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Why are there so many overweight and obese British women?

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EvaHara · 06/05/2024 16:48

Genuine post and I promise I am not a weight troll. Recently I was on a cruise and couldn't help but notice that many other British women onboard - especially younger women - were considerably overweight or obese. Some were in fact huge and easily as big as some women I saw in the US when there a few years ago.

What has caused this rise in overweight people, particularly younger women? I don't remember there being this many overweight/obese people even 10 years ago.

I am not judging, just curious.

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GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 06/05/2024 18:45

Jeannne92 · 06/05/2024 18:31

I have noticed on MN that French women tend to be revered for not being overweight and other clichés. I am French and live in France, I grew up, studied and worked in England mostly until I was 24, and have lived for a long time in Spain as an adult, and my friends are English, French and Spanish. Here are some things I have noticed (one person's experience and opinion!)

  1. Women in England tend to do more of the childcare and mental load than in France where men are more expected to do their share e.g. more dads at school events, more mums with proper careers (as childcare better organised here). So mothers don't have less time than fathers to exercise, if they wish.
  1. In England, food is marketed as a treat or reward, especially to women, and that simply doesn't happen here: food is marketed as delicious or good quality. If you tell your French friend you have period pain, she will say to go to the doctor or pharmacy or to take a painkiller or do an exercise to stretch it out or maybe have a shower and a lie down; in England you have 100g of Dairy Milk and a bottle of Pinot Grigio (yes this is a horrid cliché).
  1. In France, friends and family and maybe even neighbours or work colleagues will tell you bluntly and factually when you put on or lose weight or other physical changes that are health-related. This is with an expectation that you care about your health, and they care about you so they care about your health too. It is not yet/traditionally a body positive society.
  1. It is an expectation that you respect yourself and those around you and take a pride in your appearance. Men and women do not wear leggings or joggers unless they are exercising or doing something that requires this type of clothes. To walk the dog or nip out for bread, you wear, for example, jeans, and clean, ironed clothes without holes in and polished shoes.

5a. The people I know all go on some sort of beach holiday every year or elsewhere where you would wear a bikini every day in front of others (e.g. country house or campsite with pool, or in the mountains or somewhere with a lake or river), usually to extended family. Of course, not everyone in France wants to or can do this, but I'd say it's more common than in U.K. So after eating your 13 desserts at Christmas and your kings' pastry cake in January, you know in the back of your mind that the bikini is coming... Therefore... you pay attention BUT

5b. French 'dieting' is having soup 2 or 3 times a week for a month, having 1 piece of bread and a smaller piece of cheese with and after lunch and dinner, and having fruit for dessert after lunch and dinner, having a smaller slice of buttered and jammed baguette or just half a croissant for your weekend breakfast, and doing this for a month to 'pay attention'. But still eating delicious things and enjoying them: diet is not a punishment.

Some other observations:
In England there is much more junk food readily available and it is often cheaper than in France and Spain. It is also more accepted to eat in the street, on public transport, at your desk at work, and to snack. A lot. Anywhere. Whereas in France we tend to just eat at mealtimes, 3 times a day, perhaps with something for a goûter around 5pm (but this snack is more for children). However we eat a proper meal that fills us up and is delicious, and we eat at a table with cutlery and a napkin. However, McDonald's is more popular here than in U.K. Certainly we have UPF but I feel that there is more of an emphasis on home-cooking and quality of ingredients. For example, you can't get the wide range of ready meals like in M&S in the UK and the ones there are here aren't good and are really expensive. When you don't want to cook, you can go to a traiteur and get home-cooked food made by someone else, with fresh, quality ingredients.
French people tend to be less fussy eaters than English.
In France, food is not a reward.
I think English people and perhaps particularly women (hormonal?) have an emotional relationship with food. In France we have it with cigarettes and vapes!

Sorry, I have jumbled up England and U.K. all over this post.

And of course there are fat people, anorexics, etc. in France like any other country.

This is really interesting. And whilst i know a lot of this already I have bookmarked it as it is a good way to live.

Jeannne92 · 06/05/2024 18:47

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 06/05/2024 18:45

This is really interesting. And whilst i know a lot of this already I have bookmarked it as it is a good way to live.

I could go into more detail but I doubt anyone wants that!

LadyKenya · 06/05/2024 18:47

OneTC · 06/05/2024 16:55

It is not the governments fault that people are fat

It is partly their fault actually. They set certain standards of food that are allowed to be sold to us, the public. And have sat back while our food has been meddled with to such a degree, that so much of the "food" is actually harming us. Of course there are ways around eating so much of this rubbish food, but it is more expensive, and would actually involve cooking.

Slalomsfathoms · 06/05/2024 18:48

Generally, a lot of the modern British diet is pretty shit. Watch or listen to the diary of a ceo about the Japanese lifestyle and diet for example. From school age it’s instilled in the culture. Some cancers are linked to some of the foods we regularly consume in England. Obesity costs the NHS and the UK tax payer millions. It does not make sense

Mistymountain · 06/05/2024 18:49

I've noticed this with groups of 20 year olds, obviously on a night out in a University town. The young women tend to be plump and on the heavy side, while the young men seem the thinner. It's very different to when I was a student, I was considered the heavy one, but I'd be sylph like compared to todays students.

KateMiskin · 06/05/2024 18:50

Zero food culture and no idea how to cook veggies or lentils.

soupfiend · 06/05/2024 18:51

I think we are too americanised and we're becoming more and more like them in many ways and less 'european' and it will get worse.

Investinmyself · 06/05/2024 18:51

It will be party demographics. So type of people likely to cruise more likely to be overweight as draws of a cruise are all you can eat food, less walking. If you were on a walking holiday it’s a different demographic.
Smoking is out of fashion. It used to be used as an appetite suppressant by women.
Alcohol - women in past didn’t drink as much, high calorie drinks like frappes, cheap carbs, lack of exercise in daily life so cars not walking, household appliances not physical housework.

crostini · 06/05/2024 18:52

British supermarkets are incredible.... the choice of not just junk food but treat food is unmatched. And you don't have to go to several little independent shops to get it like in Europe. It's all just there whilst your shopping for bread and milk.

Also takeaway culture, it's more normal now to get takeaway every week than it's ever been. I'm relatively young and I remember when it used to be a treat. Now people are getting slices of cake delivered to them on a whim! In the UK you can have whatever you want, Whenever you want and there's not a strong culture around food to dictate that it's inappropriate.

WestwardHo1 · 06/05/2024 18:53

The fact that some posters are treating this flippantly is depressing.

It's deadly serious.

SallyWD · 06/05/2024 18:54

Mistymountain · 06/05/2024 18:49

I've noticed this with groups of 20 year olds, obviously on a night out in a University town. The young women tend to be plump and on the heavy side, while the young men seem the thinner. It's very different to when I was a student, I was considered the heavy one, but I'd be sylph like compared to todays students.

My mum mentioned this recently. When she was young (60s and 70s) everyone was skinny. Some women got a little "stout" (her word) post-menopause but the vast majority of young women were very slim. Now I often see young women out with their mums and the mums are a more healthy weight but the daughters are obese. I think things have gone wrong in recent decades. Many young people, in particular, have awful diets.

TheMarzipanDildo · 06/05/2024 18:54

Investinmyself · 06/05/2024 18:51

It will be party demographics. So type of people likely to cruise more likely to be overweight as draws of a cruise are all you can eat food, less walking. If you were on a walking holiday it’s a different demographic.
Smoking is out of fashion. It used to be used as an appetite suppressant by women.
Alcohol - women in past didn’t drink as much, high calorie drinks like frappes, cheap carbs, lack of exercise in daily life so cars not walking, household appliances not physical housework.

This.

You’re on a cruise OP!

Mybewgremli · 06/05/2024 18:55

soupfiend · 06/05/2024 18:43

I read all of this with a French accent and I do like your numbering system

A lot of what you say is true.

France still has 50% of the adult population being overweight or obese.

MNetters seem to imagine the country is primarily populated by slim people and it just isn't.

The US and UK lead in weight problems and obesity but France has a lot of it too. At least 50% are not slim people wafting around being slim and stylish.

It's a MN/British myth based on people going on holiday and employing cognitive bias.

Same as all the French kids who are so beautifully behaved, eat 'adult food' and none have any possible ND needs and they sit quietly for hours in the evening eating steak and not getting out of their seats till their parents take them to bed at 10/11pm.

SuziQuinto · 06/05/2024 18:55

SiriAlexa · 06/05/2024 16:52

It must be diet related- processed food becoming normalised rather than cooking from scratch and plenty of vegetables with meals. It is the same in my city, more than half the women seem to be obese.

I was also shocked lately when I visited a Sainsbury’s in a more run down part of my city- junk food was mixed into every aisle and it seemed like sweets and crisps were everywhere. In the Sainsbury’s across the city which is a wealthier area, the junk food has its own dedicated area. It really made me angry as obviously they are pushing more unhealthy food in a less affluent area.

So Sainsbury's have a conspiracy to make poorer people overweight?

YesIDidMeanToBeRudeFucko · 06/05/2024 18:57

WestwardHo1 · 06/05/2024 18:53

The fact that some posters are treating this flippantly is depressing.

It's deadly serious.

It's deadly serious how we've lost sight of how other peoples bodies are none of our concern.

LadyKenya · 06/05/2024 18:57

I have neighbours who are in their mid to late 20s. At least 3 times since Thursday night iirc, they have had pizza delivered, and other takeaways. That seems to be normal for them. People do not even need to make the effort to go and get food like that, anymore.

Chaoseverywhere · 06/05/2024 18:59

For me the answer is overeating due to previous poverty. Also greed but I think it’s linked to trauma.

Jeannne92 · 06/05/2024 18:59

Added to all of the very true factors mentioned in the previous posts by so many users, I feel that the cost of living, the wars, the depressing behaviour of the U.K. government and its effect on NHS, schools, social care, etc., the dog whistle lowest common denominator media, the rise of the far right, worries about climate change, social media fakeness are pretty bleak and a bag of crisps or a chocolate bar or a Coke or a cake or some microwaveable nachos are a quick, affordable treat. People got used to staying at home during COVID, but even before that (e.g. cinemas closing and everyone getting Netflix), and delivery services boomed, so did eating as a past-time or comfort (as well as drinking alcohol).

Yes, you can get up and go for a walk in the park for free or put on a dance video or go for a run but it takes willpower and perhaps that's harder than ever to find.

Storynanny1 · 06/05/2024 18:59

There was a steadily increase of obese/overweight people in the uk before working from home so I’m a bit sceptical about that being the reason.
Life is different now than when it was in the 80’s. Life in the 80’s when I had my children was different to my life growing up in the 50’s and 60’s. My parents life was different growing up during the war than their parents and so on.
I agree with a lot of the changes mentioned
eg snacking, larger ( much larger) portions, fast/delivered food, high white carbs, more reliance on cars, all adults in the home working as opposed to one being at home doing the food prep. And the manual labour in the house and at work has changed. For instance my mums day was housework and laundry ( mangle!) and walking to the shops to buy food in the morning, gardening, more household jobs and preparing food in the afternoon. We were never offered food between meals.
In the 80’s my children never had endless snacks between meals maybe a biscuit or 2 with a drink mid morning. We walked everywhere or went on our bikes as we only had one car which whoever was at work used. We never ate in a cafe as money was very tight- I always took a homemade picnic out which was considered our treat!
I would also add that food didn’t seem a big thing in my childhood, we had breakfast, dinner and tea and never anything in between. My mother was astonished once when we walked past the beach cafe at 2 pm and it was full of people eating
” what ever meal can they possibly be eating at 2pm” she said.
Cake, biscuits, sweets etc were a once a week treat and a “ fairy” cake with a bit of icing on the top was about a quarter of the size of a muffin today. When I made a batch of 24 fairy cakes for mine in the 80’s, a small cupful of buttercream was enough for a little blob on each one - the shop bought muffin/cupcakes of today have about that amount on just one!
I wonder also if there is an increase of more advances medication which has more side effects affecting weight than in previous generations?
I’ve definitely found it easy to put on weight in the last 10/15 years as my eating habits have moved with the times! Ie I eat between meals, we often have our meals at irregular times, eat out more, have more takeaways, larger portions and use the car more than I should.
One more thing!
Lycra! As soon as stretch was added to clothing there was less construction in clothing, which in the past reminded people that weight was creeping on.
Im not being critical, These are just my observations over the years. Food is so lovely!

Welovecrumpets · 06/05/2024 19:00

I’ve noticed women become overweight earlier, and the men catch up by the age of 40/50. There are a lot of fat teen girls around here, but just a handful of fat teen boys. By middle age they seem to be overweight in equal numbers.

As for why, it’s food, the wrong food and too much of it. American eating habits have made their way over here and we have a lot of corn syrup, oils, flavourings and sweeteners added to our food. Junk food is cheap and to many parents food equals love - I see loads of fat kids being ushered into the corner shop after school to buy an ice cream or Mars bar. We have takeaways on every corner, and there’s no shame around being a bit overweight any more so less incentive to do anything about it. Most women are a size 14/16, it’s seen as normal and even ‘healthy’ because we’ve got so used to it being slim looks scrawny.

I’ve spent a lot of time in France and Spain and the eating culture is totally different. Much less cheap junk for sale, food is held in higher regard and they’ll put time into making something from scratch rather than just slinging frozen food into the oven. They focus on quality rather than quantity and food is more expensive so you buy what you need and not an extra 10 items to ‘dip into’ as snacks. In fact snacking is far less of a ‘thing’, here it’s seen as shocking if you don’t ply your kids with snacks every 2 hours.

I think something is going wrong with women’s hormones as well to be honest, I’m not sure if it’s caused by being overweight or the reverse but women seem to be so oddly shaped now. Like inverted triangles with narrow hips, closely set legs and wide shoulders. They don’t seem to have that hourglass shape they used to. And lots of PCOS, endometriosis and so on about.

TheMarzipanDildo · 06/05/2024 19:02

Giraffesandbottoms · 06/05/2024 17:36

Posters saying “poverty”
are being disingenuous. The poverty in this country is very much first world poverty. True poverty is literally no money for food. We have free education here, everyone has access to the internet and can learn about healthier options. Everyone could be living a healthy lifestyle for less money. A tin of beans is substantially cheaper than a takeaway.

it’s just not as tasty. That’s the reality.

I would argue that first world poverty is way more likely to make you fat than third world poverty.

The long and short of it is that poverty is depressing, which makes people turn to comfort foods when they are available.

somethingisnotquiteright · 06/05/2024 19:02

leaflywren · 06/05/2024 16:51

poverty, culture, not having time or money to make decent food, bad weather (harder to go out and do fun stuff outside), ubiquity of UPF

On a cruise?

Computercalendar · 06/05/2024 19:03

-increase in mental health problems
-trauma

I'm obese and I comfort eat

Welovecrumpets · 06/05/2024 19:03

Computercalendar · 06/05/2024 19:03

-increase in mental health problems
-trauma

I'm obese and I comfort eat

People weren’t traumatised in the past..?

SleepingStandingUp · 06/05/2024 19:03

I assume much like threads about children's behaviour, it's because we're not as good as the "Europeans"

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