I appreciate everyone is different, but I don’t know if I’m overreacting.
my DH and I have been having some issues since Oct/Nov time. we have 2 children and I just feel as though we have very different approaches to things. I don’t feel like we have any meaningful conversations anymore without him either trying to shut me down of being sarcastic. I also feel like he can be selfish and quite ‘tunnel vision’ in that he doesn’t really see the mental load I carry. BUT, he does A LOT around the house, is always tidying up after the kids and always wants to be around for family time etc.
I just feel like we have no affection. Everything feels forced and, quite frankly, I feel like I would be better off on my own right now.
I told him last night I think I’m depressed as I don’t know if I want to continue this marriage. Instead of just saying, “talk to me”, he seemed to just talk at me about how he thinks I’m feeling and what he thinks will resolve it.
i just feel so upset that he’s responded like that. But maybe I’m just being too sensitive.
AIBU?
If you told your DH you thought you were depressed because of your unhappy marriage, how would you expect them to respond?
Cantshakeit10 · 17/04/2024 09:18
Cantshakeit10 · 17/04/2024 09:24
@Dacadactyl I just don't think he understands why I’m feeling this way. He sees everything in isolation. Doesn’t consider the issues we had 2 weeks ago / 1 month ago relevant as they are in the past. But it’s a build up of things for me, and I’m struggling to move past them.
thank you, I will try your suggested approach.
Cantshakeit10 · 17/04/2024 09:25
@ThreeEggOmlette ive suggested counselling on a number of occasions. He’s not prepared to do it, and said last night “when will we find the time”.
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Cantshakeit10 · 17/04/2024 09:42
@Humanunkind thank you.
no, he doesn’t go out. But everything is a choice for him. Entitled probably wasn’t the right word, more unappreciative of what I do.
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