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Employers hell bent on working in the office full time

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NewDayNewLife25 · 06/02/2025 13:41

Anyone else currently job searching and noticed the same thing?

I'm utterly miserable in my current role which is unfortunate as I've been there for 4 years and use to love it, but a new manager has changed things. I've always worked from home.

Anyway, I've been applying for jobs, mainly remote/hybrid working but also a few office based roles. I always state in my cover letter what I'm looking for, and my address is on my CV too.

A few employers have contacted me, saying that I'm perfect for the role, have all the experience/skills that's required and that they think I would make a great addition to the team. But as soon as I've asked about the working set up, that's it, done. They won't entertain it and decline my application.

I just think it's a shame. I know that they probably have plenty of applications, but surely it's more important to hire the right person, with the right skills and experience. Not just because that person happens to live near the office. Half the time they can't even explain why they need the person in the office. Is it control?

I'm fed up already!

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Munnygirl · 08/02/2025 19:37

pointythings · 08/02/2025 19:29

This is typical of a certain kind of person who has overcome adversity and difficulty. Instead of learning empathy, all they end up with is 'well, if I can do it, so can everyone else'. I despair of people, I really do.

I am glad your life has turned out well. All over the there are people who try just as hard, but don't get what you have got. Learn a little humility.

Really??? Unbelievable comment.

YourArtfulPlayer · 08/02/2025 19:38

pointythings · 08/02/2025 19:29

This is typical of a certain kind of person who has overcome adversity and difficulty. Instead of learning empathy, all they end up with is 'well, if I can do it, so can everyone else'. I despair of people, I really do.

I am glad your life has turned out well. All over the there are people who try just as hard, but don't get what you have got. Learn a little humility.

I don’t claim that my experience applies to everyone or that hard work alone guarantees success. I know circumstances can differ massively. That said, I don’t think it’s wrong to share my story and show what is possible.

Acknowledging success doesn’t diminish the struggles of others. I’m not dismissing anyone’s challenges I’m speaking from my own experience.

It’s possible to acknowledge both effort and circumstance without making it a competition or being butt hurt because maybe it hit a nerve.

I despair of people who want to wallow in self pity. My life hasn’t turned out well, it’s not been easy at all, but I’ve just adapted and got on with it. Maybe it’s actually you that needs to learn about empathy.

pointythings · 08/02/2025 19:47

YourArtfulPlayer · 08/02/2025 19:38

I don’t claim that my experience applies to everyone or that hard work alone guarantees success. I know circumstances can differ massively. That said, I don’t think it’s wrong to share my story and show what is possible.

Acknowledging success doesn’t diminish the struggles of others. I’m not dismissing anyone’s challenges I’m speaking from my own experience.

It’s possible to acknowledge both effort and circumstance without making it a competition or being butt hurt because maybe it hit a nerve.

I despair of people who want to wallow in self pity. My life hasn’t turned out well, it’s not been easy at all, but I’ve just adapted and got on with it. Maybe it’s actually you that needs to learn about empathy.

There is a huge, huge difference between not making it and 'not wallowing in self pity'. Your post comes across as incredibly self-congratulatory. Maybe you didn't intend it that way, but it does. It is absolutely unrealistic to think that the support currently in place via Access to Work is enough. It is utterly unrealistic to think that businesses need to up their game and learn flexibility (and that does include hybrid working/WFH) if they want to be genuinely inclusive for people with disabilities and health conditions. It would have been helpful if you had advocated for this instead of dismissing all the people who aren't going to make it like you have with 'well, they're wallowing in self pity and Access to Work is enough'.

BornSandyDevotional · 08/02/2025 19:55

YourArtfulPlayer · 08/02/2025 19:38

I don’t claim that my experience applies to everyone or that hard work alone guarantees success. I know circumstances can differ massively. That said, I don’t think it’s wrong to share my story and show what is possible.

Acknowledging success doesn’t diminish the struggles of others. I’m not dismissing anyone’s challenges I’m speaking from my own experience.

It’s possible to acknowledge both effort and circumstance without making it a competition or being butt hurt because maybe it hit a nerve.

I despair of people who want to wallow in self pity. My life hasn’t turned out well, it’s not been easy at all, but I’ve just adapted and got on with it. Maybe it’s actually you that needs to learn about empathy.

Cool story bro.

YourArtfulPlayer · 08/02/2025 19:56

@pointythings Okay, so what have I had that you haven’t that’s enable me to adapt but you can’t?

YourArtfulPlayer · 08/02/2025 19:56

BornSandyDevotional · 08/02/2025 19:55

Cool story bro.

Thank you 🤩

NattyTurtle59 · 08/02/2025 20:05

Munnygirl · 08/02/2025 11:58

if you daughter in law is unhappy with her job and going into the office she could look for other employment . I think it’s quite ridiculous to say people deserve to wfh if they are good at their job. It is the business need that dictates if staff need to come into the office and not what someone deserves.

I agree. What is it with these entitled people who think the workplace should revolve around them and their wants? If they don't like their current workplace then they need to look for another job. The business paying the wages holds all the cards, it's about time some people realised that (instead of thinking they are so important that they should be able to dictate the terms of their employment).

Munnygirl · 08/02/2025 20:08

pointythings · 08/02/2025 19:47

There is a huge, huge difference between not making it and 'not wallowing in self pity'. Your post comes across as incredibly self-congratulatory. Maybe you didn't intend it that way, but it does. It is absolutely unrealistic to think that the support currently in place via Access to Work is enough. It is utterly unrealistic to think that businesses need to up their game and learn flexibility (and that does include hybrid working/WFH) if they want to be genuinely inclusive for people with disabilities and health conditions. It would have been helpful if you had advocated for this instead of dismissing all the people who aren't going to make it like you have with 'well, they're wallowing in self pity and Access to Work is enough'.

It does not come across “that” way at all

surreygirl1987 · 08/02/2025 20:32

curliegirlie · 08/02/2025 15:59

I think teaching has bigger issues than WFH which make it an unappealing prospect for many...

Those who prefer a fully WFH job probably wouldn't be great in front of a class in any case....

Why wouldn't they? I'm a brilliant teacher but I could definitely do with the benefits of a WFH job! Unrealistic in teaching though (as covid has shown). The lack of WFH opportunities in teaching compared to other sectors is making teaching less attractive though in general.

OldScribbler · 08/02/2025 20:53

SerendipityJane · 08/02/2025 18:39

The UK chronic productivity problem probably needs mention somewhere.

Productivity (I think) is determined to a great degree by how much people enjoy what they do. And that I also think is determined by how much management makes work fun. When my partners and I started a business years ago we tried to make sure everyone had a good time. We used to take everyone out for lunch if it was someone's birthday. Then as the biz got bigger we did it once a month. Our aim was that good people would hear we were a great place to work and want to join us.

jacks11 · 08/02/2025 20:55

I think the factor you may not be accounting for is that there may be more than one applicant with the required skills and experience- I.e. more than one excellent candidate. Unless you are in an incredibly niche field, it is quite possible that this is the case. Even then, you would assume if you were the only suitable candidate available and working in the office was really only a preference (rather than an absolute requirement) that they would compromise, surely? Either that or they aren’t bothered about filling the post?

So, yes, you might very well have the right skillset and experience. But if you can’t meet one of their key criteria (willing to come in to the office as required), then I think you are perhaps not “the perfect candidate” that you believe yourself to be. You are instead a very good candidate, but the prospective employer has to weigh up whether, on balance, your requirement to wfh is outweighed by your other attributes. It is clear that so far, that has not been the case.

I know many people feel working for home is always just as productive and they work just as well. Sometimes that is true, sometimes it really isn’t. I think wfh has been around for long enough now for employers to be able to judge what works best for the organisation as a whole- this may not be the same as what individual employees might prefer. Doesn’t make the employer wrong on every occasion. Not every employer who is not keen on wfh is useless/poor at managing employees etc. If all those organisations preferring not to have wfh/using minimal wfh are wrong, they’ll presumably soon alter their course because of falling profits/losing out to competitors. Or these business will fail.

OldScribbler · 08/02/2025 21:24

Munnygirl · 08/02/2025 19:12

💯

Having re-read what I wrote obviously everything depends on the nature and circumstances of the business. Years later, I now have a very small one, with no office at all. We rarely even meet, but carry on satisfying clients. In fact my PA and I are in the same city but it's a couple of weeks since I saw her.

curliegirlie · 08/02/2025 21:54

surreygirl1987 · 08/02/2025 20:32

Why wouldn't they? I'm a brilliant teacher but I could definitely do with the benefits of a WFH job! Unrealistic in teaching though (as covid has shown). The lack of WFH opportunities in teaching compared to other sectors is making teaching less attractive though in general.

Just to make it clear, I’m completely in favour of WFH/hybrid, where practical, supportive of teachers being allowed to prepare in school time at home, if their timetables allow, and very aware of the huge pressures on those in the profession…I just would have thought there were a great many things higher up on the list of grievances than the ability to WFH! But also realise that greater flexibility could make it easier for mums returning after mat leave etc, so it’s great if that’s being looked into.

NoWordForFluffy · 08/02/2025 22:26

There has been a significant rise in homeworkers claiming an ‘accident at work’ in their own homes. This in turn has bumped the cost of insurances up for having homeworkers. By having employees in the office you have more control and mitigate risk.

Weird, I'm a solicitor who specialises in EL claims and I've seen absolutely no such claims cross my desk, or the desks of my colleagues.

Treesandsheepeverywhere · 08/02/2025 22:49

pointythings · 08/02/2025 19:47

There is a huge, huge difference between not making it and 'not wallowing in self pity'. Your post comes across as incredibly self-congratulatory. Maybe you didn't intend it that way, but it does. It is absolutely unrealistic to think that the support currently in place via Access to Work is enough. It is utterly unrealistic to think that businesses need to up their game and learn flexibility (and that does include hybrid working/WFH) if they want to be genuinely inclusive for people with disabilities and health conditions. It would have been helpful if you had advocated for this instead of dismissing all the people who aren't going to make it like you have with 'well, they're wallowing in self pity and Access to Work is enough'.

Didn't come off that way to me.

Treesandsheepeverywhere · 08/02/2025 22:50

NoWordForFluffy · 08/02/2025 22:26

There has been a significant rise in homeworkers claiming an ‘accident at work’ in their own homes. This in turn has bumped the cost of insurances up for having homeworkers. By having employees in the office you have more control and mitigate risk.

Weird, I'm a solicitor who specialises in EL claims and I've seen absolutely no such claims cross my desk, or the desks of my colleagues.

So because you haven't seen it, you think it doesn't happen?

NoWordForFluffy · 08/02/2025 23:05

Treesandsheepeverywhere · 08/02/2025 22:50

So because you haven't seen it, you think it doesn't happen?

Maybe there are some chancers out there, but I doubt there are many, to be honest. Especially not successful ones, which are the ones which would seriously impact premiums.

ETA: I know exactly which firms would try these claims on though!

mainecooncatonahottinroof · 09/02/2025 00:30

Munnygirl · 08/02/2025 09:45

It’s hardly professional to conduct a Teams meeting from bed

If nobody knows - what difference does it make?!

mainecooncatonahottinroof · 09/02/2025 00:33

YourArtfulPlayer · 08/02/2025 10:57

Who does the employer please, the ones who want to work remotely or the ones who want an office environment.

Surely the want the most productive, skilled and effective employees no matter where their work base is?

The employer can please both and offer flexibility!

mainecooncatonahottinroof · 09/02/2025 00:36

YourArtfulPlayer · 08/02/2025 13:57

‘There is no business need dictating the requirement to be there..’.

There is also no business need for them to let your daughter in law WFH but here we are.

The business need is for the work to be done.

Motivating an employee is pretty crucial to getting that done! A happy employee is more likely to be productive.

What is the logic in requiring someone to undertake 2 hours of commuting when it is not necessary?!

mainecooncatonahottinroof · 09/02/2025 00:43

Munnygirl · 08/02/2025 14:17

You don’t own the business, manage it or work there so you have no idea what what the business need is. Just because YOU think there isn’t a need doesn’t mean you are correct. And so what she has to commute an hour there and an hour back? That is life. We seem to be bringing up a nation of namby pambys who want everything handed to them on a plate with little or not effort.

Oh come off it, someone who works in a business is pretty well placed to understand the business needs. You're not very bright if you don't!

As for "bringing up a nation of namby pambys" - well hardly - I'm in my 60s so I have been kicking around for a long time! I do not want to commute for an hour each way unless it is absolutely necessary. I have done my time! Pre-Covid I would never have dreamt where I would be 5 years later!!!

Five years of our team WFH has proved that we can work every bit as well from home as from the office, if not better.

mainecooncatonahottinroof · 09/02/2025 00:45

jannier · 08/02/2025 15:12

To be honest if you live alone and want to WFH you probably should go to the office for your health....having a nephew who has been housebound for 12 years being forced to go out has really helped his mental health.

Other activities other than work are available.

mainecooncatonahottinroof · 09/02/2025 00:48

jannier · 08/02/2025 15:16

But we know not all put in the effort at home. They are also not there to contribute in the same way on things that happen around them such as I've got this come in has anyone ideas....instead it's either plan a meeting for sometime later of work out something that not be the best solution yourself. Staff training is also pretty shit.

Not all put in the effort in the office either!!

And as I said upthread, my experience is that our team is based over several locations in any case, so we have never have the F2F interactions other employees might experience.

mainecooncatonahottinroof · 09/02/2025 00:49

YourArtfulPlayer · 08/02/2025 15:37

You mean the NHS that’s broken and government funded.

What does that have to do with the fact that they are able to manage flexibility for managers?

mainecooncatonahottinroof · 09/02/2025 00:50

Munnygirl · 08/02/2025 16:07

And? It is not for you what you think is best for that business. It's is your opinion and that is all. You’d be far better telling your daughter /daughter in law to just get in it or look for another job which fits their need.

Or expect her employer to honour the contract they made with her.