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How can i get dd to shut up?

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Marne · 23/01/2006 13:58

DD almost 2 talks from the moment she gets up to when she goes to bed, she' a very bright child that has alot to say but i need some peace she's giving me a head ache. She coppies evrything she hears including the tv, music, dh and me. How can i teach her to shut up?

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cod · 23/01/2006 13:59

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nailpolish · 23/01/2006 14:00

is this a joke?

WHY would you want her to shut up??

when shes a teenager you might ache for her to talk to you.

fastasleep · 23/01/2006 14:04

I only want my 2 yr old to shut up when he's been having a screaming tantrum for the last 20 minutes... I like to think I cherish every word he says, especially the new ones! Copying everything is an important developmental stage, she does sound bright...

I do understand though how a constantly babbling toddler can get to you when it's 7pm and they've been doing it since 7am... but that's part of 'being a mum'

WigWamBam · 23/01/2006 14:05

Don't try and shut her up; it's important that she talks, and it's also important that you listen to her at least some of the time because the things she is saying are interesting and important to her. How else is she to know that you value her and her company if you don't allow her to share things with you?

You sound as if what you need is a bit of breathing space rather than for her to shut up. Maybe you could try getting her to play on her own for part of the day instead of always needing you to play with her.

Hulababy · 23/01/2006 14:05

DD has always talked non stop, still does. I encouraged her to talk to her doll's and teddies, especially when she was younger. She would play little games witht hem and rattle on constantly, and no one minded!

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Marne · 23/01/2006 14:08

I do listen, i think thats why she talks so much (because i always talk to her), i just want to be able to talk to other people and dh with out her talking over us. I love the fact she is learning new words and singing new songs, i'm very proud of her.

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nailpolish · 23/01/2006 14:11

if you are trying to have a conversation with someone else and she keeps butting in thats different

just pause speaking to the other person and explain in a quiet voice, down at her level, "hold on a minute, darling, im talking to mrs jones here" ang give her a smile

poppiesinaline · 23/01/2006 14:11

I know where you are coming from Marne. My DS1 was a real chatterbox and although it is very draining and tiring having that noise in your ears the whole time, there is nothing you can or should do about it. If it gets to you that much just teach yourself to 'tune out'. My DS1 is now 9 years and still goes on and on and on. I have taught myself to 'tune out' so well, that now I miss important things he is telling me so now I have to try and 'tune myself' back into him.

All part of being a mum!

fastasleep · 23/01/2006 14:11

I think teaching her to talk to teddy is a good idea! Mine does this, he prattles on for hours offering teddy juice and food etc etc.. might give you a bit of a break! Or introduce her to crayons and colouring books in the hope she gets hooked?

cod · 23/01/2006 14:12

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nailpolish · 23/01/2006 14:12

ah but cod marne says she just talks all the time not asks a million whys

Mum2Ela · 23/01/2006 14:13

cod you make me giggle!

Enid · 23/01/2006 14:13

dd2 is a complete chatterbox and I can understand that it gets you down. I do listen (or pretend to) most of the time and leave it up to dd1 to yell 'shut UP dd2!'

The only time it is reaaaaaaaaaaaaaly annoying is when we are watching a video 'look that boy has fallen over in the snow, look he is getting on the train, he is getting on the train QUICKLY isnt he mummy, does he have a ticket...' etc etc etc. I daren't take her to the cinema.

WigWamBam · 23/01/2006 14:14

It's not too early to start teaching her that she mustn't interrupt when you are talking - that she will have to wait for a minute while you finish your conversation before you will speak to her. At this age they just want to be involved with what they see around them, and if you are having a conversation with someone, they want to be involved too - but don't know how to follow the adult rules about conversation.

Holier than thou? Don't think so ... but for me it's important that a child who has something to say knows that there is someone who will listen - even if they have to wait for a few minutes when there's another conversation going on.

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Marne · 23/01/2006 14:14

Does this make me a bad mother? i'm just finding it hard as i am 33 weeks pg, dd does'nt sleep through the night so i am very tierd, since i've been on maternity leave she has got very clinging with me, wont let dh put her to bed etc.., sory if i sound selfish.

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Enid · 23/01/2006 14:14

god no I understand marne I think you have to have a manic chatterbox to really sympathise tbh

milward · 23/01/2006 14:15

know what you mean marne. Sometimes I wish there was a volume down button I could press!! Love what they say just sometimes need some peace!!

Enid · 23/01/2006 14:15

but sorry I dont have any advice, other than wearing them out during the day so they go to bed nice and early and you can sit in blissful silence for a bit

fastasleep · 23/01/2006 14:18

No! Marne you're not, I used to get well and truly p*ssed off at my DS whilst pregnant when he just wouldn't leave me alone.... you only have so much patience, and you can cut that amount in half at least while you're pregnant/looking after a small baby!

DS asks 'why' every 2 minutes, and he doesn't even know what he's on about he does it just to annoy me!

NotAPooEatingZebra · 23/01/2006 14:18

I think it's ok to teach them that conversation is a too way thing, each of you takes turns.

madmarchhare · 23/01/2006 14:18

Youre very tired and at 33 weeks pg, rather than be worrying about her chattering, I'd be trying to get a grip on the sleeping issue before DB arrives.

nellie245 · 23/01/2006 14:21

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milward · 23/01/2006 14:22

Marne - sometimes I can manage to make conversation whilst not really listening to every word. I just say things like good, wonderful etc & dd2 & dd3 will happily continue. What gets me is when they want me to play a game or read when I'm tired out. bad mummy moment. Sometimes I just do what they want other times I say I have to do something else.

nellie245 · 23/01/2006 14:26

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poppiesinaline · 23/01/2006 14:30

thats the 'tuning out' method I have practiced so well!

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