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To not understand why soft play centres are so bad?

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Stigaloid · 03/08/2009 10:14

I have taken my son to a couple of soft play centres and whilst they aren't much fun for me, he seems to enjoy them on the few occasions we have been so far. He much prefers the park, but on rainy days he likes climbing and jumping around safely indoors. i have seen quite a few comments on MN about softplay centres and wondered why they are viewed as being bad? Genuine question here not trying to start massive debates or arguments.

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notsoteenagemum · 04/08/2009 14:11

Ta GentlyDoesIt, wasn't expecting anyone to agree
Agree with the bigger than average child thing, I've had to carry my tall ds's passport around for about a year now to prove his age.
PMSL at MorrisZapp.

ShauntheSheep · 04/08/2009 14:49

We dont go except when invited to parties because dd doesnt like them unless she has a few friends to go with and even then she gets bored and hot and grumpy after about 30 mins. She prefers to be outdoors even if its raining so we wear waterproofs and still go down the park (and then to the pub to dry off which works out cheaper ).
We also dont have a car so they are a huge faff to get to.
Both dp and I hate them too and I end up with a splitting headache by the end so all in all not the place for us.

TabithaTwitchet · 04/08/2009 17:45

lucysnowe this is the website for the one near Reading. It really is in the middle of nowhere, quite tricky to find your first time (unless I am just a hopeless navigator )

crokky · 04/08/2009 18:37

BrieVanDerKamp - nurseries are absolutely not the same as soft play centres for germs!

My DS (3) has done a term at a school nursery (50 children in the nursery bit). During this time, he has caught ONE minor cold and nothing else. This is because children are sent home if they are ill - ie the germs situation is policed.

At the soft play, people take kids who have been sent home from nurseries like that! I actually saw a mother dosing her child with calpol outside the soft play door and then sending the child in!!

I am not a snob, I just object to a bit of fun causing a 2 week illness where I am housebound with 2 miserable sick toddlers. Not worth it.

Quattrocento · 04/08/2009 18:46

Mine are well past the age for softplay centres but all my memories of them are horrific.

I think the main thing that is repulsive is the smell of wee.

Also they don't serve proper coffee, and despite every third shop in the UK being a coffee shop, there is no possibility of getting any decent coffee.

whomovedmychocolate · 04/08/2009 19:03

We had one which we went to four times over the course of the year. The first time was fab, it'd only been open a week and was quite quiet, everything was new and clean, they even had a new coffee machine which made really lovely coffee.

Second visit, a few bits were broken, and some of the nicer staff seemed to be absent; third time, I found a dirty nappy in the ballpit. The staff removed it but left the area open and made no attempt to clean the balls (how do you clean balls in a ballpit?)

Was dragged there a fourth time by reluctant friends, more stuff broken, everything dirty, coffee machine replaced by instant and not even a proper boiling water but 'not quite hot enough to make tea' type urn affair.

DD picked up various colds etc. from the snot soaked masses (and no low basins for kids to wash hands before eating.)

However it was an interesting experience because, being the friendly soul I am I got talking to some of the mums, one had all five kids there because ('shhh they have chickenpox but they are almost over it now and everyone gets it anyway but the school won't 'ave 'em). Plus one mum who said she came every day since her son was excluded from school for fighting .

Which is not to say all people who go there are scumbags, but there are a fair few were I go that are a few short hops away from pond life.

I have been to other places. One was very nice, but very, very cliquey (it was a bit like Mumsnet ). The council run one is nice but always full of kids with green snotstreams (am I the only one who keeps the kids home when they have an obviously infectious disease?) And they won't let mums bounce on the bouncy castle, lest we bounce too hards and someone falls over. Kids are not allowed to bounce either, but if you look as if you are likely to jump they run after you with a big whistle and tell you off.

mooseloose · 04/08/2009 19:11

lol MamaG about your husband!

I think the big warehouse type play areas are great on a grotty day. Two near me have reasonable priced nice coffee and kids food. I sit and read and its very nice!

But one in the City Centre is as rough as you like and soooo expensive for a cuppa - about £2.50!

nickytwotimes · 04/08/2009 19:17

I hate one of our local soft play places. while the other one is not so bad.
My problems with them are:

1/ They are expensive.
2/ The coffee and snacks are over priced shit.
3/ The one I dislike is FILTHY. I mena absolutely clarty.
4/ I cannot see my ds in said soft play and it would be very easy for him to escape.

I have to say I have never had any problems with rampaging older kids, but that is becasue I am lucky enough to have stayed away from soft play places during the holidays. I wouldn't go near them during hols tbh.

fledtoscotland · 04/08/2009 19:41

I think its Mumsnet thing along with fruitshoots & sweets. IM very humble opinion, everything in moderation. I dont like fruit shoots but DS1 loves them. I dont like rolling round in a ball pool but DS2 screams with delight. We all love chocolate though . They arent places we go to every day but once in a while, they make a change from the park/play group/our lounge.

scotagm · 04/08/2009 19:59

Ds is 2 and very energetic - he loves them. Our local one is awful - loud, grubby and crap food. Worse than all of this is shouty parents who do naff all to supervise their kids but when the tears invariably start they defend their kids and snap at other parents.

Now, when I want to take ds to soft play I drive to one further from home. It's still not great but it is much better. Sorry to say this - but the parents are better. They supervise their kids. Coffee still crap though.

Overall, ds loves them - he isn't picky, but I find them dull, dull, dull.

By the way, who are these parents who use them as time for a coffee and a good book? FGS?

dobby2001 · 05/08/2009 00:41

I have to say I have a love hate relationship with soft play places precicisely because my daughter is very tall for her age - at 7 she is wearing 10/11 year old clothes and is in adult size 4 shoes . So when we go to these places we get seriously scowly stares of other parents as she happily scampers around wanting to play with her teensy friends (why do big kids always choose tiny kids to be their best friends

Had the same problem when she was tiny too- would be scowled out of toddler area when she was 3 because she was the size of a 5 yo

Wouldnt mind if she was a big bully but she is as gentle as an excitable kid can be and has always been so

going to soft play place Thurs to meet a friend and this thread has me stressed already

minxofmancunia · 05/08/2009 10:43

I've posted about this before and got slated for being "lioness mother" and "pfb" because I didn't like the way big kids trample all over the little ones in the toddler area whilst their parents had "me" time in the cafe and pointdely ignored their bad behaviour.

Interesting to see a few others with that pov on this thread too. I hate them, don't find them relaxing at all, have to supervise dd constantly both re her behaviour with others and to make sure she doesn't get battered, smelly, noisy, dirty, scummy, tacky, full of ignorant parents.

Have been to a party at one, was awful, about 3 parties going on at once like a sort of party conveyor belt, rude parents sitting down in the birthday space despite "reserved" signs and refusing to move etc.etc.

dh hates them too, but I will concede and go to a clean one during term time in winter but only in seriously inclement weather!

lucysnowe · 05/08/2009 13:31

Thankyou Tabitha!

Doha · 05/08/2009 14:02

Friend owns a childrens play centre in Yorkshire. No ball pool....
The reason they got rid of it?
Very difficult to clean the balls and the amount of kids weeing pooing and being sick in the balls is frightening. Often these events go unreported ugh.
No way would l let my DC's play in a ball pool unless the balls were cleaned every night and that does not happen as it takes so long and is so difficult to do. (his words not mine). No wonder there are so many bugs picked up from ball pools.
Thankfully not all softplay centres have these health hazards.
I love them...

MiniMarmite · 05/08/2009 14:06

We have a tiny one near our house and it is great for DS (11 months). It is usually pretty quite too. The only thing I object to is that people aren't supposed to eat or drink in there but they often do so DS tends to crawl round picking food up off the floor!

Not sure I'd want to go to one of the bigger ones though

inVlanderen · 05/08/2009 15:15

Soft play areas are very common in Flanders. I´ve never come across wee/poo/food problems in there and have generally noticed to my surprise how well the older children take care of the little ones and modify their behaviour when toddlers are around.

Soft play areas are not just for kids either. Theý are often in a normal cafe and frequented by the normal cafe trade.

Interesting, no?

LenniEd · 05/08/2009 21:10

My DD (2.7) was pushed down one of those very long tube slides by an older impatient child during a wet day in Easter. She was having one of those lovely 'shall I shan't I - go on then I will' toddler moments until it was all ruined by someone who couldn't wait a millisecond longer for a turn. Not their fault either, just par for the course in those places. Worse than the fall was the time it took me to navigate 3 floors carrying then newborn DS to get to her and console her.

Soft play is great for us on a wet term time day, to burn off some energy but not for school holidays, and I choose the places carefully - and don't push DD to go on alone, even if it means lugging DS around obstacles. Too many parents seem to turn up, order food and ignore their children while they read the paper.

mummytowillow · 05/08/2009 21:50

My local one is lovely to! Spotlessly clean, lovely coffee, paninis and home made cakes and it has a disco room which my DD loves!!

Is noisy though and doesn't smell of wee yet .... it is new though!!

Only downside is my 2 year old wants to go on the 'big boys' stuff and I have to bend over double and follow her around, I'm in bits at the end of it all!!

Some of them are rotten though and the ball pits stink!!

CloudDragon · 05/08/2009 22:03

mummytowillow - same as mine..are you in Manchester?

mummytowillow · 05/08/2009 22:16

No Flintshire, North Wales its called Wizkids, brand new and lovely!

IlanaK · 05/08/2009 22:28

Why don't we go to them? Germs, germs, germs, germs, germs.

mrswoolf · 05/08/2009 22:32

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CherylCole · 05/08/2009 22:59

There are companies that specialise in cleaning ball pools/pits and I'm sure if there are rules as to how often they have to be done.

imoscarsmum · 06/08/2009 09:08

I go to soft play with my 10m old DD and a friend who's DD is a bit older. We've found one that does decent coffee, sells homemade food that's actually not too bad and is nice and airy.
DD gets chance to roll around in the baby area safely and my friend's DD gets to play on slides etc that, if outside, wouldn't be as safe for her as she's a tiny bit wobbly.
Once they're older we'll only use it for bad weather days.

What does make me angry though are those parents who use play centres as a 'bit of me time'. Sorry - have that when you're not with your kids please, don't use a play centre as a baby sitter. The number of times 2, 3 & 4 yr olds have waded into the 'only up to 18m' area, wanting to 'play' [squash, kick or bash] with the little babies and/or take their toys, and parent is off somewhere with head in a book. Why don't they actually go and play with their kids, have fun and make sure their LO isn't spoiling someone else's time. Grrr.

imoscarsmum · 06/08/2009 09:10

Oh and mummytowillow I live near you as we also go to Whizkids - it's been there for a few years now though (behind Macro?)
Best one we've found is Fun4All in Sealand by Tesco.