Hope of life after death

[BellaMoon123]

I lost my mum 6 weeks ago and have become obsessed with quantum mechanics and collective consciousness because I can't bear the thought that I might never see her again.

I miss her so much, but the thought that there are things 'out there' that we don't understand is helping me to cope and get on with every day life, looking after the children etc.

I wondered whether anyone else feels this way, or has had experiences that suggest that the suffering we go through in this world, is not all that there is.

I just miss my mum so much, she was my touchstone, my confidante and best friend.

Thanks and sorry for the rambling :)
Bella x

@LuckyBitches being on here talking to strangers helps so much people in real life have no clue what I'm going through with a one week old baby too it's so painful

@mrssunshinexxx My dad came to me in a dream about 2 months after he passed (about 3 years ago). It was the night of his memorial service. I felt he came again to me last night too which is why I ended up browsing this board. Sometimes I dream "of" him - in these dreams he hasn't died and we are just hanging out together. These are like the normal dreams you have where your brain seems to invent scenarios and representations of people for you to explore. However the "people" in your dreams seem flimsy and unreal because they are inventions.

But 4 or 5 times now I've had a dream where it feels very different - like he has come to see me and bring me comfort. And instead of it being a representation of him, I can feel that it IS him. The first time this happened it was such a profound experience that on awakening it had completely reshaped my grief. I just had this absolute certainty that he had come to me and that there must be life after death as a result. I was elated. That's when I started searching online for other people who might have had this experience and discovered the phenomena of "visitation dreams".

I want to stress I am not religious and nor did I ever believe in life after death. But having now had these dreams I can't help feeling that I will be with my parents again. And part of me, particularly when I am finding life tough, really looks forward to joining them.

@scatterolight that's really interesting thanks for sharing
I feel awful saying this with a new born baby but I'm the same when having a bad day I think about joining her
I have dreamt about her once to my knowledge it was v strange I was sobbing hysterically in my sleep and my husband had to shake me awake 😭

Miss her madly

I would love to believe because that nothingness hurts so very much. I had one dream about my dad where we were walking in a mountainous area (he lived in such an area) and he said 'I'm going now' and walked off round the corner of the mountain and out of sight. That was not long after he died and I have had no dreams with him in since then 😭

@formerbabe

Sorry I can't do links but it's called A tale of two babies if you want to search for it. It really made me see things differently

I just looked that up and it's really good @formerbabe

I believe in an existence after death, not life as we know it of course.

I believe in God and Jesus, but don't have too much faith in Churches and I'm definitely not a Bible basher and I do swear like a trooper

I can't imagine how sad it would be to think this is it, this particular life is all we get.

There is no evidence for life after death. Given the amount of theologians, scientist, soirituslusts etc dedicating their lives youd think if there was we would know.

Grief is horrific, painful, life shattering but why use it to make things up. If it helps,great but there is no evidence.

Happy to be proved wrong.

@RoseRedderDeary

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I can't imagine how sad it would be to think this is it, this particular life is all we get.

I agree especially when people SO good get taken far far too soon how can this be all there is you work your whole life then bang your gone one day it's bull shit

I'm so sorry to hear this. I haven't read the thread but have you read the book 'Proof of Heaven.' I am not in any way religious- don't let the title put you off. It's an INCREDIBLE book written by a neurosurgeon . Bought me a lot of comfort. (I listened to it on audible...)

Spoke to a counsellor recently about grief for my brother- she talked about how there can be a 'continuing bond' between us. Might again be worth looking up. ❤️ to you.

Proof of Heaven: A Neurosurgeon's Journey into the Afterlife https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/0749958790/ref=cmswwrcppapiii_IHQ.EbSYM2GSM

I’m so sorry you lost your mum, Mrs Sunshine, and to everyone else grieving on here, I’m sorry, and very grateful for somewhere to share the awful pain of loss.

I also like to think about the discoveries in recent years about time and space... if time is an illusion then in some way, the people we’ve lost are still here. Maybe it’s all self delusion to ease the pain but no one really knows do they, it just so happens that we’re living in an era when it’s fashionable to insist that nothing spiritual exists.

I’m not religious but I do hope with all my heart that all that my mum was is not truly gone. And I think things are changing. I think as our technology and understanding advances, we’ll hopefully see more evidence that there are other realms, our minds just filter them out xx

Thanks @willowtree81 x

@BellaMoon123 I like to think there's something someone so special in my eyes can't just be gone what a waste she was the most selfless kindest person I've ever known

I have lost both of my parents recently and gain great comfort from the belief I will see them again, perhaps in a way I simply don’t fully understand yet. After my Mum died I felt she was still around and almost felt her soul embrace me as I tried to support my Dad through his grief and illness. After Dad died I thought I would feel the same but I don’t; they’ve both just “gone”. It was painful at first but now I believe this is because Mum waited for him and wherever they are they’re there together. I hope they come back for me when my time comes and when times are tough I almost look forward to the thought of that.

@Waxlyrically your post resonated with me a lot I have a brand new baby who I adore so I feel so awful and conflicted saying this but I often think my mum is waiting for me and I can't wait to be with her again

I lost my parents 35 years ago, my dad first and the a couple of years later my mum. I had no particular beliefs about an afterlife but I had some experiences that made me believe that there is something.
I grieved tremendously when my dad died. It was the first real loss I had suffered and I was still crying several month later. I was sitting at my dressing table crying when a voice in my head (it was my dad's voice) said 'That's it, you've grieved long enough you have a husband and children to think about'. Get on with your life.' It was so clear as if he was standing next to me and from that moment on I started to recover.
Several years later I had just driven up to the front of my house and was getting my brief case when I looked up and there was my dad, as clear as day. He was standing there, looked about 50, with his coat on and his brief case in his hand. He smiled and disappeared. I hadn't even been thinking about him.
There was also another incident.
Make of it what you will but I found them comforting.

I can recommend Ian Lawton's book After Life, he's spent years researching the subject.
I am a believer and have had several experiences and communications and I have no fear of dying.

@bodgeitandscarper would you recommend that book to someone who is very scared of dying ?

@Buddywoo very sorry you lost both parents I think that does sound comforting I know it sounds crazy but I believe my mum has come back as a magpie

I lost my fiance when I was only 19, I was utterly broken. He knew he was dying and promised me that he'd show me a sign when he was gone. After he died I begged and begged for him to show me a sign but nothing happened. However I have felt his presence at totally random times over the last 20 years, when I would have no reason to be thinking of him, It is almost like he taps me on the shoulder and he's there.
I firmly believe that we live on, I believe in God and I believe in heaven, whatever that may be. My fiance was quite a bit older than me and had lost a baby to cot death years before we met, this broke his heart and I always think that when he died he went straight to look after his baby, and that's why he didn't hang around for me.
Hope you're feeling OK op

Oh@ItsSpittingEverybodyIn that's heartbreaking for you and for him
So young to have such a huge loss
I can't believe I have lost my mum in my twenties I still feel like a baby and like I need her so much even though I have a baby of my own

@mrssunshinexxx Yes I would, it offers explanations and I think helps to get your head around things. I think that it can provide a great support when we're grieving the physical loss of an individual.x

Thank you @bodgeitandscarper