My partner and I are getting married next year. I don’t have a big family it’s literally mum and I and we were (until) recently super close. I value her opinion a lot. My partner and I fell I love with a venue by the waters of Scotland. It’s a hotel come wedding venue and people speak highly of it in the wedding forums. We went along to see it and fell in love. It’s right in our price range and we’re keeping it small with just 35 people. We’re paying ourselves and wouldn’t ask for financial support anyway. I told my mum about it and showed photos before booking. She liked it. Fast forward to the wedding fayre, my partner and I took her along so she could see it, meet suppliers etc. I just wanted her to feel included. She hated it from the outset. She says its was grubby, run down and unhygienic. Now the place is it not 5 star and if it wasn’t she would still find something she doesn’t like. My mom is a complete perfectionist and always finds flaws in everything. I always feel judged by her, everything I wear, everything I buy, how clean I keep my house (which is spotless because I panic whenever she comes over that she’ll spot something so clean extra before she arrives). I felt so empty. She asked to see the bedrooms because ‘if guests had to pay £130 to stay she wanted to see the state of them’. The rooms are lovely, with stand alone baths and a view of the water. But she didn’t like them either. I said ‘if you don’t like them what then?’ And she said ‘I’ll put my friends off from staying’ I cried all the way home in the car so hurt. She said she didn’t mean to upset me but that I should know what she’s like and that she’s hard to please and thought I’d go for better. We ended up arguing going home and she said she has strong opinions and we need to make it a nice day for other people too it’s not just about us, like my partner and I had booked some sort of hovel. Now I am not sure I can get over this. I said I just wanted her to be happy for me but she ruined the excitement. She’s all I have and her opinion means a lot but that felt too much. I am now considering not involving her in anything moving forward. My partner has a difficult relationship with his mum and so she couldn’t care less if we married or not. She didn’t even ask where it was when we told her we’d booked it. Feels nobody can be happy for us. AIBU in feeling so hurt? I’m also now second guessing the venue and if it’s really as bad as she’s saying?