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Anyone seen woman arrested for saying f****t in a private text message?

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Whywhywhyyyy · 09/12/2025 11:12

This is completely bizarre. The news is thin on the ground so to see it I would have to link the mail or other obscure sites; but they are talking about this on Sky News abroad so assume it’s legit.

Apparently woman was arrested by 10 officers and dragged naked from a bath tub because she called a person who hospitalised her from assault a faggot in a message ranting to a supposed friend who reported her for using that word.

What is going on in this country?!

Yes sure that’s unpleasant. But is that really illegal? And if she has been hospitalised by this person then do I really care if someone uses bad words - even if they are hateful.

YABU - that’s a perfectly appropriate use of the law
YANBU - WTF is going on in this country!

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Elektra1 · 10/12/2025 21:40

Even on the strength of the “news” article linked by a PP, her narrative is weak. “Round here that word just describes a weak person, it’s not about sexuality”. Sorry, no. Everyone knows what that word is intended to imply, and it’s not physical or emotional weakness.

GaIadriel · 10/12/2025 22:15

Elektra1 · 10/12/2025 21:40

Even on the strength of the “news” article linked by a PP, her narrative is weak. “Round here that word just describes a weak person, it’s not about sexuality”. Sorry, no. Everyone knows what that word is intended to imply, and it’s not physical or emotional weakness.

But when a fat person beats somebody up and the victim angrily says "that fat prick put me in hospital"? The attacker walks free and the victim gets a sentence for calling them something nasty? Nobody is an angel here but it seems a bit backwards.

I'd not have been ranting via text tbh. I'd have had somebody catch up with the guy in a quiet spot like I did when I was being stalked and the police wouldn't do anything about it.

Catladywithoutacat · 10/12/2025 22:17

You made it out like they were spying on her phone and arrested her she sent it to someone, they went to the police.
I don’t agree with them arresting her over this like that

GagMeWithASpoon · 11/12/2025 07:07

soIsaidso · 10/12/2025 16:25

She was completely humiliated by 11 police officers 10 of whom were men who burst into her naked and got her out the bath and stood there while she was naked giving her no privacy to get dressed.
Thats disgusting and makes her vulnerable, no way should they get to see her naked just because they have power, she should have been given the respect to get dressed before 10 men stood there gawping at her.

Two things can be true at once. She did commit a crime and the police did act inappropriately (if the reports are accurate).

herpaderpa · 11/12/2025 12:54

Spookyspaghetti · 09/12/2025 13:47

I don’t think women should be proud of using discriminatory language and it’s ironic you mention women’s rights but believe we should live in a world where men/women should be free to be as sexist and derogatory as they like in the name of tin foil hat free speech.

I do wonder - what is it that the anti-free-speech people are so worried that they are going to say? What is it about your right to free expression that you are against? It's harldly tinfoil hat when the arrests are being made. I think it was 6 police who arrested the lady for criticising the school management in a message. She was later awarded compensation.
The point behind free speech is to protect the people from the government. Reform might get in, so Nigel Farage might be able to dictate what you can and can't say. And he could, as there would be nothing stopping him. The idea behind free speech that you cannot predict the government of tomorrow. You need something like a 1st amendment, so that, no matter how crazy the government, you're able to criticise, organise, comment, satirise, etc. Suppose Reform decide that they don't want you saying a stack of things becuase it's grossly offensive to far right conservatives. Would we all acquiesce to that? And chime in "well it was against the law". Surely at some point a law becomes unjust? You could easily see feminist ideas labelled "hate speech" by a future government with a very conservative leaning, for example."Hateful against men" or "hateful against the family" or whatever they come up with. Free speech protects everyone; it's either accept you might be offended by words, or accept that you might be arrested for them. But you dont get to pick the words, it's whoever is in charge, they decide.

GaIadriel · 11/12/2025 13:23

More I think about it, whether her being charged was OTT or acceptable, it's still pretty ludicrous forcing entry and dragging her out the bath. I doubt she was about to flee to Mexico or anything.

Not quite the same situation as a violent criminal on the run who could harm somebody unless immediately apprehended. They could surely have just spoken with her calmly and advised her she was being charged etc.

Wonder if she has any recourse to complain. There was certainly a huge outrage when that black girl was strip searched on suspicion of having drugs on her person. This is arguably worse as they could've 100% ascertained guilt without approaching it in this manner, whilst the strip searching was probs the only way they could be entirely sure the girl didn't have drugs hidden in her underwear etc.

soIsaidso · 11/12/2025 16:23

GaIadriel · 10/12/2025 22:15

But when a fat person beats somebody up and the victim angrily says "that fat prick put me in hospital"? The attacker walks free and the victim gets a sentence for calling them something nasty? Nobody is an angel here but it seems a bit backwards.

I'd not have been ranting via text tbh. I'd have had somebody catch up with the guy in a quiet spot like I did when I was being stalked and the police wouldn't do anything about it.

Being fat isn’t a protected characteristic though so it will never be illegal to describe someone as they are. Ie tall, short, blonde, brunette, curly haired, fat or thin.
Someone may not like their appearance but that doesn’t make a fact untrue.
I’m 5’2 if I was hunted by the police who said they were looking for a short woman that would be a description.
I also don’t like being 45 but I don’t believe nobody should acknowledge that fact because I don’t like it.

Personally after what that man did to her I think the word was pretty mild considering what he deserved to be called but apparently words hurt more than skull fractures.
If the police weren’t going to do anything about what he did to her, she’d have been better off caving his skull in with a baseball bat rather than calling him a name to somebody else because then surely she’d have got off too like he did.

MoFadaCromulent · 11/12/2025 16:50

"If the police weren’t going to do anything about what he did to her"

Is there any evidence she reported him to the police?

soIsaidso · 11/12/2025 17:12

MoFadaCromulent · 11/12/2025 16:50

"If the police weren’t going to do anything about what he did to her"

Is there any evidence she reported him to the police?

The hospital would have had to call the police.
She even said they came to the hospital after the attack and initially they arrested him.

soIsaidso · 11/12/2025 17:32

People can deal with being called a name. NOBODY should ever have to be admitted to hospital with a broken skull because some monster broke their skull amongst other injuries.
There isn’t a word under sun to describe that piece of shit.
There is so much wrong with this justice system.

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