To find beauty treatments a bit cringe now

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For years I've seen the beauty standard rise and rise, do you think we've reached peak?

I don't understand how and why people have the time and money to pay for it all - Botox and fillers are now mainstream, eyebrows now need laminating or tinting, nails are now expensive gels, lashes need extending, blah blah blah, all on top of necessaries like hair cuts / dye.

Now we've kind of peaked & it's got a bit excessive, does anyone else find these looks a bit cringe now? It's not my money or my life, but I can't help but think what a waste of time and money.

I know live and let live but I can't help to take an interest because as a woman I'm a target for these treatments too.

Having been around the industry for a long, long time it’s just that. It is a business and it’s all about selling.
I can remember when boob jobs started taking off (if you see what I mean) and some women got the biggest possible as a status symbol. Looked ridiculous.
The thing is, if you do anything subtly people don’t know. That’s the point. But once you change something ever so slightly, your eyes get used to it, so you think to fix it you need more.
I find the extreme measures troubling. I know women under 40 going for full facelifts. These images of Miley Cyrus… such a naturally pretty girl. Clearly her nose has changed, but it’s these square jaws and fat removed from cheeks I find disturbing.
If you’ve got the money and want to spend on your appearance go for it. But go to a reputable doctor, and go easy.
I don’t bother with any aesthetics although I dabbled a bit in my 30’s. People do ask as they know what I do, but I’ve got to point where I would rather spend on my hair, and good skincare, and nice clothes than lip fillers.
Sometimes I see young girls of 18/19 and their faces look almost aggressive, and I don’t like it.
And don’t get me started on people who go on sunbeds and then use Botox. Katie Price is a shining example of that.

I did an NVQ in Beauty Therapy, at evening classes, years ago and realised how easily you can be well turned out and what works. I hate the drawn on, plastic approach to beauty and all it does is feed insecurities, rarely looking better imo. It's even got so a friend's daughter, slim and pretty, has flown abroad for a breast enlargement and they've sold other invasive cosmetic surgery at the same time and she is 32!! What has been done that women think they need to cut bits off / stick fillers in to themselve, to feel good about themselves! Don't get me started on 11 year olds wanting to buy expensive skincare!

Ha we only said this recently, went to a party of a friends girlfriend, herself and all her friends looked the same, their clothes make up and hair were the same no one had anything different. my husband actually commented how much the same they were, curly hair same style of make up and same style of clothes. I, luckily, realised after that all my friends look and dress different. What suits them and looks fab doesnt suit, some go all out glam and some just like natural, its great - no pressure to do anything

I think the word is cringeworthy not cringe . Cringe is something you do personally, an action.

I tried not to comment but struggled! I’ll get my coat. So you may find it cringeworthy that I posted this, and I may cringe later when I think about this post. Well I won’t but you get the gist. Hmm .

Mother of boys here, I think they are oblivious to it. The natural teenage girls might be less intimidating and more approachable, they never remark on it, slow bloomers.

I think some of it is very useful, it depends on how you use it.

High maintenance for low maintenance is my go to.

So my brows are just tinted and shaped every 6 weeks (lamination isn't good on me - but if it worked it would be another step out of getting ready). And I have my lashes lifted and tinted every 6 weeks.

Since I'm nearly 50 I don't wear foundation and having those 2 things done, means it takes me minutes to get ready and look polished but natural.

I get lots of beauty treatments and had plastic surgery, on a few areas! I think if it makes someone happy why do other people care? I never wear make up though but then I don't really go out anywhere to wear make up and if my DD wasn't happy about something on her body and thought it through I would 100% support her decision. you don't have to have treatments and surgery to look OTT just tweaks so you know it's changed.

Literally nobody has ever thought ‘I’ll get this job if I have bigger eyelashes’

Maybe they…just like them.

This thread is the same as all the Botox-judging threads. Basically almost every poster saying ‘I get x, y, and z done but those are fine and anything more is tacky, cheap, and indictment of the patriarchy 🤷‍♀️ that

Ahhh women-shaming, mumsnet style.

Ever in the spirit, complete with photos 🥰

"How did we manage to grow up without influencers?"

We didn't. Magazines, ads, commercials, and models, TV shows, movies, actors and actresses doing ads for brands for huge paychecks, they just have different names now like brand representative and influencer and social media has been added to the mediums pushing certain looks and consumerism overall.

Gels are bad for the nails. They can cause a lot of health issues. Podiatrists do not approve.

The world has gone mad over nail care.

Dermal fillers can migrate. I have been a few times but am in two minds these days. Too much money and risk.

Shit isn’t it. I hate these threads, they all go the same way. Oh the youth of today, they all look the same, so tacky, Botox is a travesty of the patriarchy, but it’s of course fine that I get my eyebrows/eyelashes/nails done because, well, I just like it.

Could write these myself by now.

People can do what they like with their bodies

but I just find it sad ( and sometimes laughable because to me so much of it looks ugly ) that they feel the need to do so much and spend so much. I do feel that woemn are being manipulated into spending money on pointless stuff because they shouldn’t need to change how they look to feel good about themselves

Has been the case since the beginning of time, we’re hardly in a unique stage of humanity 🤷‍♀️

Yes I think it looks awful and cheap. I don’t find Botox, ridiculously pruned eyebrows or fake lashes attractive at all

That’s how I feel… so much of it is about money. Preying on women’s insecurities to sell them something. The more money spent, the better.

I'm probably older than you, OP, but I don't know a single person who does any of this stuff. The occasional good haircut, and that's it. My friends are intelligent, professional women and they have better things to do than waste their time in salons. Most of us probably look our age but, you know what? That's absolutely fine.

Intelligent women don’t waste their time in salons?! But…they do go to salons for haircuts though. But that’s not a waste of time according to you.

Got it.

I’m an intelligent woman, an author with published books, and I get Botox. Hasn’t gone to my brain yet. Nor am I pathologically judgemental.

I live in the north - I never look the way you describe!

I love my gel nails, that and getting my hair done every six weeks are my ‘things’. Not fussed about the other stuff but I love catching sight of my nails during the day and seeing some nice nail art, it makes me smile. I get mine done every three weeks, and it is 100% just for me!

I’d say that most women I know get maybe a couple of things on the list and that’s it, I don’t really know many who get the whole shebang, but I guess that’s more of a friendship circle thing as you tend to hang out with people who have similar outlooks to you. I don’t see that many people walking around with massive filler lips and caterpillar eyelashes and all that stuff, outside of social media and Love Island.

So I think most people just pick and choose what’s important to them and what makes them feel good about themselves.

I think that's really odd because most of my friends (and colleagues) are also professional intelligent women, with careers and families and hobbies, but the majority of them have something done.

Professionally cut and coloured hair, subtle lash tinting, professionally shaped and tinted brows, a bit of botox, medical grade facials, subtle manicures and pedicures. You wouldn't know it by glancing at them, but I'd say about 80% do something.

Ah, the “pick me” brigade are out in full force, I see.

Must have been climbing the walls without having yet another woman-bashing, judgemental thread to comment on for a few days.

I don’t do any of that stuff, however I’m no slob. I spend a lot of money and time to look as fit, toned, healthy and natural as possible.

It looks terrible!
I can't focus on some of the faces at work.
Weird lips, fillers and some look as though they have had some sort of stroke.
So tacky.
They go to the trouble of all this weird and expensive make up enhancing but won't lose weight. That would make a world of difference in looking good.

People have weird priorities.
How much must all this cost?!
Just save it and buy a decent house.

Ah yes, now we’re shaming fat and poor women too. If they don’t spend £200 on fillers once every 18 months they could afford a decent house 😆😆

The fuck has the house they live in to do with anything, or in fact, with you??