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Why do people prefer to rent rather than buying a house?

264 replies

Cocktailglass · 25/04/2026 21:14

Genuine question, AIBU to not get that in the long run you pay off mortgage, own your home to pass on to your DC and rent, especially with the high rates now, is dead money?

I do of course understand getting a mortgage is harder now and house prices, I'm talking about people who have been renting all their lives.

Unless having rent paid for on benefits, I don't get why anyone working hasn't got on the property ladder, less to pay every month with a long term mortgage, eventually nothing to pay unlike rent.

As I said, not talking about now, but decades ago. You showed your earnings, were offered the best deal of what you could borrow, bought your first home within these means, a starter home with the intention of paying far less for payments than rent, property goes up in value, you buy your next home without too much of an increase, still less than renting. So the upgrading continues and initially you just get what you can afford to get on the ladder.

Renting does give you the benefit of any problems being the responsibility of the landlord but all depends on how good they are! With council properties in a much better position as houses are upgraded and issues dealt with (hopefully) more quickly.

Plainly speaking, you work, give a significant part of your income to someone else just to live in their house, pay bills and CT. What's the benefit of this rather than knowing you're paying straight into a loan for your own property, a financial asset, it's yours? Xxx

OP posts:
Dragonscaledaisy · Yesterday 08:16

Sesma · Yesterday 08:13

I’m so thankful that DS didn’t buy a flat because of this

There are lots of great flats on the market with no issues for people looking to buy. A colleague has just purchased her first flat in central London and it's gorgeous. She looked at dozens of properties before finally making her choice.

Fupoffyagrasshole · Yesterday 08:16

op.. you needed to save 5000 for your deposit - I needed 37k

so yeah that wasn’t easy while i was also paying 1800 rent
my mortgage is not actually cheaper either I pay 1900 so what you are saying is nonsense to be honest and you haven’t a clue what it’s like to try and buy these days

Katypp · Yesterday 08:19

Fupoffyagrasshole · Yesterday 08:16

op.. you needed to save 5000 for your deposit - I needed 37k

so yeah that wasn’t easy while i was also paying 1800 rent
my mortgage is not actually cheaper either I pay 1900 so what you are saying is nonsense to be honest and you haven’t a clue what it’s like to try and buy these days

What was your salary?
We savec £2000 on a joint salary of £9k.

Cutelittlepuppy · Yesterday 08:21

Cocktailglass · 25/04/2026 22:13

That's my whole point, a mortgage is more affordable. Yes you need a deposit but back in the day it was a low amount.

Now it's not a low amount.

Even back in the day people have had complex lives and made decisions for a whole range of reasons. There isn't 1 reason. It isn't because people don't want financial security. It isn't because they are lacking in information or intelligence either.

The reasons are as complex as the lives those people have lived.

missspent · Yesterday 08:24

Just a warning, do not assume the house will be passed to your children.

Like many others I had to sell my childhood home to pay for care home fees. In the end, I actually sold my own home and bought my childhood home myself (much Court of Protection hassle) so that it wasn’t lost, but if I hadn’t been in a position to do that it would have gone

likelysuspect · Yesterday 08:27

missspent · Yesterday 08:24

Just a warning, do not assume the house will be passed to your children.

Like many others I had to sell my childhood home to pay for care home fees. In the end, I actually sold my own home and bought my childhood home myself (much Court of Protection hassle) so that it wasn’t lost, but if I hadn’t been in a position to do that it would have gone

Why would you need two homes?

The majority of people in the UK dont/wont need care though, there was a good thread about it recently

Dragonscaledaisy · Yesterday 08:31

missspent · Yesterday 08:24

Just a warning, do not assume the house will be passed to your children.

Like many others I had to sell my childhood home to pay for care home fees. In the end, I actually sold my own home and bought my childhood home myself (much Court of Protection hassle) so that it wasn’t lost, but if I hadn’t been in a position to do that it would have gone

Neither of my parents needed to pay for any care so I inherited everything. It's really the luck of the draw.

mjf981 · Yesterday 08:32

Crushed23 · 25/04/2026 23:08

Renting allows me to live exactly where I want to live.

My apartment to buy would be about $2m. I can’t afford to buy in this neighbourhood, but it’s where I want to live, so I rent. It’s as simple as that. 😊

Let me guess....Sydney?
Second guess is San Francisco.

Fupoffyagrasshole · Yesterday 08:36

Katypp · Yesterday 08:19

What was your salary?
We savec £2000 on a joint salary of £9k.

We used to save between 1000 & 1500 a month I think it was - no kids at the time! Also put it in a Lisa so we got a decent top up in the end

i don’t see the rent as was throwing money away though tbh it was a lovely flat that we had for years in an amazing location that we couldn’t have afforded to buy in 🤷‍♀️

Sesma · Yesterday 08:39

There would probably be no one to inherit from DS if he did buy. He is single, gay, so unlikely to have DC, the state would probably end up with it

catipuss · Yesterday 08:43

Some people don't want the commitment or their job may require frequent re-location, or they are just not settled enough to want to buy where they have to live. Any number of reasons it is not a good idea at any particular stage of life. Not to mention the obvious of just not having money for a deposit, but that is not an active choice it may just be totally out of reach.

WheretheFishesareFrightening · Yesterday 08:45

MeridaBrave · 25/04/2026 21:21

There was another post about someone who bought a flat that’s worth less than it was bought for 10 years ago and the mortgage is higher than the rent would be.

This isn’t about me but I’m also in that situation.

I wish I hadn’t believed the OP’s hype about buying, because then I wouldn’t be stuck with 2 mortgages, being a landlord I don’t want to be and additional stamp duty costs when I bought my house.

Renting is great for flexibility and when you want to know all the maintenance costs are covered, or when you want to cohabit with your partner for the first time.

Or OP are you advocating that student should buy property at their university and then sell when they’re done (incurring lots or costs on the way), and that people should be buying houses with partners they’ve maybe only known for 18
months and creating long term financial ties without knowing what it’s like to live with the other person?

catipuss · Yesterday 08:45

Sesma · Yesterday 08:39

There would probably be no one to inherit from DS if he did buy. He is single, gay, so unlikely to have DC, the state would probably end up with it

I'm sure he could find someone to leave it to, if only his favourite charities.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · Yesterday 08:46

MeridaBrave · 25/04/2026 21:21

There was another post about someone who bought a flat that’s worth less than it was bought for 10 years ago and the mortgage is higher than the rent would be.

Around here, rents of flats will almost certainly be higher than what a monthly mortgage payment would be.

BunnyLake · Yesterday 08:51

I think, given the choice, most people would prefer to buy. Some circumstances could mean they’d still choose to rent, a free spirit, working in different countries etc. But I think for most people who are settled in an area for the foreseeable future, buying would be the preferred option. Unfortunately it’s not always that simple.

I am now mortgage free, if I was having to pay rent I would be up shit creek as I can’t get a full time decent paid office job so work as a part time cleaner on MW. I could never afford rent at my age.

Lulu1919 · Yesterday 09:01

It’s called The Deposit - thats what’s hard to save for when paring rent etc

Zov · Yesterday 09:02

Dragonscaledaisy · Yesterday 08:31

Neither of my parents needed to pay for any care so I inherited everything. It's really the luck of the draw.

It will happen for some people though. All those years paying for your property, and 10s of 1000s on repairs and maintenance, just for it to be sold for your care.

likelysuspect · Yesterday 09:04

Zov · Yesterday 09:02

It will happen for some people though. All those years paying for your property, and 10s of 1000s on repairs and maintenance, just for it to be sold for your care.

Thank god I have that to keep me safe and warm then and hopefully have some choice about where I go (if there are vacancies)

Why would someone need two homes?

Picklesandfrickles · Yesterday 09:06

Valid8me · 25/04/2026 22:06

I would like to see what kind of property you could buy these days with a £5k deposit 🤣

I mean it does depend on the area your in doesn’t it.

Starter home 2/3 bed terrace where i live is 80-100k so 5% deposit is 5k.

standard 3 bed semi, with drive and garden depending on the finish is 140-180k so a 5% deposit is 7-8k

4 bed newbuild £250- 280k

We are in a nice area, if you wanted to go to a more deprived area its cheaper, but overall we are in a cheap part of the country not down south.

likelysuspect · Yesterday 09:09

Picklesandfrickles · Yesterday 09:06

I mean it does depend on the area your in doesn’t it.

Starter home 2/3 bed terrace where i live is 80-100k so 5% deposit is 5k.

standard 3 bed semi, with drive and garden depending on the finish is 140-180k so a 5% deposit is 7-8k

4 bed newbuild £250- 280k

We are in a nice area, if you wanted to go to a more deprived area its cheaper, but overall we are in a cheap part of the country not down south.

According to some on here though, you apparently live in a shit hole.

Sadcafe · Yesterday 09:10

Fairly sure many people would prefer to buy but simply aren’t able to afford the initial deposit, especially now the government schemes have pretty much finished. Rents by and large seem to be higher than mortgage repayment on equivalent sized properties so I doubt they rent for preference

abracadabra1980 · Yesterday 09:10

Agree with PP and I don't k ow anyone who PREFERS to rent-but some just have to (bad credit history, mixing around for jobs etc). Personally I would move anywhere and buy the cheapest home available rather than give a landlord a penny. I'm glad that laws have been tightened on mould and damp etc..

missspent · Yesterday 09:10

likelysuspect · Yesterday 09:04

Thank god I have that to keep me safe and warm then and hopefully have some choice about where I go (if there are vacancies)

Why would someone need two homes?

Because there is emotional attachment to a home and people buying their homes in the 70s did think they were investing in something for their kids.

Yes my dad doesn’t need to live in a care home and have another that he’d lived in for over 50 years sat there, but selling that home is heartbreaking (or can be if there are emotions involved)

Picklesandfrickles · Yesterday 09:13

likelysuspect · Yesterday 09:09

According to some on here though, you apparently live in a shit hole.

@likelysuspect true 😂 but im happy with my shithole if thats the case 🙌

Gerwurtztraminer · Yesterday 09:16

Cocktailglass · 25/04/2026 22:38

As i said, when support with rent of course this is the best option, council is covering rent and help with UC.

My question was when able to show earnings to prove you get that first step on the property ladder, pay a deposit which at that time was a lot less, why choose to rent.

How many 'decades ago' are we talking about? Did you know that until the mid-'70's women in the UK couldn't get a mortgage without a male guarantor (e.g. father). They were only legally able to get a mortgage independently after the Sex Discrimination Act passed in 1975 and even then it took years before banks stopped making it difficult.

Even now, women earn on average less than men so takes longer to get a deposit saved and borrowing power is lower, limiting where they can buy, even in so called 'cheaper' areas.

I rented for 5 years after divorce for flexibility in jobs, so I wasn't tied to one part of the country or even city - so I could easily move if a new job commute would be otherwise be a nightmare. I bought again in my 40's but it was being made redundant that gave me just enough to have a decent deposit for a flat (in London) in a cheap area. Even then I had to borrow 5X my income and my mortgage + service charge was MORE than my previous rent!

Also mortgage costs aren't the only thing to factor in to buying. I'm facing a massive increase in service charges for repairs to the block (roof is leaking) and it's already nearly doubled in the last 7 years especially since fuel costs shot up at the start of the Ukraine war (for block heating). If I sell and move, which I want to do, I'll be up for stamp duty - which is just as much 'dead money' as rent.

It's all very well saying buy a dump that needs doing up but not everyone has the DIY skills to do that. I definitely don't. These days getting reliable tradespeople costs a fortune IF you can get one. I've had huge problems with getting repairs and redecorating done in my flat.

You sound smug and convinced you are right and totally ignore the fact people, even 'decades ago' rented for all sorts of reasons.

I liked renting, it some ways it felt less stressful and less 'trapped' than owning does.