''Even the smallest of footprints have the power to leave an everlasting imprint on the Earth'' Remembering with love our darling children

[Whatevertheweather]

Remembering not only what we have lost but what our darling children have given to us.

A new 'safe haven' thread. Thank you Chip for our last one which filled up in just a month. A sure sign of lots of tears, smiles and wonderful support.

All our children have taught us something whether they were born sleeping, lived just a little while, weeks, months or years. Here are mine:

Never ever take anything for granted, life can change very quickly.
Listen to yourself; your instincts will nearly always be right.
That it is possible to function  seemingly normally with a broken heart.
That I have a wonderful relationship that can withstand the hardest of times.
That love and support can come from the most unexpected sources.
That I have a lot of very lovely friends, new and old.
That my family is amazing.
That no matter what it is impossible not to smile and laugh with my beautiful Katie around.
That a rainbow can provide hope in the darkest of times.
That there will be good days and bad days
That I love my children more than I ever thought possible.

For all our darling children xxx

[Bluetinkerbell]

So sorry SHJJTJ I wish you lots of strength and a peaceful day tomorrow x
We have started a new thread, you can join us here

[SHJJTJ]

My dear little boy's funeral tomorrow. It's going to be such a hard day. Two days is all he had with us. I just want to cuddle him so much and never let go.

[Bluetinkerbell]

That's lovely Mech :) See you there! x

[Mechavivzilla]

Interestingly, my dog has a face like a turnip. She can't help it, she is a boxer!

You have made me laugh, thank you :) Am going to go and think positive and loving thoughts and then wander over to the new thread later in a calm and happy state. Wish me luck!

[Bluetinkerbell]

chip

[chipmonkey]

She doesn't eat anything that has a face. >

[Bluetinkerbell]

euhm no... I'm vegetarian

[chipmonkey]

[Mechavivzilla]

They are beef flavour, I hope that's okay? ;)

[Bluetinkerbell]

Biscuits are still welcome Mech I'll pm you my address

[Mechavivzilla]

Horay for clean slates! At least I didn't have to bribe you guys with a walk and some biscuits. I think the dog is speaking to me again....

Thank you all again, sincerely.

xx

[fioled]

Thanks blue just what we need I think :) xx

and thanks again wtw :)

[chipmonkey]

Oh, God, what is it with this thread? This is not the place for fighting. To be fair, if there is a tradition for passing on threads, then that should be made clear to all new posters here. I made the mistake of starting the thread for Sylvie-Rose and then felt awful when it was pointed out to me that it wasn't my turn, even though the person who pm-d me was very nice about it. I honestly hadn't realised because nobody actually said it on the thread beforehand or at least hadn't said it since I had joined.

So if it is to continue, maybe the handing-over should be done publicly on the thread?

Mech, stay exactly where you are, lady! We're all here for you.

everlong, I do wish you'd stay.

[lavandes]

This is the place where we can all come and shout, scream, cry, sometimes laugh but we will never be judged. long may it go on. After all we are all in the same boat. xx

[Bluetinkerbell]

Not wanting to get into the conversation, I've made a new thread, so if we can all start on a clean slate... pretty please? Come over here

Thanks to fioled and wtw to think of my darling Sterre

[fioled]

Not a drama queen at all mecha, the same could be said of me sometimes! We're all allowed to blow a fuse time to time though! I'll take a xx

[Mechavivzilla]

x post Mias sorry to you too :( and thank you x

[Mechavivzilla]

fioled you and some many others, actually when I think about it everyone else, has been so lovely and supportive. I am already cringing in horror at my drama queen tendencies there. I am not normally flouncy I promise! I know what you mean about bad weeks :( I am sorry you are having one too.

Type, count to 10, walk away, come back, re-read then post for me from now on I think!

Anyway. Ignore me! I told the dog to fuck off earlier and she is still giving me dirty looks. The sun has come out so I will take her out for a walk.

Sorry again or [tea] and all round.

sheepish

[MiaAlexandrasmummy]

mecha this thread, and all future ones after this, are for everyone who needs love, support and understanding, perhaps with the occasional dose of humour thrown in. It is a safe haven for us all. Nothing is going to change that. Please know that. Yes, there are people on here who have been posting for quite some time, but it has always been very clear to me that if anyone needs support as they grieve for their child, this is the place to come - and you will receive it from posters, both 'old' and 'new'. Everyone's own unique needs will ebb and flow over time, and we all give what we can, when we can. That is what makes this thread special on MN. x

[fioled]

mecha don't go anywhere! This thread is close to 1000 posts, when it will be full, so a new one will need to be started. It won't be super or private, just a new thread in bereavement.

This is my fault for anyway for publicly retracting my new thread suggestion. I'm fed up, snipey and not having a good week.

[Mechavivzilla]

Sorry, as soon I I pressed enter I wished I could take that back :(

Its just hard being here. We have all suffered a terrible loss and the snipping that something feels off made me feel really uncomfortable. I already feel like I am barging into a private conversation no one really wants me to join. Kind of fair enough, I know lots of people have been posting for years, but there is so little support going I could use all I can get. I am sure others feel this way.

Now apparently there is a super private new thread starting away from the "disasters" and "trolls". Brilliant. I'll go back to SANDS where no one ever posts!

[Mechavivzilla]

Wow. I feel put in my place.

[fioled]

wtw not your fault at all lovely xx looks like great minds were thinking alike and all that anyway! And this thread hasnt been a disaster at all! It's been a lovely place of support, thank you for it xx

Everlong, i think 'bully' is way harsh, and who is pulling rank. I wasn't aware there was a rank, other than this crap where it feels like you want to be in charge. And as for uncomfortable the same could be said of you. You are obviously still pissed off with quite a few older faces on this thread and appear not to be letting anything go.

I usually don't start or join in with public confrontation but I'm in a foul mood this week, reaching breaking point so yes I'm feeling snappy. I just think, all this, 'protocol for starting threads' in the greater scheme of things is petty. We are all here because we have dead children, and what matters is how a thread gets started? Utterly beyond.

[Whatevertheweather]

Ah crumbs just had a lovely message from Fioled. Please don't fall out over this. It's my fault for stopping posting/reading I didn't realise it was towards the end. As I said to Fioled I think it would be lovely for Blue to start a new thread in honour of Sterre's first birthday. I see now from reading the last few posts Fi had been thinking the same as me anyway.

I think the sooner this thread disappears the better it's been a bit of a disaster one

Over to you Blue xx

We love you so very much little Erin xxx