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it's daft to think parents with kids in private school have money to burn?

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Popgoestheweaselagain · 29/09/2022 13:04

Just got asked by my school what would be the impact if they had to pay VAT, adding 20% to fees. My response was 'I'd try to keep my child in the school, but ....'. I think almost all parents would respond this way. Alarmed, did a quick google, and found this is Labour policy. Next time they come knocking at my door looking for my vote, I'll be telling them why they can't have it!

Now, I understand why some people are ideologically opposed to private schools, the unfariness etc. But when I hear this argument that goes something like 'Those people must have loads of money because they send their kids to private school' it kind of annoys me. Money is finite. If you've spent all your money on school fees, you obviously don't have it anymore!

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absolutelyanythingwilldo · 29/09/2022 16:41

TwoWrightFeet · 29/09/2022 16:39

If you can’t afford it, you can’t afford it. Get over it and yourself then move on. Hardly the fault of anyone else if you’ve overstretched yourself financially.

I’m sure it’s all your Labour candidate will be thinking about once you tell them your views 😁

Oh, I genuinely though you were addressing the people who think private schools are unfair until your last sentence.

Shamoo · 29/09/2022 16:42

People are mad if they genuinely think that moving a load of wealthy kids into the state school system is going to do anything other than drive the standard of state schools up. If all rich people had to send their kids to state school they wouldn’t be so accepting of all of the cuts that keep being made to state schools.

I am very much in the higher pay category - I get significantly less free childcare hours than most, no child benefit, no tax free allowance, and I pay a lot of tax. I’m still outrageously lucky. There is no part of me whatsoever that thinks that I should get what is effectively a subsidy if I choose to send my kid to private school. That is an ultimate luxury, and should be taxed accordingly!

Have they finally lifted VAT on tampons?! If we’ve had to fight for that for all these years, I’m stunned people are arguing that private schools should be VAT exempt 😂

MondayYogurt · 29/09/2022 16:43

Is the state system ready for a large influx of ex-private students?

fluffinsalad · 29/09/2022 16:43

MaybeIWillFuckOffThen · 29/09/2022 16:38

So what is a poor parent to do who also "have fair reason to believe that the state options available to them aren’t going to adequately meet their child’s educational needs or their need for enough hours of childcare"? Or are they less worthy because their parents are less well off?

I'm past the point of putting every fucker else in front of me and my kids.

I got kicked out of school at 15 for being pregnant. Life was really shit for a long time before I sorted my own shit out. I now have two kids in private school as my husband and I started off our own businesses.

I am sick of being made too feel guilty about other people who dont have what I have even though I bloody worked really hard for it.

LuffleGro · 29/09/2022 16:43

Testina · 29/09/2022 13:18

It’s business VAT should be payable.
i would be in favour of a longer notice period of rises than is usual though, because of the moral implication of children having to leave a school.

Yes, I think that is fair. It could be phased in somehow. Also, schools could have the option of becoming state schools with the children staying on.

waffless · 29/09/2022 16:44

Really rich people will send their kids to Switzerland or other countries. The ones who can’t afford it will go to state schools. Keep me posted.

neverbeenskiing · 29/09/2022 16:45

fluffinsalad · 29/09/2022 16:38

This policy will make sure I don't vote labour in the GE. Honest to god that party HATES anyone that does well for themselves.

Taxation does not equal hatred. It is also very strange to assume that "anyone who does well for themselves" sends their DC to private school.

ShandaLear · 29/09/2022 16:45

If you can afford £20k a year for your kid’s education you can afford another £4k. Private schools are businesses, not charities. Of course they should be paying VAT. It’s bizarre that they’re not.

LuffleGro · 29/09/2022 16:46

Dorisbonson · 29/09/2022 13:20

I send my son to a private school. It saves the state about £6k a year that it would otherwise have to spend on his education. I'm not clear why I should pay VAT on top of saving the taxpayers £6k per year already?

You would always have the choice of not paying at all.

MaybeIWillFuckOffThen · 29/09/2022 16:46

fluffinsalad · 29/09/2022 16:43

I'm past the point of putting every fucker else in front of me and my kids.

I got kicked out of school at 15 for being pregnant. Life was really shit for a long time before I sorted my own shit out. I now have two kids in private school as my husband and I started off our own businesses.

I am sick of being made too feel guilty about other people who dont have what I have even though I bloody worked really hard for it.

Your implication is that those who don't have what you have didn't work as hard as you by definition. Do you really believe that? That it is as simple as effort in = money out in this country?

Caplin · 29/09/2022 16:47

I agree with you that not all private school parents have money to burn. Our catchment primary is awful, so we went private and with fees rising at between 5-7% a year it is fairly crippling. Quite a few parents really stretched themselves, needed help from parents and limited themselves to one child to afford it. Loads of parents were loaded though and did have money to burn!

However, our high school is better so we pulled the eldest out and the youngest finishes up primary in just over a year....can't wait!!! We could afford it with big sacrifices, but frankly it benefits aren't worth the sacrifice.

I'm not actually keen on private as a concept (I know that makes me a typical middle class hypocrite), I can see it gives huge opportunities in music, sport etc. But it grated on me, the attitude of some of the parents and kids. My kids became quite bratty and ungrateful, which was quickly shaken out of my eldest at high school and she realised how flipping lucky and privileged she is. She is a much kinder person as a result.

So basically you are unreasonable to say you wouldn't vote Labour just for that reason.

ARoyalSubject · 29/09/2022 16:47

If your children are in a private school, of course you're not going to like this policy. It's a bit chunk extra to find.

If your children aren't in private school, because there is no way you could afford it, you're going to think it is fair enough that tax should be paid on what is undeniably a luxury. The revenue could go into ordinary state schools who really do need every penny they can get their hands on.

I guess they would argue that they do charitable work in giving out bursaries to children who couldn't otherwise afford it. But unless it's a buy one place, fund one place kind of arrangement, then I'm not sure this argument is really viable.

TwoWrightFeet · 29/09/2022 16:47

absolutelyanythingwilldo · 29/09/2022 16:41

Oh, I genuinely though you were addressing the people who think private schools are unfair until your last sentence.

Good for you!

absolutelyanythingwilldo · 29/09/2022 16:47

LuffleGro · 29/09/2022 16:46

You would always have the choice of not paying at all.

But that doesn't negate the fact that the state has not had to pay for it. It's a monetary saving for the tax payer which some people still manage to frame as a subsidy.

ClocksGoingBackwards · 29/09/2022 16:48

If everyone took their children out of private school and into a state school it would be wonderful. The current buildings could be opened up as state schools with a local catchment.

Only if the government was prepared to pay out to buy the buildings and fully staff them. The schools we already have aren’t fully staffed and they struggle to recruit so I’m not so sure that would work

All those rich parents could instead contribute to state school fundraising events. Their obvious investment and involvement in their children’s education would aid state schools to improve facilities greatly.

If they stayed in the country after such a ridiculous injustice against them, they’d move to areas that already have state schools with supportive parents paying to prop them up. There would be no effect on the schools on deprived areas that need the extra investment the most. And maybe they’d put the money they save into extra curricular activities and extra tuition and childcare instead of giving it to the school they’ve been forced into using.

NCforsafety · 29/09/2022 16:48

robertpaulson · 29/09/2022 13:14

'Rich' people pay huge amounts of income tax. Some of this is for a place in state school that they don't use.

Childless people also pay a lot of tax including for the education of everyone else's children.
I don't want my tax burden to increase but nor do I want to support a state that feels it can ignore poverty whilst increasing the wealth of the rich. If that includes VAT on private education then so be it.

Nocutenamesleft · 29/09/2022 16:49

jeaux90 · 29/09/2022 15:04

Bullshit. I pay a lot less than that and I'm just a single/lone parent with a decent job.

My kid is ND so I had no choice, state schools are crap for kids who aren't NT.

Why is it bullshit?!? You know where I live? You know which schools cost what where I am?!?

gatehouseoffleet · 29/09/2022 16:49

cloutneerbeout · 29/09/2022 13:08

So? That's your choice. It's a luxury, not a right. Private schools are businesses and they should pay VAT.

Exactly this. And the argument they take kids out of the state system and save it money doesn't wash, either.

Although I have a bigger problem with the unfairness of state funded faith schools

neverbeenskiing · 29/09/2022 16:50

If they stayed in the country after such a ridiculous injustice against them

I think "injustice" is a bit strong. VAT isn't a form of oppression.

Nocutenamesleft · 29/09/2022 16:51

jeaux90 · 29/09/2022 15:04

Bullshit. I pay a lot less than that and I'm just a single/lone parent with a decent job.

My kid is ND so I had no choice, state schools are crap for kids who aren't NT.

Also. It’s not the only choice. My child is also ND. We also gave up with state. I hone educate and pay privately for tutors and what I would of paid again IN MY AREA!!! For private. I pay on tutors per month. It’s been the best thing I ever did

absolutelyanythingwilldo · 29/09/2022 16:51

gatehouseoffleet · 29/09/2022 16:49

Exactly this. And the argument they take kids out of the state system and save it money doesn't wash, either.

Although I have a bigger problem with the unfairness of state funded faith schools

You can't just say it doesn't wash. Why is that argument wrong?

SmallSoupcon · 29/09/2022 16:51

The private school system perpetuates massive inequality with its closed shop. It's no coincidence that the tiny percentage of privileged people who go through this system have disproportionate success in politics, the arts, sports and business. If VAT increases redress the balance, bring it on I say.

SerendipityJane · 29/09/2022 16:53

VAT isn't a form of oppression.

There are swathes of the country for whom paying tax - any tax - is equivalent to worshipping Satan and all his little minions.

ArabellaScott · 29/09/2022 16:54

PatchworkElmer · 29/09/2022 13:13

I’m struggling to see why education is a ‘luxury’. Genuinely.

Education is provided by the state. Choosing to pay for private education is a luxury.

Whichwhatnow · 29/09/2022 16:54

Testina · 29/09/2022 13:18

It’s business VAT should be payable.
i would be in favour of a longer notice period of rises than is usual though, because of the moral implication of children having to leave a school.

I agree. I really do believe private schools should be taxed but you have to consider the needs of the kids who may be forced to leave due to the increase. Maybe two academic years' notice so that kids entering their exam years can complete them.

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