Grief sucks.

[xexxsy]

Lasts longer than the sympathy does. Sympathisers mean well, I know that, but move on to their own lives. Normal.

Sorry, just crying my eyes out now. An anniversary, the memories, the total awful shit, the snots, the crying, the rage, the howling.

Will it ever get to the point where it is tolerable.

I'm so sorry x
The loss of a child?
I can't imagine...

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I'm so very very sorry for you, your son, that's just unimaginable, heartbreaking. I hope those who are supporting you know how important it is and continue to do so, Thinking of you, your family and your son.x

My DM was killed in a car accident 8 weeks ago, she was 69. I'd already lost my DF when he was 54. I'm blessed in many ways. Lovely DH and DC, good job, nice house, financially secure etc etc, but sometimes you just want your mum and dad.
Dreading xmas this year.
to you all.

So, so sorry for everyone's losses.
It really is shit. But it does get easier - not better, but easier.
I'm a snotty tearful mess tonight as we're wedding dress shopping tomorrow, and DP would have been so bloody delighted for DD. It's been over a year now, so I've done all the big firsts - but there are still lots of little firsts to go through too. I saw the thread title and came on to post the same as coconutty did; I found reading that in the earlier days helped, and it still does now.
The wish for it not to have happened doesn't stop though.

I am just watching Mary Berry's story. She is talking about the death of her son William 1969-1989.
You can see that she is welling up and still obviously still grief stricken.

Sorry your sad xex it never gets easier you just learn to hide it more

Badders, my mum died with me by her side, suddenly but I guess relatively peacefully. My dad then died a brutal death right infront of me and I can never forget or unsee what happened. There's no doubt in my mind that I have ptsd. There's nothing that can equip you or prepare you for something like that happening.

Dealing with the loss of someone close to you gets easier, only in the sense that you learn to live with a new normal.

(I lost my DM ten years' ago, about five years afterwards I was driving along and caught sight of a woman walking along who so resembled her I caught my breath and next thing burst into tears. My rational head knew it couldn't be her but it was such a shock).

I am xexxsy the OP. Something happened and I had to re reg. Cannot figure out how to give myself a username. First world problems.

Hello to everyone, I feel your losses running through my very veins. We can only support each other and rage against the dying of the light.

Today I was at the funeral of my friend's teenage son. A sudden death from that heart problem young fit lads seem to be getting now.

OMG, it put my self indulgent snot and rage filled grief into perspective. But it brought my own all back now that I am home. My face is like a red turnip.

But I sometimes, sometimes..... can be ok for days, even smile now and then, but then along comes the wham!

Having yet another cry here, today was so, so sad. I better put something on for dinner soon or we will be having a "crying pie", ie. nada. LOLs

Love and hugs to you all.