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Driving lessons - is this normal?

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Candleinalantern · 17/05/2025 15:16

So DD has started her driving lessons, booked a block of 10 lessons. The first lesson she didn’t drive, the instructor just drove around and told her about the car, the second lesson he drove 15 mins away let her drive for 30 mins and then he drove her back.

is this normal? AIBU to expect that she would be driving straight away and at least be driving all of the second lesson?

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IwasDueANameChange · 30/05/2025 11:33

I started with an instructor like this. He was a piss taker. I swapped as soon as possible to someone else.

Candleinalantern · 30/05/2025 11:39

We asked him (in a nice way) what the lessons consisted of, he said the first hour was a cockpit drill - a whole hour of talking about the car without even putting her in the drivers seat. Just find it bizarre

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IwasDueANameChange · 30/05/2025 12:38

Honestly - bin him off. Guys like this want to spin it out and make you buy more hours than you need.

Perhapsanothertime · 30/05/2025 12:40

I drove straight away 20 years ago. I’d done the round and round a car park with my parents.

myheadsjustmush · 30/05/2025 12:42

An hour for cockpit drill?!

And only 30 minutes driving in an hour lesson?

That really does sound OTT to me. I would be looking for another instructor......

sciaticafanatica · 30/05/2025 12:48

By my 3rd lesson I was driving from my house and back. The instructor got in the passenger seat when he pulled up.
i also found 2 hour lessons better and learning more in the longer lessons

FedupofArsenalgame · 30/05/2025 12:48

PrincessOfPreschool · 17/05/2025 15:32

My son drove straight away but what's irritated me is that it's all 2 hour lessons round here, which is expensive. It's often longer as he will be picked up 'on the way' (say, 20 mins early) in someone else's lesson. Then drive for 2 hours then pick up someone else and they drive him home so it can be at least 2.5 hours.

Why's that an issue?

StrawberryWater · 30/05/2025 12:52

I was driving first lesson. Just moving off and learning the controls. The cockpit drill took 10 minutes, no need to drag it on for a whole hour! What was he doing, naming all the vents?

FedupofArsenalgame · 30/05/2025 12:53

tripleginandtonic · 30/05/2025 11:20

The norm is 50 hours driving before your test ready.

When I learned ( many years ago) it was considered you needed an hour for every year of your life. I passed at 19 after 20 hours

NancyJoan · 30/05/2025 13:04

Just get to the end of this block of ten, then swap. 40-60 hours is ridiculous. I was in my 30s when I learned to drive, incredibly nervous, and it still only took me 40 hours. Ask around for a teacher recommendation.

crochetandshit · 30/05/2025 13:06

Both of mine were driving on the first lesson having been driven approx 5 minutes away to a quieter area. They are 21 and 18 so very recent.

Angrymum22 · 30/05/2025 13:09

I taught my son to drive. Did a bit of research, downloaded a good app to plan lessons and just got on with it. We live next to the village hall with a good sized carpark, so started on there just getting used to controls and steering. Then moved onto roads. Within a couple of weeks he was driving too and from school in rush hour through city traffic. Since this was the main reason for learning to drive I thought the earlier he started practicing this journey the better.

I made him drive every where and after picking him up every night from school we would drive around the city for an hour so he could become familiar with possible test routes. Particularly the area around the test centre.

He took his test after 3 mnths and failed on a simple parking judgement error ( used by the examiners to catch them out) when he pulled up onto a curb on a street where all the cars were parked on the curb. It didn’t help that he parks his car on the curb outside our house ( very rural). He retook the test 2 weeks later and sailed through.

I tried to find an instructor but it was 2022 when there were long waiting lists for both lessons and tests. It might not be for everyone and maybe my job allows me to cope better under the pressure. The one thing I did impress on him was that I would still take him out regularly to continue teaching him. He has done a lot of motorway driving and living rurally he has plenty of daily experience of country roads.

From experience formal lessons are fine but hours behind the wheel are more important. Once they have a few lessons under their belt the more practice they get the more they are likely to experience all scenarios.

One morning on the school run we stopped at temporary traffic lights and the lights just switched off. My son turned to me and asked what to do. It had never happened to me so since we could the road ahead I suggested he treated the road works like parked cars and moved round them when the road ahead was clear.

It certainly allowed me to brush up on my driving skills and saved us a lot of money.
The only accident he has had was with me in the car. He had to stop suddenly when a car in front stopped suddenly. He had left room and avoided hitting the car but unfortunately the car behind us was not paying attention and hit us from behind at speed. Fortunately it didn’t shunt us into the car in front.

The accident just reinforced the need not to tailgate and to pay attention. Also how to deal with an incident calmly and without implicating yourself.

We also made him change a wheel so he knew what to do.

user1476613140 · 30/05/2025 13:28

DS has had 42 lessons so far and still not ready. I reckon another 20 or so and he should be good for the test ( as well as private driving practice).

JaneEyre40 · 30/05/2025 13:36

Candleinalantern · 17/05/2025 15:16

So DD has started her driving lessons, booked a block of 10 lessons. The first lesson she didn’t drive, the instructor just drove around and told her about the car, the second lesson he drove 15 mins away let her drive for 30 mins and then he drove her back.

is this normal? AIBU to expect that she would be driving straight away and at least be driving all of the second lesson?

Manual or automatic?

JaneEyre40 · 30/05/2025 13:37

Candleinalantern · 30/05/2025 09:50

just as an update she’s had her 3rd lesson and again only drove for 30 mins as he drove her 15 mins away to a quiet area. So all in all we’ve paid for 3 lessons now which is 3 hours in total but she has only driven for an hour. He told her the average amount of lessons needed would be 40-60. Now I get all people are different but that seems A LOT to me!

we also live in a really quite area, there are often a lot of learners on the road so can’t understand the need to drive her to a different area.

should also add she has been out in a car before she started her lessons so it’s not like she hasn’t had any experience either.

Edited

Get a new instructor ASAP

VimesandhisCardboardBoots · 30/05/2025 13:55

We found that most places won't do 1hr lessons any more for precisely this reason. They all wanted 2hr lessons round here.

DD spent the first hour of her first lesson stationary, and only spent a bit of time driving in the second hour. The next couple of lessons involved the instructor driving her somewhere and then her driving, but because the lessons were 2 hours long, she was still getting a good 90 mins driving per lesson. By about week 4 she was driving the whole time.

Shade17 · 30/05/2025 13:57

In my first lesson the instructor drove me 10 mins to a quiet housing estate, the next time he drove me was on the way back from the test. I could already drive a car though so my lessons were more about using the road.

cranberryshortcake · 30/05/2025 15:21

Find a new instructor this one’s trying to get away with doubling how long it takes her to learn to drive by only spending half the lesson letting her drive and the other part waffling to pad out the time and take your money.

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