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any toddlers not talking?

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mummy2ashton · 11/12/2006 15:53

my ds is 23 months old and not talking. i am considering setting up a website with a forum for toddlers and children slow to speak. would anyone be interested in something like this? there doesn't seem to be one currently.
we could have articles on speech, sign language, games to help speech, etc etc. what do you think?

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mummy2ashton · 13/12/2006 13:13

righteho, seems like its not just me who thinks a website is a good idea for this sort of thing!
leave it with me and i will see what i can sort out. xxx

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mumofhelen · 13/12/2006 13:26

It's difficult not to worry. There's this one mother whose 2 year old (turned 2 in November) speaks/talks REALLY well and the mother is always rubbing this in. This morning she started the conversation with "I wonder why some children are better at talking than others?" I replied, "Don't know" and wanted to add "and don't care" but the reality is I do care. I know my dd can talk when she wants to and she understands a lot, but I don't know how to encourage my dd to have a conversation. I tried the same line as the health visitor - getting a book and asking her to name the animals etc, but dd says "NO" or "no way". Someone suggested not giving, say her drink of orange until she asked for it. The end result was her dinner landing on the floor as dd flew into a tantrum. I remember when we had lunch once with this above mentioned mother. Dd said "more" meaning she wanted more pasta. The mother said, "more what?" expected the word "please". Instead, my dd said,"more NOW, MORE NOW" louder and louder just to make sure this mother heard and understood. The mother looked at me - I'm not sure what she expected me to say or do. Dd was 22 months old at the time. The other mother's dd was saying "please" at 22 months.

SquillosMum · 13/12/2006 13:29

My DS (23 months) seems to quite slow in speaking too. Although I've noticed recently that a few more "words" are coming out, but compared to friends' children he barely says a word! So I will watch for the website with interest, hopefully by the time it's up and running I won't need the help as much, but will be able to offer reassurance myself!

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mummy2ashton · 13/12/2006 14:26

does anyone know how to set up a website? i've tried but i am rubbish at these things!

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mummy2ashton · 13/12/2006 14:30

actually, i have another website site (co owned with another couple of mums). i am sure they will let me have a section for speech delay and development. we have a home page and afiliates etc, and it won't be difficult to get articles on speech therapy. we could do a whole section on it. would that interest anyone?

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helenhismadwife · 13/12/2006 18:45

I think its a great idea to have somewhere that parents who are worried about speech or lack of it can go for advice and support,and to just share your concerns also how to go about getting professional advice.

One of my ds who is now 14 was very slow to talk, he was a third child, I was worried sick and didnt know where to go, he was eventually refered for speech therapy by this time I had convinced myself that he had a serious undiagnosed problem. He only went a few times they decided he was just lazy he is now a very bright child, but I do wish there had been somewhere I could have gone for reassurance

lackofgravitas · 13/12/2006 19:24

mumofhelen, that other mum's dd must have been completely conditioned (you know, like you can do with dogs) into saying 'please' in that context. I mean, 'please' is hardly a reasoned response to 'more what?' 'More NOW!' is actually far more rational, although not as rational as 'more pasta, duh'.

My dd still looks at me blankly if I try the 'more what?' question, at 2.9, but will say please in context if left to her own devices. This morning we woke up to 'excuse me, my taggie fall on the floor', how polite is that?! Unfortunately all the credit belongs to Charlie & Lola, not dh and me. ;)

DINOsaurmummykissingsantaclaus · 13/12/2006 21:58

perfumelady - if she is concerned about autism, there is lots of info and help available via the special needs boards on mumsnet.

An autism dx is where I think DS3 is most likely heading - my DS1 was diagnosed with high-functioning autism at 3.

singsalot · 13/12/2006 22:12

perfumelady - the speech and language therapist asked me about my ds eating, so there is a link, don't know what, what about tongue tie?

it is a major worry, autism is a thought most of us mums with speech probs worry about most, imho

I am constantly analysing ds behaviour, looking for signs, I could drive myself mad

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mummy2ashton · 14/12/2006 14:16

ooh if there is a link between eating and speech, i may be onto something there. my ds refused solids until the age of 13 months! he still doesnt eat well now.

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platypuss · 16/12/2006 13:12

My ds is 3 this month and hardly says a thing - some words, no sentences. And he is a pretty good eater! I put this down to his being brought up bilingual, but can't stop myself worrying even so. The health visitors are pretty slack round here so no professionals have commented yet... should I get him seen?

Stockingsofdinosaurs · 16/12/2006 19:56

Re eating probs too: google Dyspraxia.

Elasticwoman · 16/12/2006 20:16

Dd2 was slow to talk, and although I wasn't too worried myself, on the advice of a friend I got her referred to a speech therapist. The diagnosis was that at 2 yrs 10 ms she was a whole year behind in understanding of language. I was gobsmacked. Speech therapist gave me some advice about how to focus on getting her to talk more. 3 weeks later she was assessed again and found to have made 6 months progress in those 3 weeks! She also went to a special speech & language class but by that time had made more progress and the other mothers wondered what she was doing there. She is now 10 years old and is doing fine at school; had a speaking part in school play, just taken gd 2 violin.

The points I am making are

do ask for help if you are concerned - it is available.
they often catch up in their own time.

platypuss · 18/12/2006 14:00

Stockingsofdinosaurs, I just googled dyspraxia - but my non-speaking ds1, not quite 3, is fully potty-trained night and day, can pull his trousers up and down, does 20-piece jigsaw puzzles, runs fast and straight enough to impress our marathon-running friend, and is pretty popular and sociable in his nursery class. Not really the dyspraxic profile, from the website I saw. I think maybe at 3 and a half, if things haven't moved on, it might be a good idea to see a speech therapist? but in my view mummy2ashton, who originally posted, is worrying very early at 23 months! Still there, mummy2ashton?

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