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Playpens? What do you think of them?

43 replies

MammyShirl · 05/02/2004 17:43

I live in a small flat and finding it quite difficult to protect my dd from hurting herself. She is almost 11 months, not yet walking but climbing up everything!!!!!!
I was going to get a playpen but not sure if i would get much use out of it. i know i would find it handy now but what age are they up to?
i just need to contain her ina safe space while i do washing etc... as she has now decided to not sleep/nap in the day which meand i have to watch her all day.

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wobblyknicks · 12/08/2004 15:40

mts - I would DEFO recommend the BabyDan - it's worth every single penny and far more!!! (and you can sell it later and get quite a lot back) Can't rave about it enough. I know some people strap their kids into a highchair if they need to do something else and don't have a problem with that, but dd HATES it, she hates being strapped in anywhere - its a struggle getting her to stay in it long enough to eat dinner, let alone anything else.

Being in the playpen has really taught dd to play on her own, and she really appreciates it because she can chill out without having to dash here there and everywhere - she can just sit and play with her toys. It's also helped her (IMO) to stand, because she holds onto the bars, pulls herself up and dances!!! And now she's started standing totally on her own, so it hasn't stopped her development.

If you can get one, definitely do - I give you 2 weeks with it and you won't let anyone take it away!!!

wobblyknicks · 12/08/2004 15:41

and mi - dd will do that, if I open the door she'll crawl out for a bit, then crawl back in and pull the door shut behind her!!!

Twinkie · 12/08/2004 15:42

Bet she is really short though!!

iota · 12/08/2004 15:43

We needed a travel cot, so bought one that could be used as a playpen - was only used as a safe place for a few minutes whilst doing essentials, as others have said.

The playpen aspect only lasted a few months, but the travel cot had done good service for 5 yrs - for 2 children I hasten to add

Northerner · 12/08/2004 15:50

PMSL @ Highchair hunchback

wobblyknicks · 12/08/2004 15:51

Who Twinkie - my dd??

Twinkie · 12/08/2004 15:54

Yep she must be really short spending all that time in there and god help you if she has been left in a car seat - she will walk like a snail!!

wobblyknicks · 12/08/2004 15:57

Yep Twinkie - she's about 20cm tall and does have a sort of snail-like walk now you mention it!! But I have been trying to stop her growing of course, so now I can carry her round in a shoe box!!!

Being serious though, if she's shorter than she would have been without a playpen then I'm VERY glad I put her in a playpen because she is getting TALL as it is!!! She'd be a snake without the playpen then!!!

iota · 12/08/2004 15:59

My 2 certainly spent a lot of time in their car seat/ travel system when they were tiny.....oh dear.

Mind you I knew someone who used to put her baby in his to sleep at night.... pity I've lost touch, I've no idea if he's hunchy now

hercules · 12/08/2004 17:35

I've also read somewhere about car seats and so didnt get one of those combination thingies as I knew I'd go shopping with dd in it for a long time.
Playpens are brill though and we have a little tikes one that expands. We got it for ds 8 years ago and it was the only thing we kept. We mainly use it to shut off different parts of the room eg tv, computer table. It separates and can be used at different places or a pen.
Must be a typo though re stops growth.

poppins · 14/08/2004 01:25

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Trifle · 14/08/2004 08:22

A Montessori teacher with your spelling?!!!

wobblyknicks · 14/08/2004 09:59

poppins - I'm really sorry if you feel that anyone's slated you for being dyslexic or said that you don't know your job because you don't have children of your own - thats unfair and totally wrong.

However, I have to take issue with you on the matter of playpens - and I'm not meaning to use it as something to 'hurt you' about - I just disagree with you, but that's a different point of view, not a personal attack. In dd's playpen she can crawl, roam and pull herself up and cruise perfectly well, without so much danger of hurting herself. And she can still move where she wishes, with boundaries of course but there are always boundaries to where a baby can go. She still uses her muscles just as well as out of the playpen, and uses the bars to hold onto while she jumps up and down and 'dances', which use her muscles very well. At 13 months she is not walking but can stand alone extremely well but lacks the confidence to stand alone for long enough to take steps - her muscles are fine but she has to adjust to the idea of walking, which IMO she will do soon and then will happily walk.

Yes, most of your children may have learnt to walk at 9-12 months but thats no reason to criticize playpens - some children take longer than others and all should be given the chance to develop at their own rate. Most mothers have an extremely hard job juggling a baby and general life and its far better for a baby to be kept safe and develop a couple of months 'late' then be put at a higher risk for the sake of developing quicker. Some mothers don't have the time to watch their children every waking moment to allow them to roam all the time and, as long as the children are well looked after, there's no reason why they should feel guilty for that. And if playpens do delay development by a short period, I don't think that can be classed as 'stunting growth' as the child will still develop the same skills, be it earlier or later. If my dd walks a few months after someone else's, I certainly would not appreciate being told that was stunted development!!! Thats just natural differences between babies and natural differences between the environments they are in.

To say 'they will just not learn as fast that is all' is a big generalisation. How can you tell exactly what a baby is learning and when purely by milestones such as walking? My dd does not walk yet, and isn't talking as well as some babies her age but is extremely clever for her age - such as problem solving, dexterity etc. So how can you judge whether she has learnt as fast as another baby?

I really hope you don't take this as a personal attack, thats not the way I mean it and to attack someone for something like being dyslexic IS wrong but you must appreciate that if you make a statement such as your one about playpens, people are entitled to disagree with you.

coppertop · 14/08/2004 13:45

We've never had a playpen for ds1 or ds2. Ds2 took his first steps on his 1st birthday but ds1 didn't walk until the age of 14 months.Babies develop at different rates regardless of whether or not they are put in a playpen.

tinytoes · 14/08/2004 13:51

my ds had a babyden and walked at ten and a half months

Tiggiwinkle · 14/08/2004 15:08

I think the wooden type of playpen can actually help when they are learning to stand and cruise as the bars give them something to hold on to-although obviously for short periods of time!
One thing I think that can delay walking is the "stand in" type of baby walker (not the push along type) which seems to encourage poor walking technique. We were given one of these for our first son, (he is 23 now) but I never liked it and we did not use one for our other boys.

cuppy · 15/08/2004 20:22

You can say playpens restrict childrens growth so they shouldnt be used, so is it okay then to keep a child strapped in a bouncy chair for an hour?

Its not the equipmment but the way it is used. Everything in moderation - thats my motto.

hmb · 15/08/2004 20:36

Well, dd spent some time in a play pen when she was younger. She crawled at 6 months, walked and talked at 11 months and now at 7 she has a reading age of 12. So I don't think that the playpen slowed her down any.

As others have said, moderation in all things.

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