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Why are there so many overweight and obese British women?

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EvaHara · 06/05/2024 16:48

Genuine post and I promise I am not a weight troll. Recently I was on a cruise and couldn't help but notice that many other British women onboard - especially younger women - were considerably overweight or obese. Some were in fact huge and easily as big as some women I saw in the US when there a few years ago.

What has caused this rise in overweight people, particularly younger women? I don't remember there being this many overweight/obese people even 10 years ago.

I am not judging, just curious.

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notwavingbutdrowning1 · 06/05/2024 20:10

I haven't RTFT, so this point has probably been made but I think there's a serious drinking culture amongst some women - especially young women - which didn't exist before.

Obesity is connected to poverty - chips are cheaper than salad - but unlikely to be the issue for women on a cruise.

SuziQuinto · 06/05/2024 20:10

Teateaandmoretea · 06/05/2024 20:06

Are you for real?

The German diet of processed meat 😂😂

I mean to be fair ime it wasn’t tha lt appetising and have an effect on average bmi but it’s UPfs all the way.

Dear god, I struggled to get anything vegetarian, they looked at me like I was barmy and I couldn't find a salad! There were huge amounts of processed sausage and loads of heavy puddings like strudels (which I loved!). Always full fat milk in the coffee.
Also, I am not being rude when I say that a lot of Germans are overweight.

Goldenbear · 06/05/2024 20:11

choixduroi · 06/05/2024 20:04

I live in Germany and when I come home to the UK I am literally salivating around Waitrose and m&S, unable to believe the sheer amount of unhealthy and well thought out UPF. Like it used to be millionaire shortbread, last visit I saw something like a Trillionaire Shortbread Muffin. Or Vimto expanding into a range of sweets shaped like fried eggs with a vimto in the middle. There are just so many yummy junky things that are unavailable in Germany, where although you do see overweight women, a lot my age (mid 40s) are amazingly stringy looking and honestly they do eat small portions of quite boring food and a tiny yoghurt or whatever. They just do not try out a salted caramel Malteser or whatever. So I 100% think it's related to what food is out there. If you think about our grandparents generation, they would have a small chop and some miserable looking vegetables, and they simply didn't snack, they would continually drink tea and maybe have a digestive biscuit. I think if I lived back in the UK I would either weigh more or be miserable trying to avoid all the yummy UPF.

I’m not surprised you said Marks food hall as a majority of their food appears to be about not cooking or eating sweet stuff but Waitrose I don’t think this is the market their aiming for, maybe this is regional but I go their for discounted healthy stuff as they are the most likely to offer discounts on healthy stuff particularly organic food. If I want more junk style food for teenage son and friends, Tesco is the cheapest. If you want fairly cheap fruit and veg I find Sainsburys pretty good.

Soggywelly · 06/05/2024 20:12

choixduroi · 06/05/2024 20:04

I live in Germany and when I come home to the UK I am literally salivating around Waitrose and m&S, unable to believe the sheer amount of unhealthy and well thought out UPF. Like it used to be millionaire shortbread, last visit I saw something like a Trillionaire Shortbread Muffin. Or Vimto expanding into a range of sweets shaped like fried eggs with a vimto in the middle. There are just so many yummy junky things that are unavailable in Germany, where although you do see overweight women, a lot my age (mid 40s) are amazingly stringy looking and honestly they do eat small portions of quite boring food and a tiny yoghurt or whatever. They just do not try out a salted caramel Malteser or whatever. So I 100% think it's related to what food is out there. If you think about our grandparents generation, they would have a small chop and some miserable looking vegetables, and they simply didn't snack, they would continually drink tea and maybe have a digestive biscuit. I think if I lived back in the UK I would either weigh more or be miserable trying to avoid all the yummy UPF.

I agree, people in the UK have no idea what mastery of food they have.

UK traditional food and UK processed food are both so good!

It is so easy to resist temptation elsewhere because the local cuisine is nowhere near as nice.

Sweden99 · 06/05/2024 20:12

OneTC · 06/05/2024 16:55

It is not the governments fault that people are fat

Not solely.
And the Government is merely a product of the society.
Humans are animals and if zoo keepers set up a their animals in an environment where they grew this overweight, we would consider them terrible zoo keepers rather than blame the animals. Individuals of all species behave differently, but the zoo keepers are still responsible.
We are our own zoo keepers. We should be able to design a society that makes people healthy. If I can be day dreaming I would love to see:

  • Remove social stigma for being fat. The stigma makes the problem worse.
  • Ensure sport is less elitist. When we go for a walk, we do not care how well we do it, it is just nice to do. I wish it was the same with running, yoga, boxing and dancing.
  • Remove stigma about not being able to cook. Women in Scandinavia who cannot cook say so. It is not a big deal, it also makes learning to cook less of a big deal.
  • Culinary society. We do not have it and when we do it is often elitist and makes things worse. A well made cheddar cheese sandwich can be a joy.
DramaLlamaBangBang · 06/05/2024 20:12

Teateaandmoretea · 06/05/2024 20:06

Are you for real?

The German diet of processed meat 😂😂

I mean to be fair ime it wasn’t tha lt appetising and have an effect on average bmi but it’s UPfs all the way.

I would say the processed meats are processed, but not ultra processed - ie they are made from actual food, and ws something Germansxwere eating 50 years ago. Not that great to eat all the time, but it's the chemicals in UPF that is triggering obesity. That's the main change.

katepilar · 06/05/2024 20:13

Too much food, too much processed food, eating too often, eating too late at night, too much sugar, not enough physical activity, bad sleeping patterns.

SuziQuinto · 06/05/2024 20:13

DramaLlamaBangBang · 06/05/2024 20:12

I would say the processed meats are processed, but not ultra processed - ie they are made from actual food, and ws something Germansxwere eating 50 years ago. Not that great to eat all the time, but it's the chemicals in UPF that is triggering obesity. That's the main change.

They have loads of processed food in their supermarkets.

FcukTheDay · 06/05/2024 20:14

Oldernotwiser44 · 06/05/2024 20:05

Sugar addiction…. Isn’t it 20x more addictive than opiates?

It is. I have been trying to get clean for years but have fallen off the wagon yet again. Damn Dairy Milk Smore Caramel Nut Crunch, damn it to hell 🤣

Leah5678 · 06/05/2024 20:15

Jeannne92 · 06/05/2024 18:31

I have noticed on MN that French women tend to be revered for not being overweight and other clichés. I am French and live in France, I grew up, studied and worked in England mostly until I was 24, and have lived for a long time in Spain as an adult, and my friends are English, French and Spanish. Here are some things I have noticed (one person's experience and opinion!)

  1. Women in England tend to do more of the childcare and mental load than in France where men are more expected to do their share e.g. more dads at school events, more mums with proper careers (as childcare better organised here). So mothers don't have less time than fathers to exercise, if they wish.
  1. In England, food is marketed as a treat or reward, especially to women, and that simply doesn't happen here: food is marketed as delicious or good quality. If you tell your French friend you have period pain, she will say to go to the doctor or pharmacy or to take a painkiller or do an exercise to stretch it out or maybe have a shower and a lie down; in England you have 100g of Dairy Milk and a bottle of Pinot Grigio (yes this is a horrid cliché).
  1. In France, friends and family and maybe even neighbours or work colleagues will tell you bluntly and factually when you put on or lose weight or other physical changes that are health-related. This is with an expectation that you care about your health, and they care about you so they care about your health too. It is not yet/traditionally a body positive society.
  1. It is an expectation that you respect yourself and those around you and take a pride in your appearance. Men and women do not wear leggings or joggers unless they are exercising or doing something that requires this type of clothes. To walk the dog or nip out for bread, you wear, for example, jeans, and clean, ironed clothes without holes in and polished shoes.

5a. The people I know all go on some sort of beach holiday every year or elsewhere where you would wear a bikini every day in front of others (e.g. country house or campsite with pool, or in the mountains or somewhere with a lake or river), usually to extended family. Of course, not everyone in France wants to or can do this, but I'd say it's more common than in U.K. So after eating your 13 desserts at Christmas and your kings' pastry cake in January, you know in the back of your mind that the bikini is coming... Therefore... you pay attention BUT

5b. French 'dieting' is having soup 2 or 3 times a week for a month, having 1 piece of bread and a smaller piece of cheese with and after lunch and dinner, and having fruit for dessert after lunch and dinner, having a smaller slice of buttered and jammed baguette or just half a croissant for your weekend breakfast, and doing this for a month to 'pay attention'. But still eating delicious things and enjoying them: diet is not a punishment.

Some other observations:
In England there is much more junk food readily available and it is often cheaper than in France and Spain. It is also more accepted to eat in the street, on public transport, at your desk at work, and to snack. A lot. Anywhere. Whereas in France we tend to just eat at mealtimes, 3 times a day, perhaps with something for a goûter around 5pm (but this snack is more for children). However we eat a proper meal that fills us up and is delicious, and we eat at a table with cutlery and a napkin. However, McDonald's is more popular here than in U.K. Certainly we have UPF but I feel that there is more of an emphasis on home-cooking and quality of ingredients. For example, you can't get the wide range of ready meals like in M&S in the UK and the ones there are here aren't good and are really expensive. When you don't want to cook, you can go to a traiteur and get home-cooked food made by someone else, with fresh, quality ingredients.
French people tend to be less fussy eaters than English.
In France, food is not a reward.
I think English people and perhaps particularly women (hormonal?) have an emotional relationship with food. In France we have it with cigarettes and vapes!

Sorry, I have jumbled up England and U.K. all over this post.

And of course there are fat people, anorexics, etc. in France like any other country.

Yeah I've noticed this Tbf in English speaking countries it's considered really rude to mention someone's weight. I was shocked I gained like dead ass only about 7 pounds and an Indian guy at my work who I hadn't seen for a while told me to my face I was starting to get fat 😂 it was a wake up call to be fair

VerlynWebbe · 06/05/2024 20:15

Booze culture has changed in my lifetime (I'm in my 50s) and we all drink a lot more.
Food has changed beyond all recognition, the availability of cheap snacks and fatty foods is astonishing compared to when I was a kid.
Instead of getting shit done, we are glued to our phones 90% of our leisure time.
The weather is shit and in combination with having phones in our hands, it's so much easier to not exercise.
We are far unhappier which makes initiating exercise harder.

However I don't really see why there should be a gender difference there. IME there isn't, anyway, we are just a much fatter nation (ps I am fat).

KimberleyClark · 06/05/2024 20:16

Definitely something wrong with my hormones - thyroid hormone to be exact.

choixduroi · 06/05/2024 20:16

@SuziQuinto there is junk food here of course, but it doesn't look that yummy to me. It's all stuff like a family sized bag of paprika chips or the saddest chocolate of all time (apart from the cornflake one), Ritter Sport. They also don't really have chocolate as a 'grabbable' portion you eat all at once, so things like a meal deal in the UK where you get a small packet of crisps and a small chocolate bar, doesn't really happen. It doesn't feel like there is the same level of food innovation like the UK, where they keep developing new tempting stuff. Maybe it's just nostalgia when I come back that makes it seem like people are eating more crap in the UK - and I'm one of them for however long I'm here! @Teateaandmoretea , I do agree with you about them loving their processed meat, but I feel like they've eaten that since time immemorial. Trying to put my finger on what it is that is different, I feel like there are fewer younger people overweight in Germany, and that there are more stringy healthy looking middle aged women in Germany, and that is rarer here for it to start so young. This is not statistical or anything, it's just what I see going round the fairly biggish city and suburbs where I live.

Willmafrockfit · 06/05/2024 20:19

iamtheblcksheep · 06/05/2024 20:09

Pure Laziness

Cant be bothered to cook, go to the butcher because you can’t park your car at the door, cut up fresh vegetables and stand over an oven

Too much booze

Too much time stabbing our fat fingers at our phones.

I do feel sorry for the poorer members of society. Fresh food isn’t cheap but there’s still no excuse to be glaring at the tv when you can be outside.

ii can categorically say i do not have fat fingers

WhiteLily1 · 06/05/2024 20:19

mitogoshi · 06/05/2024 17:00

@IDoNotConsentToAstonResearch

Unless you want to live in a country that is dictatorial, it's not the government's fault that we use our free will to purchase foods that aren't good for us/too much food. The government has put rules in place where appropriate but seriously, this is down to us, people like me. I'm not fat due to the government, I'm fat because I eat too much and like beer (on weekends I should add, i don't drink that much) oh and i don't do any enough exercise

It’s goes far deeper and more sinister than that.
What if foods were being pushed on the population to line someone else’s pockets? Being made deliberately addictive by adding stuff. By bringing the price right down so it’s easy to keep on buying. By increasing the price of healthier food stuffs to make those more inaccessible.
Then offer out a token ‘sugar tax’ to make it look like something is being done.

Calamitycassie · 06/05/2024 20:20

Essentially, not moving enough and eating too much. That’s the bread and butter of it - pun intended.

also think the desire to be “thick” now and “body positivity” has a lot to do with it. People will be fat and call themselves thick or curvy

AddictedToBooks · 06/05/2024 20:21

In my personal case, it's a combination of being careless when I was young and slim and eating/drinking what I wanted, when I wanted because I was fit and exercised a lot - then suddenly I began gaining weight and no matter what I did, it didn't come off and I was diagnosed with a severely underactive thyroid plus a brain tumour and then I got more and more illnesses including a blood cancer which thankfully I'm in remission from and also degenerative cervical stenosis which means my mobility has lessened dramatically and I'm currently at the heaviest I've ever been and don't like to go out at all because I feel so disgusted with how I look.

Josette77 · 06/05/2024 20:22

I live in Canada and we have a growing obesity problem as well.

I think it's so multifaceted but I will say we live in a world of instant gratification. Amazon arrives the next day. Every food craving we have can be satisfied especially things with sugar that are addicting.

I think being hungry at points during the day used to be seen as normal. Now when kids or adults are hungry they eat. Food is everywhere and shitty food is cheap food and that's what we crave. Most people don't crave celery which is cheaper than a chocolate bar but doesn't satisfy a craving.

I think food has become therapy and comfort. Much like reality TV. It's a dopamine hit. A quick and easy one.

I think shopping, eating, social media, porn, all of it is connected in ways through instant feel good brain chemicals.

I made a list in my bedroom of healthy things to do when I'm stressed because I gravitate towards those quick hits.

It's harder to convince myself to workout, do yoga, clean, sing, make art when I'm stressed. I have this framed in my wall because otherwise I'll continue to feed unhealthy habits. And no, the list doesn't always work. Lol

Youdontevengohere · 06/05/2024 20:22

When I lived in France, I (and all of my French student friends) lived on baguettes, chocolate, cheese, red wine and cigarettes. We may have been thin, but healthy we were not.

Garlicnaan · 06/05/2024 20:22

Male obesity is a growing problem in the UK, with 67% of men in the UK overweight or obese, compared with 62% of women.

Wow that's really shocking. That's a huge percentage.

And must be part of the problem. I remember reading about how people tend to put weight on around bigger people and lose weight among slimmer, unconsciously, if those are the people they spend a lot of time with.

WFH and cheap, moreish UPFs have definitely contributed to me putting weight on.

eggplant16 · 06/05/2024 20:22

scoff a pizza and worry?

Garlicnaan · 06/05/2024 20:23

Josette77 · 06/05/2024 20:22

I live in Canada and we have a growing obesity problem as well.

I think it's so multifaceted but I will say we live in a world of instant gratification. Amazon arrives the next day. Every food craving we have can be satisfied especially things with sugar that are addicting.

I think being hungry at points during the day used to be seen as normal. Now when kids or adults are hungry they eat. Food is everywhere and shitty food is cheap food and that's what we crave. Most people don't crave celery which is cheaper than a chocolate bar but doesn't satisfy a craving.

I think food has become therapy and comfort. Much like reality TV. It's a dopamine hit. A quick and easy one.

I think shopping, eating, social media, porn, all of it is connected in ways through instant feel good brain chemicals.

I made a list in my bedroom of healthy things to do when I'm stressed because I gravitate towards those quick hits.

It's harder to convince myself to workout, do yoga, clean, sing, make art when I'm stressed. I have this framed in my wall because otherwise I'll continue to feed unhealthy habits. And no, the list doesn't always work. Lol

Edited

This is an excellent post

Sweden99 · 06/05/2024 20:23

SuziQuinto · 06/05/2024 20:13

They have loads of processed food in their supermarkets.

Writing from Denmark, I would say most men can cook a basic meal from scratch, like in the UK. I think it is the case that almost every woman can, whereas that would be substantially less.
Netiher Denmark, UK nor Germany are big culinary nations.

Frances0911 · 06/05/2024 20:26

I expect it's because cruises are usually all inclusive, so they can stuff their faces to their hearts content at no extra cost.

To be honest, it's probably a good idea. I once went on holiday with an obese friend, and the biggest mistake was that we didn't go all inclusive, as all she wanted to do was eat, and split the split the bill equally. Cost me a fortune, and I really felt taken advantage of. We don't speak now.

Sweden99 · 06/05/2024 20:27

An addition to that, Proctor and Gamble had figures on this and the UK was the nation in Europe that eats the most ready-meals.
I can see a difference in the marketing.
In Denmark the ad is "Are you a sad pathetic lonely man who cannot look after himself? Have a ready meal"
In the UK it seems to be "Are you a high achieving professional career woman who is far too sophisticated for boring food? Have a ready meal"

I do not want to exaggerate, I am pretty sure the most common meal eaten for tea in this Danish town is pre-made pizza. But it is less extreme.

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