to not give a S**t when my child is born

[beaniesteve]

I am not pregnant but I am trying. If I have a Christmas baby, or a spring baby or a summer baby - I really don't care. I just want to become a parent.

A friend of mine has said for years 'oh I do hope you have a summer baby, that way you'll get all the summer off and it will be so much better'

I don't care! If I have to have a newborn in the middle of a long wet winter... I don't care! It is not remotely important when I have my baby! I just wish she would shut up about it. When I tell her I really don't care' she says 'oh but you will when you're stuck indoors with a small baby and can't go out anywhere'!!!!

[Belgianchocolates]

A bit late, but sige, I read it the same too. Only when I read the OP I realised she was talking about the time of year.
I have 2 winter babies 1 of which was due on x-mas day. Both were aimed for sept-oct as dp wanted our dc's to be the eldest at school [rolling eyes emoticon]. I supose he has learnt his lesson now and now were just trying, with no date in mind. Though far away from nov-dec would be nice as my 2dc's have no festivities for months and then everything, all presents, fall into 1 month, expensive and not so nice for them as they often get 2 small presents or 1 big for the 2 occasions.
As a mw I can say that sept-oct is a very busy time at work!
I would also hate to be due aug-sept because of the summer heat while heavily preg!
But really it doesn't matter all that much as long as baby comes and is healthy, the time of year is only a minor detail.

[beaniesteve]

"Oh and was I the only person to read the thread title in horror thinking the OP meant she wouldn't give a shit when her baby was born as in she wouldn't want it (Sidge was a bit all confused...) "



AS if! ha ha!

Sarahjct - was it just the weather which made you miserable or do you think it was hormonal compounded by the environment?

[Sarahjct]

Oh definitely hormonal beanie, but the weather made it so much worse (artificial light all day, stifling heating, visitors I hated, no fresh air, sitting on my arse a lot etc). I can't be the only new mother who thinks their darling LO will dissolve if a single raindrop falls on their wee head... I'm juuuust about getting over that now, sort of.

And for the record, I also thought the OP was being a bit cavalier about her new arrival!

[beaniesteve]

Lol - A bit Cavalier?

I guess I have no idea what it is like to become a mum, and I am prepared to be completely shocked to my core by any arrival but I guess the attitude of my friend just irritates me because I really would like to get pregnant and I'm not about to wait until August (Deliberately) just because she thinks it is better

[Squirdle]

I obviously didn't do any planning as DS3 was born on DS2's 2nd birthday, a week before Christmas! DS1's birthday is the beginning of January as is DH's. It is hectic, but it doesn't matter.

Of course it doesn't matter when your baby is born or what sex it is, all that matters is that he/she is healthy.

Having said that, if I ever were to have another (not that I am planning on having one) I would probably try to avoid it being born around December/January

[spugs]

i never started ttc with an idea of when i wanted baby to be born, just when it felt right to start trying. i ve got one whos birthdays early march, this one whos due at the end of march and dd2 whos birthday is the end of april. its a lovely time of year to have a baby but ive put no planning into the whole thing. i dont see the problem with people doing it though, my friend planned which month she wanted to get pregnant in so that it would work out with the summer holidays (shes a teacher) and luckily it worked for her first time. but i do think that people commenting about the time of year your babies born eg, auguast babies struggling at school very unreasonable

[beaniesteve]

Hhrrrmmmphhh.

Someone in my family announced they were pregnant recently. Last night my mum called me to 'check you are ok' and then said (I think to make me feel better) 'At least you won't be having to carry a baby all though summer'

FFS - which numpty decided this was an acceptable thing to say to make a person feel better ?

[easterbunbuns]

FFS people should be just glad they have a baby. Who gives a toss when its actually born? Some of the thickest people i know were September/october babies and some of the richest most intelligent people i know were born in August - it really does not matter life is what you make it not when you were born. What exactly is so wrong with a Christmas baby? - never did Jesus any harm (tee hee!)