things would just happen and went back to bed and fell asleep. Woke up the next morning still having them and everyone had a bit of a panic and moved my caesarian forward by five hours.

The caesarian itself was not very eventful, once again dh looked fab in scrubs while I was dressed in an unflattering hospital gown. Why do these things have 'hospital use only' emblazoned on them - is there a secret underground market for bum revealing smocks????

I had a spinal which was weird, I could feel him kicking even as they were rooting around inside me and also could feel both feet throughout - which was very disconcerting. The spinal wore off in about an hour - they gave me a very low dose because I don't handle narcotics well at the best of times.

He was breech again when they got in there - despite being head down which is probably why he didn't make it out on his own the previous evening. He didn't cry when he came out and I was really worried because they rushed him to the rescuscitaire to check him but he was absolutely fine and was bought back to me to see within a minute or two - which felt like hours.

They had a really hard time getting him out though, apparently the scissors broke trying to cut through the scar and they had to get a second set . My previous CS scar had adhered all the way through my stomach muscles and so they've actually had to remove some of my lower abs. They will of course grow back over time but it's left me very bruised and battered and because I could only have paracetamol afterwards I was very sore for a few days.

Olly started nursing immediately in the recovery room and continued to do so for 45 minutes on one side and then asked for more so I popped him on the other. So his birth weight (7lb 8.5) is after two feeds.

He's generally very quiet, only ever makes a noise when he's hungry (so quite often but he doesn't scream). He seems very chilled out and just sits there looking around at everything. Poppy has fallen in love with him (although she keeps trying to sit on him in her bid to get closer) and the tandem breastfeeding has really helped the two of them accept each other.

She's going through a 'I want milk' stage because she sees him feeding but it seems to be tailing back to normal now (though she's not been very well today so she's been mad for boob again).

For those of you contemplating tandem feeding a word of warning - you can get a lot of milk. I'm talking pints of the stuff. The rules at our milk bank are that you can't donate for six weeks - of course I've been nursing for 21 months now so they are having a think and I think I'll start donating next week but the stuff is literally running out of me and it's hungry tiring work feeding two (or more). But I do think it's been worth it if only for the improvement in sibling relationships.

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JackieNo · 23/07/2008 21:01

OH blimey, WMMC - that's quite a saga. I remember when your MIL was there - glad you got past that stage OK. So nice to hear about the tandem feeding - you're a real star for managing all that while recovering from a CS, I reckon.

maxbear · 23/07/2008 21:03

wow what a story, I'm surprised they were brave enough to let you home with a diastolic of 110 Glad that you and he are ok and hope you recover well.

EachPeachPearMum · 23/07/2008 21:05

Well, you have been through the mill wmmc, but what a gorgeous little boy.
I'm glad your family are all healthy and happy- wishing you a very speedy recovery.

Did you have no idea when you were pg that the scar had adhered through your muscles? Did it not restrict his movement in you at all?

CantSleepWontSleep · 23/07/2008 21:06

What a lovely happy ending (or beginning!).
Thanks for the observations re tandem feeding - will bear that in mind.

BettySpaghetti · 23/07/2008 21:11

Congratulations (and phew! what a time you've had!)

Blu · 23/07/2008 21:12

Many congratulations , WMMC

VeniVidiVickiQV · 23/07/2008 21:12

Wow! You are really made of stern stuff arent you?

Congratulations to you all, and I'm so pleased you are able to tandem feed too - it cant be very comfortable for you right now.

Where are these photos everyone is raving about - I cant find them?

MARGOsBeenPlayingWithMyNooNoo · 23/07/2008 21:13

You are fantastic. Congrats and he is gorgeous!

Btw did you keep your gown? I have an e-bay site specialising in them

hatwoman · 23/07/2008 21:19

congratulations - lovely pictures. how amazing to tandem feed. well done. I hope you're being well-looked after, fed chocolates and grapes and lots of cups of tea...

pickie · 23/07/2008 21:30

Many congratulations on arrival of Olly, well done WMMC! lovely pictures

MrsJohnCusack · 23/07/2008 23:18

that really is a saga - well done! good luck with your recovery amd welcome to Olly

whomovedmychocolate · 24/07/2008 13:14

Eachpeachpearplum - nope I thought all women had a completely flat stomach after pregnancy [dunce emoticon]. Seriously, it was fairly tight when it was healing but I hadn't had one before so I thought that was just normal. Now I have a big bulge where his head was - there is no muscle there - and it'll take six months or so to regrow the muscles. Am ordering a WII fit though so I can do some exercise once the little monkeys are asleep.

Have been out and about already - shopping and we went for a big walk yesterday - just a few miles but it's good to get back to normal - we had some major building work yesterday (fitting a wood burning stove and excavating a chimney which has been out of use for 200+ years so it's all busy busy busy here. The community midwife hasn't managed to catch me in all week and she's left a message to say she'll discharge me if I let her have my paperwork because I'm clearly fine.

Olly was officially registered this morning and true to form he slept through the whole thing while Poppy whinged and threw lego around the room. But that's it, no more babies

Poppy is looking forward to an afternoon in the paddling pool with her daddy while I hopefully get a bit of sleep - there wasn't much last night as she had a nightmare and both of them threw up over me.

Bet Angelina Jolie doesn't clean up babysick!

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belgo · 24/07/2008 13:16

Try to take it easy WMMC- not many new mothers are walking miles just after a c-section!

EachPeachPearMum · 24/07/2008 16:12

rofl- no, I bet Ms Jolie has someone running around her, like a make-up artist but with a muslin, 'Ooh, let me just get that Ms Jolie, lovely.' and 'Just one more dab now Madam, thank you'

JackieNo · 24/07/2008 20:17

That does sound very busy - hope you can get a bit more sleep tonight (minus vomit, too).

Marina · 24/07/2008 20:23

Many congratulations WMMC and welcome to Mumsnet Olly
Hope you do get a better night tonight!

tissy · 24/07/2008 20:28

congratulations!

lovely pics- I wonderd for a while if you had an "executive" model pool birthing pool installed for the home vbac!

LiegeAndLief · 26/07/2008 09:00

Congratulations! The pics are lovely. Sorry you had such a rough time of it, the stomach muscle thing sounds particularly horrible - you sound like you are recovering very quickly though - remember to look after yourself

whomovedmychocolate · 26/07/2008 21:47

I've now slowed down a bit! I hadn't had any post partum bleeding at all but today had a particularly busy day and have started bleeding an awful lot so am taking things a tad easier tomorrow. But hurrah, my diastolic BP is down to 89. This is fab!

Oh and I split the outer layer of my scar yesterday - I kinda forgot that you need stomach muscles to kick footballs [ouch] .

DH went ape at me when he found me sitting on the floor complaining - but I couldn't reach the first aid cabinet to get the painkillers because I couldn't stand up.

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ExterminAitch · 26/07/2008 21:58

i will go ape at you too unless you slow down a bit more, you eejit.

sounds like you've had a tough time, and yet how wonderfully you've been doing. well done. take care.

whomovedmychocolate · 28/07/2008 15:17

Yeah, yeah, yeah Aitch. HV turned up this morning, nearly fainted when told CMW had signed me off without visiting once and then announced DS has jaundice and if he hasn't got shot of it within a week he's going back in and I'm going back in tomorrow anyway for some scans and things because things seem to be going wrong again.

Am fucking sick of the whole bloody thing at this point. Olly is lovely but if it turns out he's been jaundiced since birth and that's the reason he's been so sleepy I'll be extremely cross.

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EffiePerine · 28/07/2008 15:19

sorry you;re having a rough time AND having to deal with general incompetence (again)

LiegeAndLief · 28/07/2008 21:40

Bloody hell WMMC sit down fast and stop kicking footballs! Hope ds is OK and doesn't need to go back in - doesn't sound like your care has been too brilliant... How is your liver this time round?

mamabea · 28/07/2008 21:43

Whomovedmychocolate. Congratulations! and... Get well soon!

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