Not looking for a bun fight. Just trying to sort out my thinking. Anyone with any of their own insight that they'd be willing to share?
AIBU?
Is anyone the parent of a child with asd and not seeking a diagnosis?
coodawoodashooda · 01/10/2022 13:37
Moonshine5 · 01/10/2022 14:10
We live in a free country, as parents we decide. Why should people be forced to be labelled either way? And I say this with no vested interest. No judgement, only support.
Thatboymum · 01/10/2022 13:49
I have one with diagnosed adhd who is medicated and I actively sought that support but also have another who school referred to camhs as they believed he was autistic and camhs after 2 appts confirmed they agreed but couldn’t diagnose and asked me if I wanted him referred further and explained it’s a huge wait list and I said no . My reasons for that is because he’s high functioning and extremely mild, has amazing school support and I don’t feel he needs additional input or a label as for him it would change nothing However his younger brother desperately needed support and input so I got it
Gysophilla · 01/10/2022 15:02
I agree OP. In between the nhs diagnosis and subsequent revision, DD was labelled autistic as a slur by some very mean children (so she now sees it as an insult), and some parents told me they wouldn’t have her over as they “didn’t know how to handle” autistic children. I was the subject of a lot of gossip. Absolutely awful.
Punxsutawney · 01/10/2022 15:10
he’s high functioning and extremely mild.
'Mild' will be the way you and others experience his difficulties.
eyeteevee · 01/10/2022 13:46
It's an utter disgrace that refusing a medical assessment is even an option.
Miffee · 01/10/2022 15:18
I went back and forth and ultimately started the process twice only to disengage both times.
They're 18 now and doing really well. They had a lot of protective factors primarily because of their personality, family and interests.
It was a risk benefit analysis for for me and it was razor thin. The primary risk for not getting one was although they didn't need support now they may need it in future and it would be much harder to get. I lived (and still live to a lesser extent) in fear I made the wrong choice. I have spoken to them directly about it and they are happy without it at the moment.
Another thing to mention is that, although in retrospect it was glaringly obvious, I didn't see it until they were 11. Once I did I was amazed I was so oblivious. The school tried to get them on the pathway when they were in infants but I thought they were mad.
Currently I feel I made the right choice but I cannot say for sure. I wouldn't offer advice. I think it is top dependent on a number of things.
Not getting a diagnosis seemed to work out well for my child but that is due to a very specific set of circumstances.
Obviously because they don't have a diagnosis I cannot say for sure they have ASD.....but they do... nobody I have spoken to about it has ever raised a doubt. They're fairly textbook.
Mummummummumyyyyy · 01/10/2022 15:18
We live in a free society thankfully.
eyeteevee · 01/10/2022 13:46
It's an utter disgrace that refusing a medical assessment is even an option.
coodawoodashooda · 01/10/2022 15:19
What became obvious at 11?
Miffee · 01/10/2022 15:18
I went back and forth and ultimately started the process twice only to disengage both times.
They're 18 now and doing really well. They had a lot of protective factors primarily because of their personality, family and interests.
It was a risk benefit analysis for for me and it was razor thin. The primary risk for not getting one was although they didn't need support now they may need it in future and it would be much harder to get. I lived (and still live to a lesser extent) in fear I made the wrong choice. I have spoken to them directly about it and they are happy without it at the moment.
Another thing to mention is that, although in retrospect it was glaringly obvious, I didn't see it until they were 11. Once I did I was amazed I was so oblivious. The school tried to get them on the pathway when they were in infants but I thought they were mad.
Currently I feel I made the right choice but I cannot say for sure. I wouldn't offer advice. I think it is top dependent on a number of things.
Not getting a diagnosis seemed to work out well for my child but that is due to a very specific set of circumstances.
Obviously because they don't have a diagnosis I cannot say for sure they have ASD.....but they do... nobody I have spoken to about it has ever raised a doubt. They're fairly textbook.
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orbitalcrisis · 01/10/2022 15:21
This whole thing of not 'labelling' a child is ridiculous, humans label everything, it's how language evolved! We all know that what you mean is you don't want an undesirable label attached to your child. Your ablism will not help them come to terms with their autism in the future.
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