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Emotional Stability or Education........

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fairyfly · 06/05/2004 10:46

O.k i have just had a meeting with the head of my sons school and i am fuming. Not with her, not with teachers, nothing like that. With society in general. My son is behind he doesn't recognise key words etc etc.... The head is putting this down to the amount of schooling he missed at the begining of Reception. I admit it he did, i didn't take him in. I had a little boy whos heart was broken, whos Daddy had just left. The spark had gone out of his eyes, his confidence was smashed, his soul was asleep. Everyday he would weep quietly and ask me not to leave him, so sorry i didn't. Now after loving and holding and stroking his little head back up again he is confident polite well mannered witty etc. None of this is recognisible in the system though, oh know he is a failure because he can't read enough. I don't actually give two shits about that. I am furious that at 5 years of age he is being assessed. I am proud of the fact that at 4 years of age he learnt what loss was and got through it.

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Catan · 10/05/2004 12:29

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Sonnet · 10/05/2004 12:40

Havn't had time to read all this ut just wanted to say FWIW - I think you did exactly the right thing.
Jolly phonics may be good to do with him at home. I know they have games and things and matching cards.
Also "my very first scrabble" was loved by my DD1

good luck

MeanBean · 10/05/2004 22:45

I can't believe the Head made such an irresponsible remark. What absolute rubbish, and what a terrible attitude that lies behind it.

Lara2 · 12/05/2004 19:31

fairyfly - you have definately done the right thing. How could he have cpoed with going to a strange place, let alone learning anything, in the state he was in? Most kids in Europe don't do formal Englasi type school until they are 6 years old. It continues to baffle me why our Government and system thinks it's OK to bundle them all off at such a tender age AND expect them to cope. You carry on doing what you know is best for your DS, and NEVER be hesistant in going into school if you think someone doesn't understand the situation. Good luck!

Lara2 · 12/05/2004 19:32

Sorry about all the typos!!!!!

Piffleoffagus · 12/05/2004 20:04

I have cried reading that
You are his mum, you know best, he is our mumsnetters top lad, with fairies on his shoulders watching him grow.
You kept his heart warm, his soul nurtured and his eyes dryer, you honey made the rightest of all right choices in Rightville. How dare you be undermined like that.
If its any consolation when my DS was in reception, his bag of a teacher labelled him learning disabled.
In yr 2 he was labelled gifted and talented!
Go figure, just assume they talk through holes in their arses at times.
Big hugs xxx

tigermoth · 12/05/2004 22:16

fairyfly, I thought of you when I heard this: My son's reception year teacher told my husband that it's very common for children in her class not to recognise key words, understand phonics etc. It's not because they can't, it's because they see no point in it and just don't want to! Nothing to worry about at all, she said. Wish she could knock some sense into your son's head teacher.

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