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To hate the term Playdate, aghhhhhh

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pigletmania · 09/06/2010 08:30

That's it really, its so American, so aghghhhhh. Why cant it be like it was, going round to play! If I hear of that term again I will spontaniously combust .

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slouchingtowardswaitrose · 11/06/2010 12:29

Be sure to correct that, pedants.

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ponymad · 11/06/2010 12:30

Playdate is a word I have only ever heard on here, thankfully I have never heard it used in real life if I did I think I would either vomit or lol

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slouchingtowardswaitrose · 11/06/2010 12:30

pps LMAO SnoBear

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rowingboat · 11/06/2010 12:33

My 5 year old son says 'I was like this and they were like this'.
I used to have a Northern Irish boyfriend, yeeears ago and he used like to excess, this was long before 'Friends'.

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huffythethreadslayer · 11/06/2010 13:12

I'm with teta. And American bashing is inexcusable.

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Hulababy · 11/06/2010 13:26

Playdate is a term I only ever use online such as on MN. I neve say it when arranging for one of DD's friends to come over in RL.

Sleepover I do use. But then, although it may be an Americanism, I remember this term used when I was younger and I am 37y. It referred to a friend sleeping over, not when stayingat grandparents. etc though.

I sometimes say bathroom instead of toilet, but again - is that really a new one here? I Have said that for years - probably as my toilet has always been inside the bathroom I guess. In America I know they use the term restroom to refer to public toilets - I use that over there when holidaying but never in the UK.

I don;t say "I'm good" in that contect, but have said "I'm fine" instead. Again - for years. Is the meaning not the same though?

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giroux321 · 11/06/2010 14:22

Everyone is entitled to their opinion, however as an American who has lived here for 5+ years and still get the odd rude comment it makes me sad to see a thread like this. I think maybe the original poster wasnt intending it to be a bash. I find it sad that I have been in a supermarket and hear a child of maybe 3 or 4 expressing their hatred for americans and that it still bothers me.

i understand keeping things traditional but they are just words...
i never knew pants were undies...and have made several faux pas since coming over and that was the least of them! had some really embarrassing moments !!!
I was raised to accept everyone for who they are and thats what i teach my child.
I do find it amusing that people complain yet they watch american shows, movies, listen to music by american artists..seems a wee bit hypocritical does it not?

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Hulababy · 11/06/2010 14:25

It does make me smile that people use the arguement that they want to protect our own language (i.e. English). But English was derived over the years of some many different influences - and much of it not originiating in English/Britain int he first place.

Our language is so diverse and is made up of so many different origins. That is partly why English has so many broken rules when it comes to phonics, etc.

You can't stop a language from evolving and becoming more varied.

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halia · 11/06/2010 15:45

whatever my opinions on americans my dislike of certian phrases is because I find the adoptation of american or french or (pick another language) catchphrases and accents by people living in england who are not of that nationality to be annoying.

Of course you can't stop language evolving, but the the trend to use americanisms is generally one enthusiastically adopted by alpha mummies or teenagers. In both cases they seem to think that by using those words/ phrases they are being far 'cooler' just like people in films or TV. Its usually done fairly obviuosly as well, in a look at me aen't I cool/ busy/ popular type of way. Just like the horrid phase of air kissing and fake french.

I'm a low key, lo fi girl, the phrase "Darling, does Chesney need a ride home after the playdate" just makes me shudder. look at me, aren't I a lovely yummy alpha mummy....

I'm the one slouching in jeans saying "Is James' mum picking him up after he's been for tea at our house pet?

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EveWasFramed10 · 11/06/2010 16:00

But from the other side, halia, there are plenty of Americans, who, in an effort to be 'posh' or different, adopt British or European words or turns of phrase...so it does work both ways.

I have lived in the UK for 4 years now, and have fully acclimated. As a result,I have definitely picked up phrases and words used frequently here, but apparently, that's annoying?

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YanknCock · 11/06/2010 17:02

pigletmania, you can take your face back now. These threads always start the same way. Someone has a pop at something because it's an Americanism (or they hate the way we pronounce things, or we're stupid, or we can't cook, etc, etc, blah blah blah-di-blah). And loads more people pile in.

It's been done before, a zillion times. Fine, you say you didn't intend to start an American-bashing thread. At least admit that you're being repetative and BORING.

CheerfulYank, I appreciate YOU are not offended, but please remember YOU do not have to walk out of your door every day and mingle with people who are potentially judging you and taking the piss out of you because of your nationality. It's been nearly 8 years for me and it is taking its toll. I went to a MN meetup in Manchester not long ago, and it is crushing to think any of those lovely ladies thought my accent or phrases I use are annoying. I have bent over backwards to integrate, use British spelling, slang, and pronounciation, and have generally changed so much my family back in the U.S. has trouble understanding me. But it's never enough is it?

I hear you all saying 'oh but it isn't personal', 'you're being too sensitive', etc. Yeah, probably. If this thread was a one of, definitely. But it isn't a one of, it's the same old shit that is churned out over and over.

And for the record, I've never used the fucking word 'playdate', and never heard it till I came to the UK.

Going to hide the thread now. I stopped trying to pull people up on this casual American-bashing (which has been going on waaaaay before the oil spill) a long time ago, and I should have just ignored the thread in the first place.

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ZZZenAgain · 11/06/2010 19:20

I always thought Americans I meet are so self-assured and somehow totally unperturbed and take all this stuff in their stride.

So you are all a bit stiff upper lippy and seething unhappily underneath. Have to admit that the Americans were probably the only nationality I met in Germany who consistently did not, ever, bash Germany even in a purely expat surrounding. I think it feels very rude to Americans to do that.

OK so we are due for a "what I like about (aboot) America thread..."

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ZZZenAgain · 11/06/2010 19:25

here

No fibbing mind.

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CheerfulYank · 11/06/2010 20:24

Oh, Yankncock (or other Yank as I call ya ) I'm really really sorry. I didn't mean that you shouldn't be offended, and frankly I didn't have the inclination time to read all the pages before so I don't really know what was said. I'm pretty in-offendable (is that a word?) as a general rule, that's all. I'm really sorry you've had a rough time w/things, and I agree sometimes it is annoying when people assume I have certain attitudes and beliefs simply because I'm American. Take my aw shucks Midwestern apology, won't ya?

Momino I don't mean I change the spellings of words, just words themselves. Ruddy and so on. I'll have to think of examples and get back to you.

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Maylee · 11/06/2010 22:01

Playdate does sound wanky and I'd prob burst out laughing if someone used the term in person and seriously.....

Having said that, I use the word "dude" all the time......

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EveWasFramed10 · 12/06/2010 07:17

ZZZZen I think most of us are like that. I wasn't happy in England the first year I lived here, but I never would have slagged it off (and I know many Americans in the UK who did). I just don't see the point...it was up to me to create a life for myself here, and I've done that pretty successfully.

And yes, I've had the odd comment or 'bashing', a bit like this thread, in RL. I take it in stride. My husband and my friends here 'take the mick' about America all the time, and I'm not offended by stuff like that...I give as good as I get. Mostly, I feel very welcome in England, and if anyone wants to make really vile comments about the USA, then so be it...all I can be is nice and accepting to everyone to prove that we may talk funny, but most of us are pretty lovely!

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LemurintheSun · 12/06/2010 13:17

I'm honestly not sure if I use "playdate" - though I do think it sometimes. It's just shorthand. One word instead of several. But I do hate DS's "I'm lovin' it". Just so McDonalds. Yuk.

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SpeedyGonzalez · 13/06/2010 23:02

momino, thanks for correcting my spelling. You are, like, so totally right, man!

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sorchaocleirigh · 14/06/2010 11:46

I AM American and I hate it too. When I was growing up, we never had playdates. We used to say things like "I went over to xx's house to play." Or "Xx is coming over to my house."

I also want to know what words we used before everything was "transparent" and "robust." But anyway.

I live in Ireland now - have done for 14 years - and my children call me Mum and have Irish accents and use Irish/British English phrases.

Except that my daughter likes to show off when we visit the States and has told me to say "gas" instead of "petrol," for example, so that my American relatives don't get confused.

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Violax · 15/06/2010 12:56

New phrases and words are introduced into our language every day - I'm not sure that's a bad thing. And yes, some of these may come from America. If you prefer your children not to learn these phrases, may I suggest not watching American TV programmes? Or accept that the world today is much smaller and that as a result our children may benefit from being more accommodating and understanding of other cultures. Pride in your native culture is wonderful - but accepting other influences can also be a good thing.

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mittyslave · 15/06/2010 13:42

well i am American, and i hate "sleeps" to describe nights that you Angles use.

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mittyslave · 15/06/2010 13:44

and btw, i hate playdate too.

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cumbria81 · 15/06/2010 13:55

what on earth does "my bad" mean?

I have never heard it before.

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sorchaocleirigh · 15/06/2010 20:29

It means "my mistake" - I first heard it on Buffy the Vampire Slayer years ago.

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pcbnyc · 17/06/2010 12:39

It's not racist since American is not a race, but it is biased and/or ethnocentric. You might all be happy to hear that this word is also disliked by many American mothers as well. When I was a girl (in the USA) I went to someone's house to play. It was never called a playdate. It is generational.

I do find it funny that some of the mothers at my daughter's school use this term and I never do.

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