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What would you think if you saw this on your DH's phone?

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Franciscaa · 12/10/2022 18:05

My DH messaged a woman on WhatsApp asking about a job. It's a woman he used to work with a few years ago. She's 8 years younger than us.

I know I shouldn't have looked but I knew something was up. She replied telling him about the job (in a polite and professional way) and he then asked her another question. She didn't reply so he sent her loads of question marks and "well?" and "..." about 15 in a row.

He then said "are you teasing me?"

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1FootInTheRave · 12/10/2022 18:06

What was the other question he asked?

He is completely unprofessional.

Hannahbabnaa · 12/10/2022 18:07

Eight he sounds needy, attention seeking and rude!

And VERY unprofessional. How embarrassing

Hannahbabnaa · 12/10/2022 18:08

Eight should be ergh

My predictive text is getting worse!

AnApparitionQuipped · 12/10/2022 18:08

I'd think he'd texted his way out of getting that job!

HaveYouSeenNancy · 12/10/2022 18:09

He's hounding her op, I wouldn't like to think I was married to someone like that. Would he have done the same to an ex colleague if it was a man?

OnTheBrinkOfChange · 12/10/2022 18:09

Well that's one job he won't get! He seems like a real dick.

Franciscaa · 12/10/2022 18:09

The other question was just related to the job. I don't want to say as it would be outing, but it wasn't anything weird. Along the lines of "is Jack still the UK manager?"

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CheesusWept · 12/10/2022 18:10

I’d think he was being an absolute creep.


Hannahbabnaa · 12/10/2022 18:10

Wasn't it Terry Pratchett who said

"Multiple exclamation marks are a sure sign of a diseased mind”

I'm sure it's the same for question marks 😊

TheLightSideOfTheMoon · 12/10/2022 18:10

I’d think he wasn’t getting the job.

DogsDryWineAndCheese · 12/10/2022 18:11

What I’d THINK would be that something had happened between them previously and that he was using the job as an excuse to try and engage her in conversation and that she wasn’t interested.

However, what is logical is that he’s just grossly unprofessional. No new job for him!

jackstini · 12/10/2022 18:12

It would make me think this isn't the only time he's been in touch with her since a few years ago
Very familiar tone

Or he's just clueless & very unprofessional

Franciscaa · 12/10/2022 18:15

Yes they have definitely spoken before. He used to talk about her quite a bit as she's senior to him and apparently she had helped him out a lot. I didn't think anything of it at the time.

However now I feel like something has happened and he's trying to "reignite" it. And she's not interested but he's making himself look like an idiot. And me.

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Wilkolampshade · 12/10/2022 18:17

I'd think she's totally uninterested in him sexually and now, professionally.
15 questions, in that format, is frankly stalkerish. I'd be blocking him.

Icecreamandapplepie · 12/10/2022 18:24

Sounds like something happened between them in the past tbh, as well as what everyone else has said

girlmom21 · 12/10/2022 18:29

He sounds like a self absorbed knob.

MsBombastic555 · 12/10/2022 18:35

I know it shouldn't have but for some reason this made me laugh 😂😂

Personally this wouldn't bother me OP (I think) but obviously you know more about the context. Perhaps he was quite good colleagues with this person and they used to have office banter back in the day. If this is an isolated incident I wouldn't worry x

pinkyredrose · 12/10/2022 18:39

Franciscaa · 12/10/2022 18:09

The other question was just related to the job. I don't want to say as it would be outing, but it wasn't anything weird. Along the lines of "is Jack still the UK manager?"

How on earth would it be outing?

Anyway have you just realised you're in a relationship with an arsehole or have you known for a while?

MsBombastic555 · 12/10/2022 18:40

Now I've had a bit more info I've become a bit less accepting 🤔 hmmm. It's a head scratcher, what was the time in between texting again?

MrsTimRiggins · 12/10/2022 18:53

id think he was an embarrassing beg who had shot any and all chances of getting that job.

saleorbouy · 12/10/2022 19:00

I'd think he'd be lucky to get an interview let alone the job with a professional attitude like that!

TempyBrennan · 12/10/2022 19:07

It sounds like he’s looking for an excuse to open a conversation, and that he’s a bit of a forceful dick if people don’t listen to him instantly or he doesn’t get his own way.


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TwoWrightFeet · 12/10/2022 19:10

Your husband is a prick.

Pixiedust1234 · 12/10/2022 19:12

Well he's just lost that job. Probably any job where that woman works. Does he have the emotional maturity of a 13yr old usually? Can't he comprehend that maybe she was driving or in a meeting or idk ..working?

Honestly OP, it would give me the ick

Timeforredwine · 12/10/2022 19:16

Agree with all above posters, plain weird and wants to open up a conversation.

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