Can you imagine the fallout if she hadn't turned up at all?! After that vote in the Commons just the previous evening. Politicians are held to much higher standards than your average person doing a job. Everyone would have said she lacked the courage to own her mistakes.
Op, Keir Starmer may have been reticent to say she'd still be in post because she may privately have doubted, to him, her ability to continue in post. Members of staff have opened up to me previously about their feelings and although I've supported them wholeheartedly, it's essentially that person's decision. Not even the PM can commit to something that's not fully under his control.
As for her explaining her personal reasons, it could be any number of things beyond a close relative being in hospital. I've always been incredibly strong and professional and unwavering at work (also in a highly pressured environment). The thing that finally pushed me over the edge was yet another morning battling to get my (then undiagnosed) autistic 6yo dd into her school uniform and out of the house. I was bitten, scratched, hit and kicked, she broke her car seat trying to escape and nearly made me crash the car. This was after weeks, months of similar abuse. 25 years of stiff upper lip professional at work, fighting through the bad times and not allowing anyone to see me weak and vulnerable and I totally fell apart in one moment due to a comment from another colleague that on any other day I'd have brushed aside. No way would I have found the words to explain to a hyper critical and unsympathetic public audience the toll this had taken on me.
Women in public office are somehow expected to be more manly than men in the same position. But they're not men. They have all kinds of biological, social and professional pressures that most men don't have. Holding it in, holding it together, and carrying on despite it all, is what drives women to the state we witnessed yesterday. And all the time, women like Badenoch are jeering from the sidelines just waiting to pull those women down, humiliate them further, jump into their grave.
I don't know what her reasons were. They may have been personal, or professional, or a combination of both. But I would always rather be on the side of compassion, and humanity, than one of those excitedly jeering from the sidelines.