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6.5 mo getting v worried about development. Help!!

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goldie12 · 25/07/2005 20:20

Looking for some honest opinions!! My DS is 6.5 months and I am worried about several things that he's not doing.

Doesn't roll either way. Has nearly gone back to tummy a few times but can't seem to move his arm from underneath to get all the way over.
Doesn't reach out for toys v often
slow in other things,eg, only started grabbing his feet at 6 months
Often won't give me any eye contact when sitting in high chair
Mostly happy to lie on back and kick or sit up and look around
Not upset if I take a toy away and can't pass things hand to hand (only does it by accident)

I think it's the not rolling and lack of motivation to move in any style that worries me most. Would appreciate any views. I kinda think he has weak arms, wrists.

On the plus side, he has been bearing weight on his legs since 3.5 months and loves to stand. He sits unaided (since 6 months) and has a wicked laugh!

Anyway, I won't waffle on any more. Do you think I should be worried

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aloha · 31/07/2005 16:44

I am honestly not sure what is worrying you so much though Goldie. Your six month old is already streets ahead of my son at the same age. Spates of not eating are incredibly normal IME - with children as well as babies. Obviously you are more anxious because you feel your baby didn't have a good start with eating, but how long has it been - a week? That's really not very long. I know everyone is different but I honestly can't see anything unusual in your baby. It just seems such a shame to worry so much when he is so young. Refusing to eat is very normal IMO!

aloha · 31/07/2005 16:46

btw, when I posted about ds's dyspraxia on MN and listed all the things he couldn't do at 3, everyone said, 'um. sorry, my child could do all those'!

aloha · 31/07/2005 16:48

you should have been in my postnatal group if you are comparing - you would have found my non-sitting ds very reassuring

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goldie12 · 31/07/2005 17:15

Aloha, I agree v much with most you have said. Your DS sounds like he's doing great btw. I am just basing my worries on the mums and babies I know, that's all I can do. None of them judge and I know they wouldn't even notice what he's doing really. Just wanted you to know that I cherish my son very much and I take him out and about an awful lot. Certainly not worrying his babyhood away. Just having a few worries about links to autism and what my son can't do atm. Probably paranoia but there you are, that's how I'm feeling. Thanks for your posts...I'm sure I will get a grip before long!

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Jimjams · 31/07/2005 17:56

goldie I don't go anywhere with ds3 - not where there are other babies the same age - too many bad memories of going with ds1 and the worst place to feed paranoia is round baies of the same age. I thought this time I would, but went to a couple of bumps/babes things and couldn't bear it. I did start venturing out with ds2 once I knew he was OK and will do the same this time.

The book was one on Amazon- I'll have a look later. Lots of games really- flying etc and some massage. Signing babes I'm just doing at home - I've thought about a class but I don't know gives me the shivers really. A friend is going to one with her baby- and she has 2 autistic children so she may be a good person to tag along with, so still considering that. It's easy to do at home though. A bit of something special, makaton dave and you're away.

I do agree with Aloha though- there's nothing that you've said that would particularly have me concerned, and too much paranoia does spoil things.

I'm in the south west UK btw.

aloha · 31/07/2005 18:31

I do sympathise re the paranoia. Isn't it part of the mummy experience? I'm a journalist and remember having to do a v harrowing interview with a woman whose son had Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy (horrid and invariably fatal). Of course, after this, I managed to convince myself that ds definitely had it and literally had sleepless nights fretting and panicking.
Nothing you have said rings alarm bells with me and I do know what it is like to see something different in your child and worry about it (I'm referring to the dyspraxia here, not the non-existent muscular dystrophy!).
But even with ds there would have been no point worrying any earlier than I did.
I really think a child of six months that makes noises, sits up, plays with toys and looks for his mother does sound perfectly normal and even if he does turn out to be a late developer in the end, I hope you can relax and feel at least a tiny bit reassured. It's lovely not to feel panicky!
And ds is doing really well and we are fantastically proud of him! Maybe the reason I am happy with dd is I don't go to baby groups with her at all - no scope for comparison, which can be a sure-fire route to paranoia

aloha · 31/07/2005 18:32

Oh, and reaching and grabbing under his babygym is a good thing!

Jimjams · 31/07/2005 18:57

agree about the baby gym- that was 1st on my checklist - was pleased to see it! And agree about keepimg away from baby groups

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goldie12 · 31/07/2005 19:26

I am getting a grip now and a perspective on things, you'll be glad to hear . Sorry for being a drama queen!!

I'm afraid I can't stay away from baby groups and meeting friends and their babes. It can make me a bit paranoid sometimes but I feel DS and I gain so much from lots of chatting, playing and coffee. Pros definitely outweigh the cons. I can't bear to be in the house all day...that is the worst thing for me...that is partly how I get in this state, too much time to think! I certainly understand why you're both saying this though.

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ruty · 31/07/2005 20:43

i was out today and somebody i know said about ds 'he doesn't say much does he?' Made me worry that he should be talking more. He doesn't imitate sounds. I felt OK until today.

Jimjams · 31/07/2005 22:13

gosh he's too little to be imitating sounds ruty. He might be expected to start imitaing gross motor activites around nowish, but sounds are last to come. We weren't at college together btw were we?

Jimjams · 31/07/2005 22:14

Anyway ds1 babbled like anyting- ds2 was my quiet one (not any more!)

ruty · 31/07/2005 22:45

thanks jimjams that makes me feel a bit better. i left univ in 93...

Jimjams · 01/08/2005 08:37

I left in 92- think we were at the same place (but could be wrong).

I'm feeding ds3 but can hear ds1 giggling manically upstairs. He's doing something naughty........ better drag ds3 with me and check.

ruty · 01/08/2005 09:20

i think we were but a different colleges?

Madfizz · 02/08/2005 15:22

Goldie12 do you think your DS1 has silent reflux could this not explain the lack of interest in food, my DS1 has severe reflux and has been slow developmentally although he didn't sit until 7.5mths. He also loves to stand apparently standing alleviates the pain

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goldie12 · 04/08/2005 18:43

Yes Madfizz, think you're probably right that he has some degree of reflux. I had just left it untreated til this point as DS had been putting on weight fine but we are getting more and more vomit so am going to get the gaviscon I've got a presciption for...is there a reflux/ similar probs thread on MN? Off to find out! Thanks

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