To let DD watch Kpop demon hunters

[Mummabear04]

DDs friends are going mad for Kpop demon hunters, they're all around 5-7 years old and DD has just turned 6 years. A few months ago she told me that she had had a night mare about just seeing it flash up on netflix menu then a couple of weeks ago she asked to watch it and insisted she wasnt scared. I put it on but litterally after 5 minutes, I could see she was scared and put it off saying, "we'll try again another time." She didn't object and seemd quietly relieved.

DD has always had very vivid nightmares, doesn't cope well with seeing loads of ghosts around halloween time and is very sensative to things she sees on tv. When she was 3 years old, there were even some episodes of hey duggee and puffin rock that were too scary. Quite often she will ask to switch things off because she is very sensitive to them (We don't watch much tv really anyway as DD prefers to draw or play).

Fast forward and DD is asking to watch this kpop thing again. I said I'd have a look at it but I'm just a bit worried it will be months (if not years) of nightmares. I get she wants to fit in with her friends but she is just so sensitive. Is it suitable for young kids? I have my toddlers with me all day so can't stick it on the tv to check it.

Ps sorry for all the spelling mistakes. For some reason my phone has switched off autocorrect and I'm dyslexic. How do i fix this too????

It’s cartoonish, stylised violence, nothing inappropriate or shocking.

You say that but you haven't had a kid who has that scary memory thing. 3 of my kids have been able tk watch anything (within age appropriate reason), DS2 has and is, even as a young adults properly scared by most things, Scooby Do, Harry Potter (film1), Bambi, Finding Nemo as a child. The others could watch anything.

On Netflix if you go right to the bottom of the episodes , you can just watch the song bits. Would that be enough ?

My recently 7, 7 year old says everyone at school has seen it. She wanted to watch it but I said I’d watch it first. She’s aware that I’m careful with what she watches, and she knows that’s because she can get scared about monsters etc and have issues with sleep afterwards. I watched it and decided it was probably slightly too scary for her sensitive mind at the current time. She perfectly accepted this and seemed a little relieved that she could now tell her friends she’s not allowed to watch it! I did say the music is fine and good though and she enjoys that.

It's called K-Pop Demon Hunters and you're surprised by the fighting? Yes I'm sorry you're being ridiculous. Presumably she (and you) understand this is a cartoon and that demons and thus demon hunters are not real?

Don't let your daughter watch it if you think it'll affect her too much, she's 6, you get the ultimate say so.

Mine that age are fine with it but the demons are quite scary I think. Netflix have some shorts of just the songs so that could be a good compromise. Watch those as the music is the best part of it anyway.

It would definitely be too much for my sensitive 5yo. There is a lot of fighting and some quite scary monsters & psychological stuff. Kids all have different tolerance levels for this stuff but I know mine would struggle.

Yeah this isn’t the norm… each to their own and all and it’s no big deal but it’s a very tame film.

Get her the soundtrack or let her listen to the songs on YouTube with no video if she is so sensitive imo. DD7 watched the film once (hasn't asked to see it again) and I haven't let her younger brother watch it. Both have been listening to the songs on repeat for weeks though!

It’s suitable for children imo … my nephew is 3.5 and it’s his current favourite film.

Wow I must be so uncool as I think the overall style and content is just not suitable for little kids. I have a 7 year old and I wouldn't encourage them to watch this. Just seems so unnecessary. Anyway each to their own.

I agree. It's even advertised on Netflix under tags like 'pre-teen' and 'young adult'! But Im fully aware we are in a very small minority as I know pretty much all my 7yo's friends have seen it.

I’m super strict with screens and content in general. It’s absolutely brilliant, the messages and role models are incredibly positive and the songs are great. It’s a lot of fun! Rare to find such a joyful film all ages can enjoy! DC ages 4, 7 and 14. Very glad they made me watch it too!

If you want her to watch it then I'd do the spoiler technique. Go through the whole movie verbally so there are no surprises before it goes on.

But you could just scroll through and let her watch the song bits only.

Fwiw my DD is like yours, she's now 11 and still too scared to watch Wednesday but when it comes to reading she's reading really scary murder mysteries and crime novels and is absolutely fine with them. It's so strange!

Its important to teach kids to face there fears and not avoid things no wonder so many young people are anxious and can't cope with life.

There's an option to just watch the songs on kids netflix.

DSs (9 and 5) both love it, it's very cartoonish violence and it has a good message about being yourself.

Some kids are just more sensitive than others, I watched original ghostbusters with DS1 last night and he found it quite scary...where I chose it especially as it was a comedy (Also, would not recommend for a tween, I'd completely forgotten about the sex references)

We love it here, but my absolute favourite thing about it is there isnt any kissing scenes. The movie is all about friendship and being true to yourself, I think it is an amazing message for kids. I would let any child of any age watch it if they wanted to.

The kids love the songs most ime so you could do this op

My 6 year old can be quite easily scared & was absolutely fine with kpop demon hunters. I watched first and its fairly tame. It's good for kids to be exposed to some "peril" type film situations, it helps them learn to manage to cope and not dissolve into a quiver of anxiety over things.

It's even advertised on Netflix under tags like 'pre-teen' and 'young adult'!

This is simply done to maximise the number of viewers, you tag it as that so that the algorithms push it to a bigger audience.

The thing to remember, a child with a tendency to fear/anxiety does not get any less scared from being sheltered from everything.

In fact its the opposite. By not exposing them to anything, you validate their fears and teach them that they need to be protected from a big scary world. The kid gloves approach to parenting is why we have so many anxious young people who think the world is something to be terrified of.

I hadn't thought too deeply about it. Ds is 6 and has wanted to watch it since it was released, he heard hos friends talking about it and the songs were on the radio. We planned a movie date while younger dc was at nursery this week.
We didn't even get through to the opening concert before he was asking me to turn it off because he didn't like it.

I'd not watch it first because I've friends with children of a similar age and they'd been fine.

Please don’t do this. You are setting her to fail - there’s a decent chance she will not be able to watch it (again) but this time with an audience of her friends. Alternatively she sits through it to fit in and is upset for weeks. Again I’m just going off @Mummabear04‘s post.

6 is still very little. Be her safe place. Be the person who tells her she is loved whatever, and she doesn’t need to fit in. There are brilliant animated videos of all the songs on Netflix, maybe that would be a good place to start?

The child is 6. It’s a PG and the child has already found it scary. I promise you, psychiatric illness isn’t caused by waiting to watch a film for another 6 or 12 months.