What would you think if you saw this on your DH's phone?

[Franciscaa]

My DH messaged a woman on WhatsApp asking about a job. It's a woman he used to work with a few years ago. She's 8 years younger than us.

I know I shouldn't have looked but I knew something was up. She replied telling him about the job (in a polite and professional way) and he then asked her another question. She didn't reply so he sent her loads of question marks and "well?" and "..." about 15 in a row.

He then said "are you teasing me?"

[1FootInTheRave]

What was the other question he asked?

He is completely unprofessional.

[Hannahbabnaa]

Eight he sounds needy, attention seeking and rude!

And VERY unprofessional. How embarrassing

[Hannahbabnaa]

Eight should be ergh

My predictive text is getting worse!

[AnApparitionQuipped]

I'd think he'd texted his way out of getting that job!

[HaveYouSeenNancy]

He's hounding her op, I wouldn't like to think I was married to someone like that. Would he have done the same to an ex colleague if it was a man?

[OnTheBrinkOfChange]

Well that's one job he won't get! He seems like a real dick.

[Franciscaa]

The other question was just related to the job. I don't want to say as it would be outing, but it wasn't anything weird. Along the lines of "is Jack still the UK manager?"

[CheesusWept]

I’d think he was being an absolute creep.

Yuck.

[Hannahbabnaa]

Wasn't it Terry Pratchett who said

"Multiple exclamation marks are a sure sign of a diseased mind”

I'm sure it's the same for question marks 😊

[TheLightSideOfTheMoon]

I’d think he wasn’t getting the job.

[DogsDryWineAndCheese]

What I’d THINK would be that something had happened between them previously and that he was using the job as an excuse to try and engage her in conversation and that she wasn’t interested.

However, what is logical is that he’s just grossly unprofessional. No new job for him!

[jackstini]

It would make me think this isn't the only time he's been in touch with her since a few years ago
Very familiar tone

Or he's just clueless & very unprofessional

[Franciscaa]

Yes they have definitely spoken before. He used to talk about her quite a bit as she's senior to him and apparently she had helped him out a lot. I didn't think anything of it at the time.

However now I feel like something has happened and he's trying to "reignite" it. And she's not interested but he's making himself look like an idiot. And me.

[Wilkolampshade]

I'd think she's totally uninterested in him sexually and now, professionally.
15 questions, in that format, is frankly stalkerish. I'd be blocking him.

[Icecreamandapplepie]

Sounds like something happened between them in the past tbh, as well as what everyone else has said

[girlmom21]

He sounds like a self absorbed knob.

[MsBombastic555]

I know it shouldn't have but for some reason this made me laugh 😂😂

Personally this wouldn't bother me OP (I think) but obviously you know more about the context. Perhaps he was quite good colleagues with this person and they used to have office banter back in the day. If this is an isolated incident I wouldn't worry x

[pinkyredrose]

@Franciscaa

The other question was just related to the job. I don't want to say as it would be outing, but it wasn't anything weird. Along the lines of "is Jack still the UK manager?"

How on earth would it be outing?

Anyway have you just realised you're in a relationship with an arsehole or have you known for a while?

[MsBombastic555]

Now I've had a bit more info I've become a bit less accepting 🤔 hmmm. It's a head scratcher, what was the time in between texting again?

[MrsTimRiggins]

id think he was an embarrassing beg who had shot any and all chances of getting that job.

[saleorbouy]

I'd think he'd be lucky to get an interview let alone the job with a professional attitude like that!

[TempyBrennan]

It sounds like he’s looking for an excuse to open a conversation, and that he’s a bit of a forceful dick if people don’t listen to him instantly or he doesn’t get his own way.

[TwoWrightFeet]

Your husband is a prick.

[Pixiedust1234]

Well he's just lost that job. Probably any job where that woman works. Does he have the emotional maturity of a 13yr old usually? Can't he comprehend that maybe she was driving or in a meeting or idk ..working?

Honestly OP, it would give me the ick

[Timeforredwine]

Agree with all above posters, plain weird and wants to open up a conversation.