My daughter still wets the bed - and she's 10

[Avalon]

Does anyone have a similar problem. When do they grow out of it?

Thanks for your thoughts, Issymum.

It's very difficult to talk about burglars to dd1 because she doesn't want to even hear the word. I like your idea of finding burglars annoying as well - I only ever think of scary!

Thinking about your 'more likely, less likely' game, I will do that but I'll build up to it very slowly so she doesn't hear the dreaded word and switch off. It might just tap into her practical side - she's very sensible about obvious things like roads, asking directions etc.

My dh fitted an alarm last week as we've recently had 2 burglaries in the road.

okay, heres a confession... I went the bed until I was about 10, and it was because I was too scared to get out of bed (v haunted house with strange things that went on). I didn't stop doing until about a year after we moved, as it had become such a habit.
My mum tried everything, lifting me when she went to bed, not letting me drink after evening meal etc. The only thing that stopped it was my dad in the end, who sat me down and told me he realised it was making me sad, and that I was spoiling ym fun as I was too scared to go to sleep overs etc and that for every dry night I would be given 50p (or something like that) and at the end of every (dry) week HE would take me to town to get something from the toy shop. I think this worked as I didn't see much of dad cos he worked alot and I really wanted that special time alone with him (I was one of 4). Anyway, after about two months of that I stoped doing it completely and haven't ever done it again... Hope this may help...

DD is 4 and has started again afetr spending 2 weeks at her fathers house, she would sometimes do it the night she came back after a weekend at his but it has been every night (except last night though) since she has been back. She has come up with various reasons, cold, sleepy, afraid of the dark - I have got her a sleepsuit from Mothercare so she isn't cold anymore, a night light too so she can't blame the dark and have told her that everyone's sleepy inthe ngiht so she can;t use that excuse!!

We have tried limiting drinks, getting her up when we go to bed and I have even got her up again in the middle of the night and got her to go again but it has not worked.

Last night we got her up at 10 (she had been asleep since 7.30pm) and she went and I told her she had to really try to go loads till she felt empty - she did do a bit more which I presume would have either woke her up later or she would have done in the bed!! And this morning she was dry - made huge fuss of her - will take her to Cafe Rouge this afternoon for a cake and lemonade and to feed the ducks as a treat so she hopefully remembers how good she has been.

spikeycat - I've thought about the reward route and the enuresis clinic were trying to get me to do this, but what about dd2 and dd3 who are dry and night and don't get a reward? I think I'll say to her if you're dry for x nights in a row you can go for a sleepover. She's at the age now when she really wants to do this. I just don't want to let her go for one and then have her embarrassed, possibly with friend's unsympathetic parents.

Twinkie - I vaguely remember something you could try with your dd to get her to fully empty the bladder. Get her to go to the toilet, then stand up, count to ten, and then try again.

Thats great avalon - I will try tonight I was amazed last night that she did so much when I told her to really try to go till she felt empty!!

WIll report back on Monday!!

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Not offended secur.

I suppose the reward thing could work if it makes them do all the things that are supposed to help, like drink enough during the day and go to the toilet when they first feel the urge etc.

The funny thing is that dd1 has always been dry on her Brownie trips to London, but wet herself on her weekend school trip.

She's supposed to be going to France for a week with the school next year and I'm wondering whether I'm doing the right thing.

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I was the youngest so the others didn't really mind the reward situation, to be honest they wanted it to stop as much as anyone else, especially my sister as we had bunk beds and I had the top bunk
Mum and dad just explained I think....?
As for being rewarded for somthing there was no control over...to some extent I did have control, but had just got soooooo used to wetting the bed that it didn't bother me that much and I think I needed an incentive to get me out of that mind set. Might not work for everyone....?

Haven't read all this thread so sorry if this has been said before. Have you been offered an eneurisis alarm? If she can wear knickers in bed you put in inside and it bleeps when it gets wet. Not for going on trips obviously but for at home. It is supposed to train the bed wetter to wake up the second the alarm sounds and then wake up when they need to go. I wet the bed until quite old and I used to have very vivid dreams that I was sitting on the loo, also think I was a bit scared from early childhood

Thanks for your messages.

easylc - what did the GP say?
Twinkie - did it help?
Davros - we weren't offered an enuresis alarm because at the time she was dry say, 4 nights out of 7. I think they only offer them when there's a problem most nights. She might sleep through it too as she's a heavy sleeper. A friend's child sleeps through his alarm, yet it wakes up everybody else in the house!

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