ds1. is. not. going. to. reach. his. 8th. birthday.
We are having ongoing problems with him behaving inappropriatly by showing us his bottom, kissing his brothers bottom and touching himself in front of us saying 'look look', saying 'kiss a bottom', 'comedy', 'kiss a wee wee' etc
He is obsessed with it and we have tried everything. everything. to get him to stop.
nothing is getting through to him. he does it again and again and again and again. each time laughing and appearing to not remember anything about every time before that he's done it and been told off or punished.
so today he's been at it. and told off. and done it again. and been told off. and done it again........ he laughs, every time.
and he gets enraged when pulled up on it.
i have just screamed at him. top of my lungs. to stop doing it. he screamed back at me and snatched a pair of scissors and lunged at me with them. i've grabbed them and i've just lost it and yelled at him to go to his bedroom. he stood there, screaming back then thrust his toy cat at me and wiggled his fingers where its bits would be and said 'kiss a wee wee' then LAUGHED!!!
i frogmarched him to his bedroom and he is screaming and smashing everything. you might think he was defying me by keep doing it but the look on his face after the kittenfiddling, when i escorted him upstairs - he was surprised. he just didnt get it.
i swear i am going to kill him.
i dont know what to do to get through to him. if he does this at school they are going to think something is being done to him, all this kiss a wee-wee stuff is not normal.
oh, he is autistic, btw, which doesnt help, esp with the temper and he's not got lots of speach.
he is just obsessed. i just want to shake him and dear god i want to hit him so hard, (i never would - i just mean i am so frustrated i want to lash out) but i find myself thinking does this mean he is going to grow up into a pervert, or what if he touches a child at school. he already touches his brother - kisses his bottom and yesterday he groped him. i grab him and stop him and try to stop before he (ds1) gets him (ds2), and i punish him - although this doesnt stop him - NOTHING stops him.
i am at a loss. i am almost reaching a point where i fear i am going to lose control and whack him. i am so angry and frustrated and also worried about the implications of this behaviour.
i am cross with myself that i shouted. shouting doesnt work with him, i know that. it just sends him into meltdown. but i am only human and i have reached the end of my tether with this.
he's still in his bedroom now, screaming and throwing everything and bashing what is probably various parts of himself against the walls and floor. i darent go up there in case i grab him and throw him against the wall myself.
i am at a loss. we have overcome so much. dealt with - and made a difference to - so many of his more, erm, challenging behaviours but we cant seem to get on top of this.
and as if it wasnt bad enough, ds2 (also autistic) is starting to copy ds1.