At what age did you learn to not take crap from anyone?

[Alwaysmyfaults]

I’m late 20s mum to 3. Just gone back into the corporate world after many years of being a SAHM.

absolutely love my job but my god some people are dreadful and talk to me like shite.

I don’t want them to think I’m just going to nod my head and say yes and be polite like I always am. I am naturally a quiet person and hate confrontation but I can’t carry on like this because I know people will just take the mick.

I made a small error earlier, the person that picked up my email slagged me off to someone else but the other person replied to me instead.

I have to talk to these people everyday but don’t want to cause a fuss but feel like I should say something.

Is it an age thing or is it a confidence thing when you stop taking crap of people? I know the woman I want to be but I don’t know how to be her.

I’ll let you know when it happens. 😅

When I realised that the stress and anger I felt from not standing up for myself was worse than the discomfort and embarrassment I felt about doing it. Also, I can recommend the menopause for ensuring that you really don’t care what anyone else thinks of you. Finally, having a disabled child on whose behalf I sometimes need to be very direct with schools etc.

It is difficult to throw off the conditioning to be ‘nice’ etc but I didn’t want to feel angry at myself and ruminate on incidents anymore. Also, when someone else’s well-being, dignity and happiness depends on you standing up for them then that is a strong driver to get past the uncomfortable feelings. I am never rude but I am assertive and direct.