My beloved DH of 23 years died over Easter of a stroke - it was not painless, the staff at Canterbury hospital and the initial attending paramedics were beyond awful (another thread for the legal section when I’m ready). I saw him die.
I'm struggling with how calm I am. It was sudden and to say we were happy is an understatement. I loved him with my entire soul, we did everything together, only 12 days apart in all that time.
why I am I so calm? I’m having waves of tears and I need to be strong for his kids (grown up, also handling surprisingly ok), and we did often discuss this as he had cancer 15 years ago ……. But still, why’s this going on? I’m going to crash and burn aren’t I? Just need to know so I can prepare.
thank you. This is awful for us all, I wish you all peace and eventual happiness xxx
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DH died suddenly 10 days ago - why so calm?
wink1970 · 14/04/2024 21:20
pimplebum · 14/04/2024 21:51
I was the same , made phone calls calmly telling people what had happened and calmly getting things done
I didn't crash and burn and you won't either it comes in waves and steps and stages
I kept expecting to fall into this massive black hole but kept plodding on
The concerning part for me was your trauma at his treatment and that will be where you need help
Contact PALS online and let them know your concerns
My mum was convinced for years that my dad was " bumped off" by the medical staff and that has been a huge obstacle in her grief progress
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